WTOAdultChildren1] heidi Your engagement

January 14, 2009

Interesting story here about your engagement.

My MIL a BPD, had a meltdown when we got engaged & overdosed a month after the

wedding! I think that was her way of congragulating us! Thanks but no thanks.

The annoying thing about her before our wedding was she 'wanted to help' so

badly. I don't know why. Because very time we gave her a meneal task just to

shut her up. She did one of 2 things.

1 she would blow it out of proportion, make it a bigger deal then need be. Call

me a million times about said task. At that point, I should have done it myself.

2. She would fail to complete it. there was food she was supposed to make/ get

for our shower. She didn't do it. There were items she was supposed to bring

home from the wedding. She didn't do that. She had one of her sisters do it for

her.

The only up side there was she didn't do it, 'cause she left the wedding

early!! She was 'sick'. I think the whole reception hall had a sigh of relief

when she left, WITHOUT A SCENE!! That was my gift that day I think. That she

didn't have a blow up. I feared it, because she raged at me 2 days before my

wedding! B****

Nerak

Subject: Re: Another Top Five

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Wednesday, January 14, 2009, 4:00 PM

>

> What about this one?

>

> " I know what you're going to do before you even do it "

>

> Like she's the all knowing omnicient one!

Okay, you hit the nail on the head with this one, and I'd

like to chime in.

When my sweetie was visiting here in March 2008, I asked

her to marry me and she said " yes " (insert a big " Awwww " here),

and then I was faced with the task of telling my nada about it.

I was very anxious about just how to do it, and this is

how it went down. I hooked my digital camera up to nada's

TV set, and began showing her photos we'd taken at one

of Texas finest state parks, a place called Enchanted Rock,

a day or so earlier. This is where I proposed to my sweetie.

I was narrating the photos for my nada, and when I got to

the photo of us that was taken by some people who wandered

over about a minute after I proposed, I said:

" And this photo was taken about a minute after I proposed

to Leanne; she accepted. "

My nada sat in her easy chair and said:

" I know what's going on... "

Not, say: CONGRATULATIONS YOU TWO

or perhaps

GREAT, I'M SO HAPPY FOR YOU BOTH

nope, instead I got that very odd, quite omnicient comment.

I didn't take her to task via the Ann Landers method, i.e.

" Why would you say something like that? "

instead, my fiance and I made our excuses and got the h*ll

outta there. When we were driving away from nada's condo,

my sweetie told me that my nada's comment was " kinda creepy " .

I looked at her and said:

" Honey, you don't know know half of it. "

This happened at the end of March 2008. By the end of

June, I'd cut all communications with my nada after yet

another abusive meltdown on her part. In that two month time span,

she never once congratulated us on our engagement. That odd,

enigmatic statement was her take on it.

In August 2008, when I got together with my sweetie's mother,

two brothers and one sister-in-law in upstate NY, they toasted us

with champagne over our engagement.

Like night and day, folks.

**EWL**

January 14, 2009

oops, i meant elw's engagement. sorry.

nerak