REALLLLLLLY LONG NIGHT

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Hi Jan,

You are in a very tough spot, my friend. This sounds like a similar story that happened in our extended family. My nephew was in his twenties and my brother and sister in law had tried everything to help him get on his feet. He continued to abuse drugs and no amount of help seemed to do any good. He finally moved in with my dad ( his grandpa) with some rules. There was to be no drinking or drugs and he had to actively look for a job. It lasted about 2 weeks before he came home drunk. His grandpa gave him another chance only to have him come home drunk the next night. He was forced to move and lived with friends for a time and finally got a menial job. This child had a very low self esteem and his failure to hold down one job after another only contributed to his low opinion of himself. He was dealing with his problems in a terrible way, but when I look back, I think he didn't know another way.

I also have kids in their 20's. I do believe in helping kids get on their feet. That doesn't mean dishing out money, but I think they need to be equipped to hold down some kind of job and function in society if they have the mental capabilities to do so. Are you in a place that you can help him get some training to learn a skill? Would he be receptive to some kind of counseling? There are places that do this in most cities on a sliding scale. I am not sure I would let him move in without some rules and regulations that he completely agrees to follow.

I hope this helps. It is just my humble opinion from having similar issues and I am certain others here could probably give better advice.

I will be praying for your family. Love, Donna

REALLLLLLLY LONG NIGHT

Have any of you kept diaries @ symptoms and frequency of flairs? Mine have been about one every 20 -28 days. I made the mistake of taking my prednisone to late last night. Finally went to sleep at about 5 am. YUK. Have a dilema. I have a 23 yr old son that is really into the school of hard knocks Won't take any advice and spends money like her has it, but doesn't work for it. He wants to stay with me and hubby for a "couple of weeks". He has been out of our house for 3 or 4 years. Just the stress of it is really eating me up. Can't trust him in the house. It is so hard. He's my son (not with his father, remarried 12 years) and he's broke and almost homeless. But he just isn't getting his poop in a group. Tough love is sooooo hard. His father won't help him at all. He doesn't have the means and just wouldn't even if he did. Could really use some unbiased (or biased) input. Hubby is for not letting him stay and it is pulling me apart. Don't really need this Sh*#. Know what i MEAN.JANPS he is ADD like his father and not particularly skilled in anything but art or music."The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery/view?username=lupies

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Have any of you kept diaries @ symptoms and frequency of flairs?

Mine have been about one every 20 -28 days. I made the mistake of

taking my prednisone to late last night. Finally went to sleep at

about 5 am. YUK.

Have a dilema. I have a 23 yr old son that is really into the school

of hard knocks Won't take any advice and spends money like her has

it, but doesn't work for it. He wants to stay with me and hubby for

a " couple of weeks " . He has been out of our house for 3 or 4 years.

Just the stress of it is really eating me up. Can't trust him in the

house. It is so hard. He's my son (not with his father, remarried

12 years) and he's broke and almost homeless. But he just isn't

getting his poop in a group. Tough love is sooooo hard. His father

won't help him at all. He doesn't have the means and just wouldn't

even if he did. Could really use some unbiased (or biased) input.

Hubby is for not letting him stay and it is pulling me apart. Don't

really need this Sh*#. Know what i MEAN.

JAN

PS he is ADD like his father and not particularly skilled in

anything but art or music.