Guest guest Posted January 21, 2009 Report Share Posted January 21, 2009 Go outside RIGHT NOW and burn it in the BBQ grill. Period. Don't let her " Nuts-ness " ruin your day. Flames can be healing ;o) Lynnette > > Ugh!!! NADA sent me a birthday card after I " never recieved " her > happy birthday text message. > > She of course, did not put a return address on the card. Isn't that > crafty? > > She totally tore me down a couple months ago when she found out I > was trying to get her mailing address. Told me NEVER to send her > anything and that I don't deserve her address, blah blah blah. Then > she sends ME something with no return address. It's like she is > saying " see? I can do what I want. I can have total control over our > communication. This is on MY terms. And I can tell you why and how > to contact me. You can't send me anything, but I can send you > anything I want " . > > It just pissed me off. > > At least she didn't draw a sad face in my bday card this year like > she did last year. nuts. > > I am really pissed about this. I probably shouldn't be. I am wasting > emotion and thoughts on someone who doesn't deserve them. > > ~Sara Jo > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2009 Report Share Posted January 21, 2009 I like Lynnette's advise! I was just going to tell you to put the card in the Trash! Watch it BURN! BURN BABY BURN!! It will feel good! Wish I did that with my MIL nada's gifts that she gave me for x-mas! It would have felt great! PS If you stop playing her games, she can't win! Nerak Subject: Re: She won't stop!!! To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 3:45 PM Go outside RIGHT NOW and burn it in the BBQ grill. Period. Don't let her " Nuts-ness " ruin your day. Flames can be healing ;o) Lynnette > > Ugh!!! NADA sent me a birthday card after I " never recieved " her > happy birthday text message. > > She of course, did not put a return address on the card. Isn't that > crafty? > > She totally tore me down a couple months ago when she found out I > was trying to get her mailing address. Told me NEVER to send her > anything and that I don't deserve her address, blah blah blah. Then > she sends ME something with no return address. It's like she is > saying " see? I can do what I want. I can have total control over our > communication. This is on MY terms. And I can tell you why and how > to contact me. You can't send me anything, but I can send you > anything I want " . > > It just pissed me off. > > At least she didn't draw a sad face in my bday card this year like > she did last year. nuts. > > I am really pissed about this. I probably shouldn't be. I am wasting > emotion and thoughts on someone who doesn't deserve them. > > ~Sara Jo > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2009 Report Share Posted January 21, 2009 I think you hit the nail on the head in your last paragraph. She's playing nasty games with you and you can't win if you play her game. You're wasting energy and letting her win when you get upset over this kind of thing. Changing how you react is easier said than done, but identifying the problem does get you a good ways towards changing. Try to convince yourself that this doesn't matter. Have a ceremonial card burning to represent burning away the bad emotions then do something you relaxing that you enjoy. At 10:29 AM 01/21/2009 Sara Jo wrote: >Ugh!!! NADA sent me a birthday card after I " never recieved " >her >happy birthday text message. > >She of course, did not put a return address on the card. Isn't >that >crafty? > >She totally tore me down a couple months ago when she found out >I >was trying to get her mailing address. Told me NEVER to send >her >anything and that I don't deserve her address, blah blah blah. >Then >she sends ME something with no return address. It's like she is > >saying " see? I can do what I want. I can have total control >over our >communication. This is on MY terms. And I can tell you why and >how >to contact me. You can't send me anything, but I can send you >anything I want " . > >It just pissed me off. > >At least she didn't draw a sad face in my bday card this year >like >she did last year. nuts. > >I am really pissed about this. I probably shouldn't be. I am >wasting >emotion and thoughts on someone who doesn't deserve them. > >~Sara Jo -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2009 Report Share Posted January 21, 2009 I think you're right, that is exactly her unspoken message: " I'm in control, not you. I can decide when and if I contact you, and its all on my terms only! " Wow. Yes, in my opinion, the best thing you can do for yourself is to erase your nada from your life as thoroughly as possible, as though she doesn't even exist. She's not worth a second of your thought. -Annie > > Ugh!!! NADA sent me a birthday card after I " never recieved " her > happy birthday text message. > > She of course, did not put a return address on the card. Isn't that > crafty? > > She totally tore me down a couple months ago when she found out I > was trying to get her mailing address. Told me NEVER to send her > anything and that I don't deserve her address, blah blah blah. Then > she sends ME something with no return address. It's like she is > saying " see? I can do what I want. I can have total control over our > communication. This is on MY terms. And I can tell you why and how > to contact me. You can't send me anything, but I can send you > anything I want " . > > It just pissed me off. > > At least she didn't draw a sad face in my bday card this year like > she did last year. nuts. > > I am really pissed about this. I probably shouldn't be. I am wasting > emotion and thoughts on someone who doesn't deserve them. > > ~Sara Jo > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2009 Report Share Posted January 21, 2009 Thanks guys. I like the burning idea. But I tore it up and threw it away already. I am not playing the game! ~Sarajo > > > > Ugh!!! NADA sent me a birthday card after I " never recieved " her > > happy birthday text message. > > > > She of course, did not put a return address on the card. Isn't that > > crafty? > > > > She totally tore me down a couple months ago when she found out I > > was trying to get her mailing address. Told me NEVER to send her > > anything and that I don't deserve her address, blah blah blah. Then > > she sends ME something with no return address. It's like she is > > saying " see? I can do what I want. I can have total control over our > > communication. This is on MY terms. And I can tell you why and how > > to contact me. You can't send me anything, but I can send you > > anything I want " . > > > > It just pissed me off. > > > > At least she didn't draw a sad face in my bday card this year like > > she did last year. nuts. > > > > I am really pissed about this. I probably shouldn't be. I am wasting > > emotion and thoughts on someone who doesn't deserve them. > > > > ~Sara Jo > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2009 Report Share Posted January 21, 2009 Me too! I like that " ceremonial burning " idea so much that I'm going to take all the old Christmas and birthday cards I have stuffed somewhere and burn them all! Great concept! -Annie > > > > > > Ugh!!! NADA sent me a birthday card after I " never recieved " her > > > happy birthday text message. > > > > > > She of course, did not put a return address on the card. Isn't > that > > > crafty? > > > > > > She totally tore me down a couple months ago when she found out > I > > > was trying to get her mailing address. Told me NEVER to send her > > > anything and that I don't deserve her address, blah blah blah. > Then > > > she sends ME something with no return address. It's like she is > > > saying " see? I can do what I want. I can have total control over > our > > > communication. This is on MY terms. And I can tell you why and > how > > > to contact me. You can't send me anything, but I can send you > > > anything I want " . > > > > > > It just pissed me off. > > > > > > At least she didn't draw a sad face in my bday card this year > like > > > she did last year. nuts. > > > > > > I am really pissed about this. I probably shouldn't be. I am > wasting > > > emotion and thoughts on someone who doesn't deserve them. > > > > > > ~Sara Jo > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 21, 2009 Report Share Posted January 21, 2009 Good for you Sara Jo!!! Nerak Subject: Re: She won't stop!!! To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Wednesday, January 21, 2009, 5:39 PM Thanks guys. I like the burning idea. But I tore it up and threw it away already. I am not playing the game! ~Sarajo > > > > Ugh!!! NADA sent me a birthday card after I " never recieved " her > > happy birthday text message. > > > > She of course, did not put a return address on the card. Isn't that > > crafty? > > > > She totally tore me down a couple months ago when she found out I > > was trying to get her mailing address. Told me NEVER to send her > > anything and that I don't deserve her address, blah blah blah. Then > > she sends ME something with no return address. It's like she is > > saying " see? I can do what I want. I can have total control over our > > communication. This is on MY terms. And I can tell you why and how > > to contact me. You can't send me anything, but I can send you > > anything I want " . > > > > It just pissed me off. > > > > At least she didn't draw a sad face in my bday card this year like > > she did last year. nuts. > > > > I am really pissed about this. I probably shouldn't be. I am wasting > > emotion and thoughts on someone who doesn't deserve them. > > > > ~Sara Jo > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 23, 2009 Report Share Posted January 23, 2009 Unfortunately, you are wasting time and emotions being upset with her. That's exactly what she wants. She doesn't deserve and hasn't earned your love. Laurie **************A Good Credit Score is 700 or Above. See yours in just 2 easy steps! (http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100000075x1215855013x1201028747/aol?redir=http://\ www.freecreditreport.com/pm/default.aspx?sc=668072%26hmpgID=62%26bcd=De cemailfooterNO62) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2009 Report Share Posted January 24, 2009 > > Ugh!!! NADA sent me a birthday card after I " never recieved " her > happy birthday text message. > Sara Jo- I hope you enjoyed your birthday despite all of your Nada's efforts to make it about her in classic BPD form. I took my parents call on my birthday after having been NC for quite some time. I might not have, but my daughter heard the Cruella DeVille ringtone and said I should just answer it because she would keep calling back. They ended up pushing for a visit since they were preparing to move out of state. I put them off until after Christmas and then met them at a restaurant for lunch. It was a bizarre visit. I was given a card with the JC Penney gift card which I appreciated much more than the XL pair of PJs (Mom likes say I got " fat " from drinking beer. Never mind I am smaller than her and not an XL. And never mind the whole drinking beer accusation) she gave me last year along with a Nativity scene hanging thing. How bizarre to get a gift depicting the Holy family from some so incredibly un-holy. I could not bring myself to hang it anywhere in my home. I remember reading the card and having trouble comprehending it. I kind of felt like it should have been for someone else. I had heard all to many times about how I was such a rotten kid that getting a card saying I was a wonderful daughter and mother felt wrong and manipulative. But I can honestly say, I didn't feel much of anything about the visit. I may as well have had lunch with strangers at an airport. My parents were on a 15 minute tape rewind...which is to say, they told the same stories every 15 minutes as if it were something new. They left the state this past Tuesday not without attempting to call one last time. I had my phone on vibrate, so I never heard the message until the day I knew they were packing up and moving. I opted not to call back. A part of me feels guilty, but I just did not want the possibility of any kind of awkward goodbye. I know they arrived safely because they moved to the city where my brother lives. Although he knows about all their craziness, he hasn't lived around it in years...never mind he married a BPD (but is separated). I feel bad for him, but relieved for myself. In a small way, it takes the pressure off feeling bad about not visiting, talking, etc. While I am no longer overwhelmed by guilt, I still feel twinges here and there and struggle with what other family members might be thinking. But I have kind of resolved myself to the fact that those who really know the truth support me. Those who don't are either clueless or crazy themselves and I have stopped caring what crazy people think! Take care and belated Happy Birthday! JJFan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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