Guest guest Posted October 29, 2000 Report Share Posted October 29, 2000 same here joya.. my son is now 17 when he was kyles age nothing in the world could make him do something he didnt want to do . he was grounded lost TV privlidges.. lost his nintendo . if he didnt want to do his school work he just would not do it he was hurt and angry and frustrated but he kept it all inside and my punishing him made it worse.. and he was not able to talk to me about how he felt.. i thought my words fell on deaf ears but he really took everything to heart and felt helpless... now that he is in high school he has a whole different attitude.. as a matter of fact his middle school principal told me he was " drop out " material. hes now in 11 grade and an honor roll student. i said to him one time that he has trouble in school because of his ADD and he said mom,, i out grew that .. he is totally responsible . .well behaved and well liked by his teachers.. whenever they have a project they need help with they always send for my son.. so hang in there . these are trying times but he will get thru them boys have a hard time puting their feelings into words. i dont know if kyle will be able to talk to you about what he is feeling but sometimes its best to let the school work go rather that totally destroy the childs self esteem my son failed 7th grade but went to summer school. when he saw all the sacrifices i had to make to get him thru that summer, he woke up and said mom, not to many parents would do that for their kids.. he seemed to turn the corner with that experience. catherine Re: My Week > I hope things work out with . Is he depressed maybe? He sounds a lot > like my youngest and I soon found out that suspending privileges just made > him more rebellious...thank goodness he is now 17 and has gotten over that > awful stage. > > Joya > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2000 Report Share Posted October 30, 2000 - can be the same as . Work just looks overwhelming to him! It can be a battle to do 5 minutes of homework, and it will take him an hour. He's still in Third Grade, though - homework is pretty minimal.... Tough days are ahead! I don't know about depression (although the Pediatrician thinks might have it) - I think it's more of a " passive rebellion " for some of these boys. They're definitely a pleasure to have around, except when it comes to doing homework. For a friend of mine, the solution came in the form of homeschooling. Then he could do it on his own terms, he could see the value in the classes, and from then on, it was all A's.... Did ya ever wonder if raising German Shepherds might be easier???? Terri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2000 Report Share Posted October 30, 2000 Thanks for your input - and it gives me hope that this will turn around with . He is well liked by his teachers and his friends at school and he does the work fine there (from what I have heard so far) - but as for doing things at home he is just so rebellious with us and doing this school work is not for our benefit its for his. I think he sees it as something WE are making him do - but all we are doing is trying to help out with something he has to do. How can we allow him not to do it??? What lesson does that teach him?? (that if he doesn't do his work its all right?) I don't want to battle with him over this but as I said - I don't know what to do to get through to him that this is for his benefit and that the teacher's expect this work to be done - he says he doesn't care because he hates to do work. (and yes I know he does care because there are times when he would get so upset when he felt he was going to get in trouble at school for not having things done - that isn't working this time). I'm hoping his teachers can give me some suggestions today :-) These 2 younger boys are so different when it comes to doing school work - just sits and does his and even offers to help (since its French Immersion) but just sits and refuses to do it at all. Ohhh me ohhh my Take Care G. 230/211/130 Sept/2000 ICQ #349692 Home Page - http://www.brunnet.net/k & l You can't change the direction of the wind, But you can adjust your sails. Owner of Atkins Challengers mailing list - to join go to - http://www.onelist.com/subscribe/AtkinsChallengers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2000 Report Share Posted October 30, 2000 Trust me, working with dogs is the same as working with kids. My son has his own service dog and I am here to tell you I now have three boys! My husband, my son, his dog!!! becky Re: kyle linda joya - can be the same as . Work just looks overwhelming to him! It can be a battle to do 5 minutes of homework, and it will take him an hour. He's still in Third Grade, though - homework is pretty minimal.... Tough days are ahead! I don't know about depression (although the Pediatrician thinks might have it) - I think it's more of a " passive rebellion " for some of these boys. They're definitely a pleasure to have around, except when it comes to doing homework. For a friend of mine, the solution came in the form of homeschooling. Then he could do it on his own terms, he could see the value in the classes, and from then on, it was all A's.... Did ya ever wonder if raising German Shepherds might be easier???? Terri Please visit our homepage at http://members.xoom.com/AChallengers You will find information, recipes, before and after pictures. To contact the list owner please send mail to lindag@... Visit our 2000 Train Tour Site - http://www.brunnet.net/k & l/web_site_train_tour/actraintour.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2000 Report Share Posted October 30, 2000 Dear .. no you dont tell him its ok that he dosent do the work . you tell him it his his responsibility and the consequences are his.. failing for one.. being humilated in class for another.. you cant make yourself sick trying to force him and fight with him . he knows he has to do the work.. if he doesnt do it he will pay a price at school as well as at home.. my son was punished for his bad report cards by being grounded or losing privledges . he was reminded to do the work, he was offered help. but at that point if he didnt do it then it was on him .. trust me the teachers came down on him and the other kids as well.. and failing was the only thing that really finally got the message thru to him . like you said at home it was a war of wills with us.. . i just said oh well if you dont do it you will pay the price and he did.. i never told him it was ok not to do his work .. i just said . did you do your homework.. and if you need help your sister or myself or a friend will be happy to help you.. just ask.. and at that point it became his responsibility.. my son seems to work better when he takes things on his own than when i nag him.. same thing with chores. he works better with a list of chores than with me asking him twenty times to take the garbage out hang in there catherine Re: kyle linda joya > Thanks for your input - and it gives me hope that > this will turn around with . > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2000 Report Share Posted October 30, 2000 > They're definitely a pleasure to have around, except when it comes to doing > homework. Amen to that!!!! > For a friend of mine, the solution came in the form of > homeschooling. Then he could do it on his own terms, he could see the value > in the classes, and from then on, it was all A's.... I couldn't do homeschooling - I just don't know enough to do that plus is in French Immersion and I can't even speak the language LOL > > Did ya ever wonder if raising German Shepherds might be easier???? Ok - what is easier - raising boys, german shepherds or HUSBANDS???? LOLOLOL Take Care G. 230/211/130 Sept/2000 ICQ #349692 Home Page - http://www.brunnet.net/k & l You can't change the direction of the wind, But you can adjust your sails. Owner of Atkins Challengers mailing list - to join go to - http://www.onelist.com/subscribe/AtkinsChallengers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 30, 2000 Report Share Posted October 30, 2000 HI Becky Glad to hear from you. How much weight do you want to lose? Some of us found that the lower we kept are carbs the better we lost . The best way is to introduce carbs slowly to see what your body can absorb ad still lose. Norma Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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