Re: Things nada said to me

[Guest guest]

I can add to this list:

I was very thin, had a great body growing up. My cousin was

overweight but was absolutely beautiful. Nada used to say " with your

body and HER face you could be a model " (translation: I was/am ugly)

In high school we were going shopping to the mall. Nada insisted I do

my hair nice and wear makeup. I didn't want to. I'm not really a

major hair/makeup kind of gal. She was upset. We went to the mall,

saw a girl from my class and that did it, we had to leave immediately

because she " couldn't be seen with me in public " Gotta love that

self esteem building she did on a teenage girl.

I've been told the whole family talks about what a B**** I am and how

she agrees with them.

>

> Things nada said to me

>

> If you do not sit there and be really good, I will never come back

> (said when she sat me in a chair within a store so she could shop

> without me)

>

> Bitter laughter, " she doesn't need that " when shopping for a

bathing

> suit at age 12 (swimsuit with a bra). Nada refused to acknowledge

my

> development and so my first bra was for a 34B. I walked out of the

> store and hid; when I was finally located, it was all my fault

> (lesson that anything nada says has to accepted and I am always

wrong

> in a situation with nada).

>

> You look like a chicken going north when shown the only picture

> formal picture taken of me with my much younger half brothers. A

> chicken going north means that my face looked like the backend of a

> chicken, I was an ass face. I was 14 years old.

>

> You have too many children and no one will ever want to be your

> friend while visiting me and my family in California, I was 28 and

> married with six children.

>

> Everyone has sexual abuse; it is not a big deal.

>

> WHEN I VISITED NADA

>

> It is a shame you have not done this before now (when I lost a lot

of

> weight)

>

> I had to widen that interior door because you are too big to get

thru

> it (I complimented her most recent remodel project)

>

> My last visit was when I met people that nada know well in the

> community (had lived there for five years) and they said " I did not

> know you had a daughter "

>

> Nada especially loved to humiliate me in front of people; even

today

> I begin to go numb and experience terror feelings when anyone

> criticizes me in public. I have memories of numbing humiliations

all

> during childhood and do not remember what nada said because I

> withdrew mentally.

>

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry to hear those awful things your nadas said to you. It's

pretty sick.

The worst things my Nada ever said to me were:

- " You are a waste of space "

- " You are a snob and when you grow up you should just go and move

somewhere far away, you were born into the wrong family. "

- " You were a mistake, the condom ripped "

During her rages, one time I started hyperventilating b/c I was in

shock of all the horrible things she would say to me. Another time I

fainted.

Still, even as I type this, I still question these things, did this

really happen? It did. But I still can't believe it.

> >

> > Things nada said to me

> >

> > If you do not sit there and be really good, I will never come

back

> > (said when she sat me in a chair within a store so she could shop

> > without me)

> >

> > Bitter laughter, " she doesn't need that " when shopping for a

> bathing

> > suit at age 12 (swimsuit with a bra). Nada refused to

acknowledge

> my

> > development and so my first bra was for a 34B. I walked out of

the

> > store and hid; when I was finally located, it was all my fault

> > (lesson that anything nada says has to accepted and I am always

> wrong

> > in a situation with nada).

> >

> > You look like a chicken going north when shown the only picture

> > formal picture taken of me with my much younger half brothers. A

> > chicken going north means that my face looked like the backend of

a

> > chicken, I was an ass face. I was 14 years old.

> >

> > You have too many children and no one will ever want to be your

> > friend while visiting me and my family in California, I was 28

and

> > married with six children.

> >

> > Everyone has sexual abuse; it is not a big deal.

> >

> > WHEN I VISITED NADA

> >

> > It is a shame you have not done this before now (when I lost a

lot

> of

> > weight)

> >

> > I had to widen that interior door because you are too big to get

> thru

> > it (I complimented her most recent remodel project)

> >

> > My last visit was when I met people that nada know well in the

> > community (had lived there for five years) and they said " I did

not

> > know you had a daughter "

> >

> > Nada especially loved to humiliate me in front of people; even

> today

> > I begin to go numb and experience terror feelings when anyone

> > criticizes me in public. I have memories of numbing humiliations

> all

> > during childhood and do not remember what nada said because I

> > withdrew mentally.

> >

>