Attracting bpd or npd women in my life?

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does anyone seem to have a trend like I do in attracting female

friends or substitute mums that appear to have bpd or npd traits?

i reflect upon my past relationships with some very strong women in my

life who were good friends (and I stress 'were') and it seems they all

have very similar traits i.e. either emotionally unavailable or

emotionally draining etc....

i cant help but think maybe its just me and that i trusted too easily

and let my 'guard' down to let these women in my life and destroy me

emotionally?

right now its my SIL whos the npd and possibly possesses some bpd

traits, but I can't do much about that one as I'm married into the

family, and she's always here. we live in the same house as my

parents-in-law and SIL is often here staying over or at family

dinners. the family and local culture here is quite traditional so i

can't put too much of what I've previously learned in past

relationships into practice with her. and we can't find anywhere else

to live as we are poor :-(

just wondering what everyone else experiences are in this area?