Guest guest Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 It's been almost two weeks since I went officially NC with Nada (we were very low contact before that). If anyone remembers she wanted to come visit my children, I told her no, and she kept saying she WAS coming, I told her that if showed up we would be either not here, or would call the police, she started screaming at me (YOU ARE CRAZY!!!) and the conversation ended. Last week was the year anniversary of my SIL's death. Nada didn't really know her, had met her once at our wedding I think. She sent my husband this saccharine email about how she was 'praying for husbnad and his family' (she knows we are NOT religious), and then went on about how she knew how hard it was because HER mother died this year and the holidays and birthday were hard (it's always about Nada in the end, right?) Then last night I was on facebook and my cousin Meg messaged me, saying that she thought I should know that nada is stalking me. (her words). She said nada is always pressuring meg to use megs facebook to look at mine (I have nada blocked) and to use megs computer to look at our website (it's invite only now, so it wouldn't do any good, but i previously had nada's ip blocked). She said that nada was telling everyone i was crazy. Meg sounded really annoyed and shared with me some of the lies that nada is spreading about other family members. I told her i was sorry, and thank you for letting me know. I don't want to triangulate the situation- i know nada would really enjoy that, but i'm an adult, i don't play that way. no direct contact though. we will see how long this lasts. i know she still has presents that she is holding on to, thinking she will get to give them to the kids in person. it's just not going to happen. it is kind of a relief to know what is going on behind the scenes though. my nada has no job, doesn't cook, has a maid come once a week... she needs a hobby her fixation is out of control. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 I am sorry. Truly. I feel your pain. My nada has been using Facebook as well. Seriously, when...does...it...end? I really wish that boundaries would be respected. I am coming to the conclusion that the less expectations I have that she will act as an adult and sane the less likely I will be to be disapointed or hurt. But my heart goes out to you. She is being inappropriate and trying to get you riled... Peace, Dorian > > It's been almost two weeks since I went officially NC with Nada (we > were very low contact before that). If anyone remembers she wanted to > come visit my children, I told her no, and she kept saying she WAS > coming, I told her that if showed up we would be either not here, or > would call the police, she started screaming at me (YOU ARE CRAZY!!!) > and the conversation ended. > > Last week was the year anniversary of my SIL's death. Nada didn't > really know her, had met her once at our wedding I think. She sent my > husband this saccharine email about how she was 'praying for husbnad > and his family' (she knows we are NOT religious), and then went on > about how she knew how hard it was because HER mother died this year > and the holidays and birthday were hard (it's always about Nada in the > end, right?) > > Then last night I was on facebook and my cousin Meg messaged me, > saying that she thought I should know that nada is stalking me. (her > words). She said nada is always pressuring meg to use megs facebook to > look at mine (I have nada blocked) and to use megs computer to look at > our website (it's invite only now, so it wouldn't do any good, but i > previously had nada's ip blocked). She said that nada was telling > everyone i was crazy. > > Meg sounded really annoyed and shared with me some of the lies that > nada is spreading about other family members. I told her i was sorry, > and thank you for letting me know. I don't want to triangulate the > situation- i know nada would really enjoy that, but i'm an adult, i > don't play that way. > > no direct contact though. we will see how long this lasts. i know she > still has presents that she is holding on to, thinking she will get to > give them to the kids in person. it's just not going to happen. it is > kind of a relief to know what is going on behind the scenes though. > > my nada has no job, doesn't cook, has a maid come once a week... she > needs a hobby her fixation is out of control. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 Sent from my iPod On Jan 8, 2009, at 1:47 PM, " dorianarwynbeach " wrote: > I am sorry. Truly. I feel your pain. My nada has been using Facebook > as well. Seriously, > when...does...it...end? I really wish that boundaries would be > respected. I am coming to > the conclusion that the less expectations I have that she will act > as an adult and sane the > less likely I will be to be disapointed or hurt. > > But my heart goes out to you. She is being inappropriate and trying > to get you riled... > > Peace, > Dorian > > > > > > It's been almost two weeks since I went officially NC with Nada (we > > were very low contact before that). If anyone remembers she wanted > to > > come visit my children, I told her no, and she kept saying she WAS > > coming, I told her that if showed up we would be either not here, or > > would call the police, she started screaming at me (YOU ARE > CRAZY!!!) > > and the conversation ended. > > > > Last week was the year anniversary of my SIL's death. Nada didn't > > really know her, had met her once at our wedding I think. She sent > my > > husband this saccharine email about how she was 'praying for husbnad > > and his family' (she knows we are NOT religious), and then went on > > about how she knew how hard it was because HER mother died this year > > and the holidays and birthday were hard (it's always about Nada in > the > > end, right?) > > > > Then last night I was on facebook and my cousin Meg messaged me, > > saying that she thought I should know that nada is stalking me. (her > > words). She said nada is always pressuring meg to use megs > facebook to > > look at mine (I have nada blocked) and to use megs computer to > look at > > our website (it's invite only now, so it wouldn't do any good, but i > > previously had nada's ip blocked). She said that nada was telling > > everyone i was crazy. > > > > Meg sounded really annoyed and shared with me some of the lies that > > nada is spreading about other family members. I told her i was > sorry, > > and thank you for letting me know. I don't want to triangulate the > > situation- i know nada would really enjoy that, but i'm an adult, i > > don't play that way. > > > > no direct contact though. we will see how long this lasts. i know > she > > still has presents that she is holding on to, thinking she will > get to > > give them to the kids in person. it's just not going to happen. it > is > > kind of a relief to know what is going on behind the scenes though. > > > > my nada has no job, doesn't cook, has a maid come once a week... she > > needs a hobby her fixation is out of control. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 At 02:47 PM 01/08/2009 dorianarwynbeach wrote: >I am coming to the conclusion that the less expectations I have >that she will act as an adult and sane the less likely I will >be to be disapointed or hurt. I think this hits the mark spot on. I simply don't expect my nada to behave properly, ever. If she does, I'm pleased, but I try to always be prepared for her not doing so. Expecting sane, appropriate behavior just leads to disappointment and hurt. -- Katrina Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 I had nada on my facebook for awhile bc she kept posting pictures of my kids from their viditsnlast summer. I guess to proove what a great grandma she is hahahaha. I kept having to tell her to take them down not post names ect. I finally gave up bc it got to the point that it was embarressing the way she would communicate I'm all caps about 'her precious grandbabiea give them a kiss for means tell yhem mini misses them!!' facebook just isn't the place for that. And I would get passive aggressive calls and emails when she saw that we ha done anything fun. So I unfriended and blocked her and she has been even more frantic ever since Sent from my iPod On Jan 8, 2009, at 1:47 PM, " dorianarwynbeach " wrote: > I am sorry. Truly. I feel your pain. My nada has been using Facebook > as well. Seriously, > when...does...it...end? I really wish that boundaries would be > respected. I am coming to > the conclusion that the less expectations I have that she will act > as an adult and sane the > less likely I will be to be disapointed or hurt. > > But my heart goes out to you. She is being inappropriate and trying > to get you riled... > > Peace, > Dorian > > > > > > It's been almost two weeks since I went officially NC with Nada (we > > were very low contact before that). If anyone remembers she wanted > to > > come visit my children, I told her no, and she kept saying she WAS > > coming, I told her that if showed up we would be either not here, or > > would call the police, she started screaming at me (YOU ARE > CRAZY!!!) > > and the conversation ended. > > > > Last week was the year anniversary of my SIL's death. Nada didn't > > really know her, had met her once at our wedding I think. She sent > my > > husband this saccharine email about how she was 'praying for husbnad > > and his family' (she knows we are NOT religious), and then went on > > about how she knew how hard it was because HER mother died this year > > and the holidays and birthday were hard (it's always about Nada in > the > > end, right?) > > > > Then last night I was on facebook and my cousin Meg messaged me, > > saying that she thought I should know that nada is stalking me. (her > > words). She said nada is always pressuring meg to use megs > facebook to > > look at mine (I have nada blocked) and to use megs computer to > look at > > our website (it's invite only now, so it wouldn't do any good, but i > > previously had nada's ip blocked). She said that nada was telling > > everyone i was crazy. > > > > Meg sounded really annoyed and shared with me some of the lies that > > nada is spreading about other family members. I told her i was > sorry, > > and thank you for letting me know. I don't want to triangulate the > > situation- i know nada would really enjoy that, but i'm an adult, i > > don't play that way. > > > > no direct contact though. we will see how long this lasts. i know > she > > still has presents that she is holding on to, thinking she will > get to > > give them to the kids in person. it's just not going to happen. it > is > > kind of a relief to know what is going on behind the scenes though. > > > > my nada has no job, doesn't cook, has a maid come once a week... she > > needs a hobby her fixation is out of control. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 Borderlines have no business being on the internet at all. To them, it's just another tool for stalking and abuse! -S Re: Re: nada at it again To: " WTOAdultChildren1 " > I had nada on my facebook for awhile bc she kept posting > pictures of > my kids from their viditsnlast summer. I guess to proove what a > great > grandma she is hahahaha. I kept having to tell her to take them > down > not post names ect. > > I finally gave up bc it got to the point that it was > embarressing the > way she would communicate I'm all caps about 'her precious > grandbabiea > give them a kiss for means tell yhem mini misses them!!' > facebook just > isn't the place for that. And I would get passive aggressive > calls and > emails when she saw that we ha done anything fun. > > So I unfriended and blocked her and she has been even more > frantic > ever since > > Sent from my iPod > > On Jan 8, 2009, at 1:47 PM, " dorianarwynbeach " > > wrote: > > > I am sorry. Truly. I feel your pain. My nada has been using > Facebook > > as well. Seriously, > > when...does...it...end? I really wish that boundaries would be > > > respected. I am coming to > > the conclusion that the less expectations I have that she will > act > > as an adult and sane the > > less likely I will be to be disapointed or hurt. > > > > But my heart goes out to you. She is being inappropriate and > trying > > to get you riled... > > > > Peace, > > Dorian > > > > > > > > > > It's been almost two weeks since I went officially NC with > Nada (we > > > were very low contact before that). If anyone remembers she > wanted > > to > > > come visit my children, I told her no, and she kept saying > she WAS > > > coming, I told her that if showed up we would be either not > here, or > > > would call the police, she started screaming at me (YOU ARE > > CRAZY!!!) > > > and the conversation ended. > > > > > > Last week was the year anniversary of my SIL's death. Nada didn't > > > really know her, had met her once at our wedding I think. > She sent > > my > > > husband this saccharine email about how she was 'praying for > husbnad> > and his family' (she knows we are NOT religious), and > then went on > > > about how she knew how hard it was because HER mother died > this year > > > and the holidays and birthday were hard (it's always about > Nada in > > the > > > end, right?) > > > > > > Then last night I was on facebook and my cousin Meg messaged me, > > > saying that she thought I should know that nada is stalking > me. (her > > > words). She said nada is always pressuring meg to use megs > > facebook to > > > look at mine (I have nada blocked) and to use megs computer > to > > look at > > > our website (it's invite only now, so it wouldn't do any > good, but i > > > previously had nada's ip blocked). She said that nada was telling > > > everyone i was crazy. > > > > > > Meg sounded really annoyed and shared with me some of the > lies that > > > nada is spreading about other family members. I told her i > was > > sorry, > > > and thank you for letting me know. I don't want to > triangulate the > > > situation- i know nada would really enjoy that, but i'm an > adult, i > > > don't play that way. > > > > > > no direct contact though. we will see how long this lasts. i > know > > she > > > still has presents that she is holding on to, thinking she > will > > get to > > > give them to the kids in person. it's just not going to > happen. it > > is > > > kind of a relief to know what is going on behind the scenes > though.> > > > > my nada has no job, doesn't cook, has a maid come once a > week... she > > > needs a hobby her fixation is out of control. > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 9, 2009 Report Share Posted January 9, 2009 LOL! I agree with SLarsen too! my nada decided to get her friends husband to set up a profile for her. I noticed her on facebook when she was listed as one of his friends. i instantly blocked her and since doing so she is no longer on facebook...mmmm... wonder why?? > > > > > > > > It's been almost two weeks since I went officially NC with > > Nada (we > > > > were very low contact before that). If anyone remembers she > > wanted > > > to > > > > come visit my children, I told her no, and she kept saying > > she WAS > > > > coming, I told her that if showed up we would be either not > > here, or > > > > would call the police, she started screaming at me (YOU ARE > > > CRAZY!!!) > > > > and the conversation ended. > > > > > > > > Last week was the year anniversary of my SIL's death. Nada didn't > > > > really know her, had met her once at our wedding I think. > > She sent > > > my > > > > husband this saccharine email about how she was 'praying for > > husbnad> > and his family' (she knows we are NOT religious), and > > then went on > > > > about how she knew how hard it was because HER mother died > > this year > > > > and the holidays and birthday were hard (it's always about > > Nada in > > > the > > > > end, right?) > > > > > > > > Then last night I was on facebook and my cousin Meg messaged me, > > > > saying that she thought I should know that nada is stalking > > me. (her > > > > words). She said nada is always pressuring meg to use megs > > > facebook to > > > > look at mine (I have nada blocked) and to use megs computer > > to > > > look at > > > > our website (it's invite only now, so it wouldn't do any > > good, but i > > > > previously had nada's ip blocked). She said that nada was telling > > > > everyone i was crazy. > > > > > > > > Meg sounded really annoyed and shared with me some of the > > lies that > > > > nada is spreading about other family members. I told her i > > was > > > sorry, > > > > and thank you for letting me know. I don't want to > > triangulate the > > > > situation- i know nada would really enjoy that, but i'm an > > adult, i > > > > don't play that way. > > > > > > > > no direct contact though. we will see how long this lasts. i > > know > > > she > > > > still has presents that she is holding on to, thinking she > > will > > > get to > > > > give them to the kids in person. it's just not going to > > happen. it > > > is > > > > kind of a relief to know what is going on behind the scenes > > though.> > > > > > my nada has no job, doesn't cook, has a maid come once a > > week... she > > > > needs a hobby her fixation is out of control. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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