Guest guest Posted January 10, 2009 Report Share Posted January 10, 2009 I wish I knew the answer to this. But I think it has to do with trust. How can you trust anyone or anything when your own parent (s) betrayed you. I do absolutely think is as to do with PTSD-that wariness that keeps you on your toes, looking for any sign that something isn't going right. Low self-esteem is probably in there too. Not being able to experience joy is also very common to adult children of alcoholics. The only things I can think of to do is to recognize that that is happening and work with a therapist. Kim Roth's book Surviving a Borderline Parent may have some techniques-has anyone here read it closely? Randi Kreger Randi @BPDCentral.com www.BPDCentral.com Welcome to Oz Community Owner * NEW! Author, The Essential Guide to Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools and Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells * Author, Stop Walking on Eggshells Workbook * Coauthor, Stop Walking on Eggshells ..................... I feel like this, too. Everytime something good happens or I feel like I am in a really good place, I find my mind just waiting for something bad to happen. I sometimes can even convince myself that my husband is going to come home and announce, out of nowhere, that he is going to leave me. No matter what the good is, I expect the bad. One thing that I have done when I get like this is I reapeat to myself this line I learned, " All will be well, all will be well, all manner of things will be well. " I repeat it for as long as it takes to get my brain out of the unhealthy place. But, I also know that I never really fully allow myself to experience JOY, I hold something back like I'm too afraid to let myself really go and experience it. This is what I want to work on next. > > > Subject: Waiting to Exhale: Anxiety, Depression, and Waiting for the other shoe to drop > To: <mailto:WTOAdultChildren1%40yahoogroups.com> WTOAdultChildren1 > Date: Thursday, January 8, 2009, 8:41 PM > > > > > > > I deal with pretty serious anxiety, sometimes have panic attacks, definitely suffer from low > grade on-going depression but the biggest obstacle has been the ever-present " waiting for > the other shoe to drop " . Never truly relaxing and knowing everything is going to be ok. > > Is this normal? Do we have symptoms similar to post traumatic stress? How do we release > the anxiety? How do we finally exhale? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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