Women Marrying Their Borderline Nadas

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The thread by a man, " I Married My BPD Mother " is one of those that strikes a

chord with me. I married a man but it is as if in many ways that I married my

mother. They used to say that you marry your father (if you're a woman) but now

they say you marry the most difficult parent.

And on another thread, about attracting borderlines into your life, yes, I have

had them (and narcisissts) all around me and am in the process of making sure as

much as possible that they stay out now. Reading " Why is it Always About You "

has really opened my eyes to the weakness I had for the narcissists, how it

differs from borderline and how to handle it. While I don't think that the

nurture/nature aspect information in the book is good science, the information

about these mentally ill people and how to deal with them sure helped me. Keep

in mind however that I was (and still am somewhat) blind to the " dance " for so

long.

Flowers in Oz