Guest guest Posted December 31, 2008 Report Share Posted December 31, 2008 I'm not a big believer in New Year's Resolutions... I'd prefer to 'tally the books' at the end of the year and celebrate what actually DID happen (or was learned) rather than wish for what might not... So, in a time honored personal tradition, here's what I learned this year. 1) Nada is BPD 2) It's never been about me with her. Ever. 3) It never will be. 4) I'm OK with that. 5) I have " my people " who love me. 6) It's work to go to a therapist an hour away once a week for a year. 7) I'm not going to stop anytime soon. 8) I'm OK with that. 9) At 40, I can do/think/believe how I want. 10) Protecting me and mine is my #1. 11) I'm good enough to finish my Doctorate. 12) I will finish the Doctorate within 12 months. 13) I have a right to frolic in the sunshine of my own creation. 14) It's OK to be foolishly in love ~ and show it. 15) It's OK to be afraid and still dance. 16) Saying " yes " works. 17) Saying " no " works. 18) Saying " I don't know " works. 19) Knowing what you're feeling, and feeling it, is OK. 20) They're only emotions and emotions won't kill you. 21) Butterflies are awesome! 22) I am a butterfly. Peace for today and prayers for tomorrow. Lynnette Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2008 Report Share Posted December 31, 2008 Lynnette, That was beautiful! You learned many valuable and wonderful lessons....and I can relate to so much of your wisdom. Many blessings for 2009!!! Malinda In WTOAdultChildren1 , " yp_lynnette_cameron_park " wrote: > > I'm not a big believer in New Year's Resolutions... I'd prefer > to 'tally the books' at the end of the year and celebrate what > actually DID happen (or was learned) rather than wish for what might > not... > > So, in a time honored personal tradition, here's what I learned this > year. > > 1) Nada is BPD > 2) It's never been about me with her. Ever. > 3) It never will be. > 4) I'm OK with that. > 5) I have " my people " who love me. > 6) It's work to go to a therapist an hour away once a week for a year. > 7) I'm not going to stop anytime soon. > 8) I'm OK with that. > 9) At 40, I can do/think/believe how I want. > 10) Protecting me and mine is my #1. > 11) I'm good enough to finish my Doctorate. > 12) I will finish the Doctorate within 12 months. > 13) I have a right to frolic in the sunshine of my own creation. > 14) It's OK to be foolishly in love ~ and show it. > 15) It's OK to be afraid and still dance. > 16) Saying " yes " works. > 17) Saying " no " works. > 18) Saying " I don't know " works. > 19) Knowing what you're feeling, and feeling it, is OK. > 20) They're only emotions and emotions won't kill you. > 21) Butterflies are awesome! > 22) I am a butterfly. > > Peace for today and prayers for tomorrow. > > Lynnette > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2008 Report Share Posted December 31, 2008 Thank you... I'll be re-reading this when I get weepy while my therapist is on medical leave for the next 5 weeks ;o) Lynnette > > > > I'm not a big believer in New Year's Resolutions... I'd prefer > > to 'tally the books' at the end of the year and celebrate what > > actually DID happen (or was learned) rather than wish for what > might > > not... > > > > So, in a time honored personal tradition, here's what I learned > this > > year. > > > > 1) Nada is BPD > > 2) It's never been about me with her. Ever. > > 3) It never will be. > > 4) I'm OK with that. > > 5) I have " my people " who love me. > > 6) It's work to go to a therapist an hour away once a week for a > year. > > 7) I'm not going to stop anytime soon. > > 8) I'm OK with that. > > 9) At 40, I can do/think/believe how I want. > > 10) Protecting me and mine is my #1. > > 11) I'm good enough to finish my Doctorate. > > 12) I will finish the Doctorate within 12 months. > > 13) I have a right to frolic in the sunshine of my own creation. > > 14) It's OK to be foolishly in love ~ and show it. > > 15) It's OK to be afraid and still dance. > > 16) Saying " yes " works. > > 17) Saying " no " works. > > 18) Saying " I don't know " works. > > 19) Knowing what you're feeling, and feeling it, is OK. > > 20) They're only emotions and emotions won't kill you. > > 21) Butterflies are awesome! > > 22) I am a butterfly. > > > > Peace for today and prayers for tomorrow. > > > > Lynnette > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2008 Report Share Posted December 31, 2008 Tthat is lovely, Lynette, and I think I might borrow many of those affirmations and realisations. Of course, if you finish your doctorate this year (as I did last year), your nada may make it once again all about her, not you and your achievement (as mine did). But the greatest triumph is realising that you really did achieve that (and much much more) in spite of her, not because of her! > I'm not a big believer in New Year's Resolutions... I'd prefer > to 'tally the books' at the end of the year and celebrate what > actually DID happen (or was learned) rather than wish for what might > not... > > So, in a time honored personal tradition, here's what I learned this > year. > > 1) Nada is BPD > 2) It's never been about me with her. Ever. > 3) It never will be. > 4) I'm OK with that. > 5) I have " my people " who love me. > 6) It's work to go to a therapist an hour away once a week for a year. > 7) I'm not going to stop anytime soon. > 8) I'm OK with that. > 9) At 40, I can do/think/believe how I want. > 10) Protecting me and mine is my #1. > 11) I'm good enough to finish my Doctorate. > 12) I will finish the Doctorate within 12 months. > 13) I have a right to frolic in the sunshine of my own creation. > 14) It's OK to be foolishly in love ~ and show it. > 15) It's OK to be afraid and still dance. > 16) Saying " yes " works. > 17) Saying " no " works. > 18) Saying " I don't know " works. > 19) Knowing what you're feeling, and feeling it, is OK. > 20) They're only emotions and emotions won't kill you. > 21) Butterflies are awesome! > 22) I am a butterfly. > > Peace for today and prayers for tomorrow. > > Lynnette > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 31, 2008 Report Share Posted December 31, 2008 I like your tradition very much, Lynette! Its a kind of yearbook, a retro-diary, and seems a lot more useful to me than resolutions. Great idea, thanks for sharing it. -Annie > > I'm not a big believer in New Year's Resolutions... I'd prefer > to 'tally the books' at the end of the year and celebrate what > actually DID happen (or was learned) rather than wish for what might > not... > > So, in a time honored personal tradition, here's what I learned this > year. > > 1) Nada is BPD > 2) It's never been about me with her. Ever. > 3) It never will be. > 4) I'm OK with that. > 5) I have " my people " who love me. > 6) It's work to go to a therapist an hour away once a week for a year. > 7) I'm not going to stop anytime soon. > 8) I'm OK with that. > 9) At 40, I can do/think/believe how I want. > 10) Protecting me and mine is my #1. > 11) I'm good enough to finish my Doctorate. > 12) I will finish the Doctorate within 12 months. > 13) I have a right to frolic in the sunshine of my own creation. > 14) It's OK to be foolishly in love ~ and show it. > 15) It's OK to be afraid and still dance. > 16) Saying " yes " works. > 17) Saying " no " works. > 18) Saying " I don't know " works. > 19) Knowing what you're feeling, and feeling it, is OK. > 20) They're only emotions and emotions won't kill you. > 21) Butterflies are awesome! > 22) I am a butterfly. > > Peace for today and prayers for tomorrow. > > Lynnette > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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