Guest guest Posted November 8, 2002 Report Share Posted November 8, 2002 , She digest food just like normal it just harder for her to keep weight on. Because her anatomy is not normal I guess she does absorb some fat in her stomach/esophagus but as you know nothing is normal. Talk to you soon Sandy & kirsten Franz Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2009 Report Share Posted January 11, 2009 I just wanted to say how thankful I am to have found this group and that I absolutely LOVE the term nada and will be using it from now on! I started my own therapy last spring when my nada told me that I am the product of a 10 year affair that she had with her boss. I am 35. My dad that raised me has no clue about this and neither does anyone else in my family. Just me, my mom, and 2 of her closest friends. That news put me in a tailspin and when I started to talk about my nada to my therapist he suggested I look into BPD online. Low and behold. There was my nada. The situation that I am going through right now is that I became separated from my husband last June for a number of reasons, and will be divorcing this spring. My nada has taken this news terribly and she never liked my ex to start out with. I was worried about how the holidays were going to be with her seeing I was going to be spending a lot of time at my parent's house, and for the most part, things were ok until she called me last Sunday. It was a typical conversation...everything was fine.. then out of the blue she started in about my pending divorce. My ex and I are still very good friends... we are just VERY different people with different dreams. So, anyway, it was one thing after another. How I am the one that keeps her up at night and how my friends told me to divorce my husband and how he was the one that made me marry him in the first place. Just a bunch of accusations about how I have no backbone and have no way of making decisions for myself. I read the post about the girl in the airport and I just totally saw ME in that. I was trying to remain calm duing her rant and I was doing a good job until she wouldn't stop. I explained everything that she needed to know about my separation in June and feel like I do not need to keep on explaining myself to her. So, after about 15 minutes of her laying into me I just had enough and my tone changed and I hung up on her. Probably not the best thing to do, but I'm still trying to learn how to deal with her and how to respond when she goes on these rants. She hasn't called me all week and I haven't called her either. Normally, we will talk at least for a little bit every other day or so. I dont want to call her because I'm afraid of the pending argument but I also know that I should call because, on top of being BPD, she suffers from a chronic disease called sarcoidosis and is homebound and very sick. Not sure if this post is warranting any advice, but thanks for reading and for being there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 16, 2009 Report Share Posted January 16, 2009 It's very, very, very hard to find a good way to deal with these kinds of accusations and angry outbursts, I think. I have not found a good way yet myself, but want to say I really can appreciate how painful that is: not just those moments, but remembering them afterwards.-- This may not be much help, but realize you could never, ever be as bad as she sees you when she is that way. New to the group I just wanted to say how thankful I am to have found this group and that I absolutely LOVE the term nada and will be using it from now on! I started my own therapy last spring when my nada told me that I am the product of a 10 year affair that she had with her boss. I am 35. My dad that raised me has no clue about this and neither does anyone else in my family. Just me, my mom, and 2 of her closest friends. That news put me in a tailspin and when I started to talk about my nada to my therapist he suggested I look into BPD online. Low and behold. There was my nada. The situation that I am going through right now is that I became separated from my husband last June for a number of reasons, and will be divorcing this spring. My nada has taken this news terribly and she never liked my ex to start out with. I was worried about how the holidays were going to be with her seeing I was going to be spending a lot of time at my parent's house, and for the most part, things were ok until she called me last Sunday. It was a typical conversation...everything was fine.. then out of the blue she started in about my pending divorce. My ex and I are still very good friends... we are just VERY different people with different dreams. So, anyway, it was one thing after another. How I am the one that keeps her up at night and how my friends told me to divorce my husband and how he was the one that made me marry him in the first place. Just a bunch of accusations about how I have no backbone and have no way of making decisions for myself. I read the post about the girl in the airport and I just totally saw ME in that. I was trying to remain calm duing her rant and I was doing a good job until she wouldn't stop. I explained everything that she needed to know about my separation in June and feel like I do not need to keep on explaining myself to her. So, after about 15 minutes of her laying into me I just had enough and my tone changed and I hung up on her. Probably not the best thing to do, but I'm still trying to learn how to deal with her and how to respond when she goes on these rants. She hasn't called me all week and I haven't called her either. Normally, we will talk at least for a little bit every other day or so. I dont want to call her because I'm afraid of the pending argument but I also know that I should call because, on top of being BPD, she suffers from a chronic disease called sarcoidosis and is homebound and very sick. Not sure if this post is warranting any advice, but thanks for reading and for being there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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