Re: Re: [AC) scheduling mourning

[Guest guest]

I agree with you. Grief strikes when you least expect it. For me, it's

when something pops into my head, and I reach for the phone to tell my Mom.

Or when I make a mental note to add what I need to make my Mom's favorite

bread pudding that I make for her every Thanksgiving to my holiday shopping

list, because Thanksgiving is coming.............. and then I realize that

I don't have to make it anymore. Or when I just read of Debbie's first

Halloween and the pillow case ghost. You never know when it will hit and

scheduling, although a great thought, just doesn't seem like it would work

for most of us.

[Guest guest]

Hi Barb.....

this happens to me often. I can be sooooo emotional.

My heart breaks for you ......and last week something reminded me of

Mom Pudge's.... and Kari's Kobe.... Here i am standing in a store

with tears streaming down my face and people are really uncomfortable

to be even near me!!!! What is wrong about this?

Grieve when you must...and laugh when you must!!!

Who cares what anyone else thinks?

Love,

Dianne

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" The weakest among us can become some kind of an athlete,

but only the strongest can survive as spectators. "

[Guest guest]

Robin,

I am so sorry for your pain. The holidays are hard, aren't they.

a

Re: Re: [AC) scheduling mourning

> I agree with you. Grief strikes when you least expect it. For me, it's

> when something pops into my head, and I reach for the phone to tell my

Mom.

> Or when I make a mental note to add what I need to make my Mom's favorite

> bread pudding that I make for her every Thanksgiving to my holiday

shopping

> list, because Thanksgiving is coming.............. and then I realize

that

> I don't have to make it anymore. Or when I just read of Debbie's first

> Halloween and the pillow case ghost. You never know when it will hit and

> scheduling, although a great thought, just doesn't seem like it would work

> for most of us.

>

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[Guest guest]

Yes, Kari. When my Mom died, my daughter (30 years old) cried and cried,

but she said that she was actually crying for me. She herself could not

imagine not being able to talk to her Mother again. It's not that I was a

Mommy's girl. My Mom was not only my Mom, but my best friend, my confident,

my mentor, the person who always cheered me on, my buddy, my advisor. And

she died because a series of injustices were done to her. Don't get me

wrong, I'm not a sniveling little ball of tears all the time, but I do have

a great shadow on my heart. I know you understand, because you have a

wonderful, loving and fun Mom, too. I can't even begin to imagine what

Barbara has been through, but we all know that life just has to go on.

[Guest guest]

Robin,

My mom is the person I am closest to. I wish I had a relationship so I

wouldn't feel so dependent up her. But, alas, I am a bit of a loner. I

dread the time when she isn't around so I can pick up the phone and call and

do things with and ask advice of and give it and cry with and laugh with. I

am so sorry yours is no longer around. YOur email made me cry.

a

Re: Re: [AC) scheduling mourning

> Yes, Kari. When my Mom died, my daughter (30 years old) cried and cried,

> but she said that she was actually crying for me. She herself could not

> imagine not being able to talk to her Mother again. It's not that I was a

> Mommy's girl. My Mom was not only my Mom, but my best friend, my

confident,

> my mentor, the person who always cheered me on, my buddy, my advisor. And

> she died because a series of injustices were done to her. Don't get me

> wrong, I'm not a sniveling little ball of tears all the time, but I do

have

> a great shadow on my heart. I know you understand, because you have a

> wonderful, loving and fun Mom, too. I can't even begin to imagine what

> Barbara has been through, but we all know that life just has to go on.

>

>

>

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>

>

>

[Guest guest]

This has been a hard time for me too...mourning my mother who died this last

April.....we usually started planning Thanksgiving about now...we would call

back and forth on the phone....let's do this....I'll make this...who else

should we invite...it will be a hard hard holiday time this year....I have

found myself crying in my sleep this week.

JJ

> > I agree with you. Grief strikes when you least expect it. For me, it's

> > when something pops into my head, and I reach for the phone to tell my

> Mom.

[Guest guest]

Thanks ,

Today has been a better day!!!!

JJ

[Guest guest]

Oh JJ, my heart goes out to you. A very wise woman told me that for the

first holiday she changed locations, who she shared with, the menu and

decorations. I thought it would make it easier but as I sat at the table I

couldn't stop the tears. It was easier than having it in my home but,

needless to say, not easy. Try some Valerian root for a better night's sleep

and then go for it. Friends and family will understand if there are some

tears or if you need a few minutes of quiet time. We are all here to help you

as much as possible.

Barb