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Morning everyone My name is Bethann, I am 42 years old. I have found out some information recently that I guess I'm just trying to get confirmation on. My father is 83 years old, and for years has had urinary problems. Recently (Aug 2007) he had a biopsy done on his prostate. When I inquired about the results I was told there was no cancer.....this was information from my mother, when she asked my father. In helping with some bills for them I came across the biopsy report......here are the words I read "Right....glandual hyperplasi and fibromusclular hyperplasia....Local prostatic intraepithelial neoplasia, moderate Pin II" "Left ... adenocarcinoma of prostate, gleason pattern 3+4=7 no perineural invasion" Of course I have googled all words and

combination of words.......and it doesn't seem like it takes a rocket scientist to see, my father has cancer. PLEASE someone confirm this for me. I am angry at my father for not sharing this information. I don't believe it's fair to the family, yet I understand and respect his need for privacy. If my mother knew he had cancer she'd be a nervous wreck forever and a day.....but is it fair she doesn't know. So I'm in a quandry how to proceed. My thought was to write him a letter, so he can read it on his terms, in private without feeling defensive or angry with me in his presence. I also know that he will not ensue any type of medical treatment....so anther question is how long does he have to live? I suppose that is enough for now.........I'm still trying to distangle my thoughts and decide how to move forward with this information. I should also state that I have four brothers that I am

not involved in their lives......nor are they involved in my parents lives......disfunction at it's best......I have no regard to inform them and no guilt to go along with that decision...but the care of my mother afterward will fall under my watch. Thanks in advance for any and all help in understanding this matter Bethann __________________________________________________