Re: New Topic : What was your most embarrassing moment pre WLS...

May 3, 2002

> What was your most embarrassing moment pre WLS...

>

Well, I have many as I have been obese all my life it seems.. But most

memorable are these two.

1. Texas Sea World (on a water ride) ... They had to sit 4 people

opposite me to equal my weight to level the ride out.. I was mortified..

2. I got stuck in a booth at Denny's.... Honest I was wedged in tight I

could not get out unassisted.. (another dig a hole and just die movement)

You know even today when I go to a restaurant I size up the booths and

test to make sure I fit.. a head thing I know..

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May 3, 2002

My most embarrassing moment pre WLS has got to be this:

I was dating my husband and things were looking pretty serious. I was 48

years old and my intention was never to marry because I did not experience

happy marriages in my family for one and because I was a product of the 60's

and really not into commitment. Anyway, for whatever reasons, this one was

special and I started thinking about " hmmmmmm he is one I might say yes to. "

So, thanksgiving came around and his mothers sister(his very favorite aunt)

invited him to bring me to dinner. THE BIG DINNER. I WAS TOLD IT WOULD BE HER

FAMILY. SHE HAD FOUR ADULT CHILDREN WHO WERE ALL SINGLE AND DATING AT THE

TIME. WHAT NO ONE TOLD ME WAS THEY WERE COMING WITH THEIR INTENDED AND THAT

TWO OF THEM WERE ALREADY ENGAGED. SHE ALSO INVITED HER SISTER(NOW MY MOTHER

IN LAW) AND THEIR MOTHER AND A COUPLE OF COUSINS. GRAND TOTAL=32 COUSINS,ETC.

SO, THERE WERE SO MANY PEOPLE LOTS OF COLLAPSABLE BRIDGE CHAIRS WERE USED.

YOU GUESSED IT. YOURS TRULY GOT TO THE TABLE AND ALL THAT WAS LEFT WAS A

BRIDGE CHAIR FOR ME. I HAD BEEN TOO EMBARRASSED TO ASK MY HUSBAND TO BE SURE

TO GET ME A SOLID CHAIR BECAUSE HE WAS MY DATE AND I DID NOT WANT TO MAKE MY

WEIGHT THE ISSUE. OBVIOUSLY, HE LOVED ME AND NEVER THOUGHT ABOUT IT.

GUESS WHAT HAPPENED? YEP. I SAT DOWN. THE CHAIR COLLAPSED. I WENT UNDER THE

TABLE AND ALMOST DIED. I WAS VERY NYC COOL OR TRIED TO BE. I MADE A JOKE

ABOUT BEING FAT. EVERYONE LAUGHED AND THAT WAS THAT. WHEN IT WAS ALL OVER, I

WENT HOME AND CRIED AND CRIED. GARY CALLED ME AND SAID HE KNEW MY HEART WAS

BREAKING AND WHAT COULD HE SAY TO MAKE ME KNOW THAT HE LOVED ME AND NOT MY

BODY.

TODAY, 2.5 YRS AFTER WLS HE IS STILL SUPPORTIVE, LOVING AND STILL SAYS ITS

ABOUT ME, NOT MY BODY HE JUST LIKES THAT MY LIFE SPAN HAS INCREASED AND MY

HEALTH IS BETTER. WE ARE, BY THE WAY MARRIED 9 YRS NOW.

JOYCE

Joyce Blavat

" People do not make a change until the pain of remaining the same is

greater than the pain of change. "

" And those who danced were thought insane by those who refused to hear the

music... "

May 3, 2002

Dear Friends,

I think the thing I disliked the most is trouble with the seat belts on

airplanes. And not being able to use the trays, because I couldn't get them

down flat. I'm now feeling so much better. Four months out and down 60

pounds. I'm not sure what to think about doctors who won't operate on anyone

over 60. I'm 72. Is this discrimanation?

I know there are probably more chances for complications. But I haven't had

any. I'm glad the doctor did the long incision. He was able to look around.

He found a problem with my liver. I didn't even need very much pain medicine

after the third day. I was in the hospital four nights. The insurance company

is saving $100 a month on perscriptions for me. I'm off of heart and blood

pressure medication. Also water pills and extra potassium. No more signs of

diabetes. ( I was never on mediacation for that). Good luck to all of you

looking forward to surgery Be positive. I was on a plateau for almost a

month, but this last week the scales were down again.

My biggest problem has been a combination of constipation and diarrhea.

My only meds now are premerin, amitripyline (I have fibromyalgia and that

helps me sleep at night) multivitamins, extra calcium and Vit B2.

Lesley Matson Eugene,Oregon

May 3, 2002

Getting stuck in an amusement ride and a baseball stadium seat.

At 04:37 PM 5/3/02, you wrote:

>What was your most embarrassing moment pre WLS...

>

May 3, 2002

I guess mine is probably wanting to ride the Scrambler ride at a carnival and

not being able to fit. My SIL had to go with her instead. That was the last

time I tried that!

Jeanne in WI

Age 38

Open RNY 05/21/2002

314/ /150-175

5' 8 "

djgraves@...

May 3, 2002

In a message dated 5/3/02 6:28:33 PM Central Daylight Time, joygar@...

writes:

> HEALTH IS BETTER. WE ARE, BY THE WAY MARRIED 9 YRS NOW

awwwwww I love this kind of true love story

May 3, 2002

In a message dated 5/3/02 10:51:21 PM Central Daylight Time,

jim@... writes:

> I share it now

> because its one of those unspoken " guy " things. I'm sure there are a few

> out there who can relate....

>

hey... I have heard that that matter seems to improve with the

reduction in surrounding fatty tissue.... The Mrs. may soon see an all

NEW you (evil grin)

May 3, 2002

In a message dated 5/3/02 10:03:30 PM Central Daylight Time,

dsowders@... writes:

> they said my first

> words were " HOT DAMN I AM A GIRL

ROFL me too... my doctor still laughs at that...

May 3, 2002

I have a couple of them:

1~ When I was 18 at the spring fest. our company was in the bed races,

meaning 4 people pushing a bed down the street to the finish line, well

cause my big booty couldn't run as fast as everyone else I slipped on the

cement ground and MOONED EVERYONE at the fest. And the MOON WAS bright!!

LOL I was so humiliated. I got injured pretty badly as well. Oh and its

all on video tape!

2~ when younger I sat down in a chair and broke the chair cause of my weight

well, you know how kids are they defiantly made fun of me even more so.

3~ Another time, cause of my weight and having such a week bladder, in a

store couldn't get to the rest room in time. And I have to say this was

just a few months before surgery that this happened.

The stories go on and on and on. I would say #1 was the worst though. the

company I worked for pulled sponsorship to the festival as well cause the

gal that was doing the speaking started laughing hysterically. Which didn't

go over too well with the owner of company.

Theresa

*The most beautiful things in the world can not be

seen or even touched. They must be felt with the

heart. ~Helen Keller~

May 3, 2002

I think mine had to be:

1. Travel in an Airplane.......Most flight attendants were pretty cool

about discretely giving me an extension, but I have had a couple that really

made a production of it, and therefore embarrassed the crap out of me....

2. " Losing " my private parts....(I know this is blunt, but its very real)

and being unable to use a urinal without a high risk of making a mess. I

don't think I need to be too specific here...this problem should be self

evident.

I'm happy to say that I'm past ALL of that now....and getting better every

day!

Jim Grimes

Salinas, CA

Open RNY 11/27/01

441 / 309

So have you seen our website at http://www.jimandkelli.com/ ?

Re: New Topic : What was your most embarrassing moment pre

WLS...

> What was your most embarrassing moment pre WLS...

>

May 3, 2002

Well not " SELF " evident but understandable...

and we gals have the same problem..

i woke up from recovery after having skin removal..and

asked to LOOK DOWN THERE....they said my first

words were " HOT DAMN I AM A GIRL! "

At 08:25 PM 5/3/02, you wrote:

>I think mine had to be:

>

>1. Travel in an Airplane.......Most flight attendants were pretty cool

>about discretely giving me an extension, but I have had a couple that really

>made a production of it, and therefore embarrassed the crap out of me....

>

>2. " Losing " my private parts....(I know this is blunt, but its very real)

>and being unable to use a urinal without a high risk of making a mess. I

>don't think I need to be too specific here...this problem should be self

>evident.

>

>I'm happy to say that I'm past ALL of that now....and getting better every

>day!

>

>Jim Grimes

>Salinas, CA

>Open RNY 11/27/01

>441 / 309

>

>So have you seen our website at

><http://www.jimandkelli.com/>http://www.jimandkelli.com/ ?

>

> Re: New Topic : What was your most embarrassing moment pre

>WLS...

>

> > What was your most embarrassing moment pre WLS...

> >

>

May 3, 2002

Hehehe....that would have been priceless to hear!

In all seriousness though...I have never been, well, you know.... " well

endowed " .....and when I gained so much weight in my lower abdomen and groin

area, it literally swallowed most of what was there.

Now you have to understand that this was always quite humiliating for me.

The only person that has ever been aware of this was my wife, and only

because she has been around long enough to " see it go " . I share it now

because its one of those unspoken " guy " things. I'm sure there are a few

out there who can relate....

Now that I've TOTALLY bared my soul here....I'll shut up for a while!

Jim

So have you seen our website at http://www.jimandkelli.com/ ?

RE: New Topic : What was your most embarrassing moment pre

WLS...

Well not " SELF " evident but understandable...

and we gals have the same problem..

i woke up from recovery after having skin removal..and

asked to LOOK DOWN THERE....they said my first

words were " HOT DAMN I AM A GIRL! "

May 4, 2002

That's already happening! Things are getting pretty darn OK in that

department! And the exercise (from going to the gym so much) is improving

the overall performance and stamina!

So have you seen our website at http://www.jimandkelli.com/ ?

Re: New Topic : What was your most embarrassing moment pre

WLS...

hey... I have heard that that matter seems to improve with the

reduction in surrounding fatty tissue.... The Mrs. may soon see an all

NEW you (evil grin)

May 4, 2002

In a message dated 5/4/02 1:38:27 AM Central Daylight Time,

jim@... writes:

> improving

> the overall performance and stamina!

>

Cool umm hot (blush) umm you know what I mean

May 4, 2002

In a message dated 5/4/02 8:28:23 AM Central Daylight Time,

djgraves@... writes:

> Well, that's all behind you now. :-)

>

GOOD Play on words there

May 4, 2002

Uh....yeah....same here!

:-0

So have you seen our website at http://www.jimandkelli.com/ ?

Re: New Topic : What was your most embarrassing moment pre

WLS...

In a message dated 5/4/02 1:38:27 AM Central Daylight Time,

jim@... writes:

> improving

> the overall performance and stamina!

>

Cool umm hot (blush) umm you know what I mean

May 4, 2002

Joyce - That's a really sweet story even thought it was highly embarassing for

you. You've got a keeper!

Jeanne in WI

Age 38

Open RNY 05/21/2002

314/ /150-175

5' 8 "

djgraves@...

May 4, 2002

Oh Theresa - You poor thing! I'm surprised that didn't show up on one of those

funniest video shows! Well, that's all behind you now. :-)

Jeanne in WI

Age 38

Open RNY 05/21/2002

314/ /150-175

5' 8 "

djgraves@...

May 4, 2002

Lesley - Thank you for sharing your story with us. In regards to the bowel

problems, do you take any additional fiber, like Metamucil or something? That

might help to even things out somewhat. Also, maybe something in your diet

causes these fluctuations? I have fibro, too, and IBS is a big part of it. I'm

a little nervous as to what the IBS will be like post-op, but it's not great

when it flares now, so can't be much worse. Take care.

Jeanne in WI

Age 38

Open RNY 05/21/2002

314/ /150-175

5' 8 "

djgraves@...

May 4, 2002

As long as we are talking about this....my husband has gained a large amount

of weight these past few years...and it is almost all swallowed up. I have

lost over 80 lbs and I am starting to " want to " again...it has been so

long....but it is so stubby I think it may be impossible..how do I tell him

you need to lose weight so your penis can reappear?????? I mean that is a

very sensitive subject... Jim...did your wife every say anything? I mean, I

honestly do not think he has a clue..if so he has never let on..before he

gained sex was great..even with my weight...but it has been so long I don't

think he realizes..any imput?

In a message dated 5/3/02 11:51:26 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

jim@... writes:

> In all seriousness though...I have never been, well, you know.... " well

> endowed " .....and when I gained so much weight in my lower abdomen and

> groin

> area, it literally swallowed most of what was there.

>

> Now you have to understand that this was always quite humiliating for me.

> The only person that has ever been aware of this was my wife, and only

> because she has been around long enough to " see it go " . I share it now

> because its one of those unspoken " guy " things. I'm sure there are a few

> out there who can relate....

>

> Now that I've TOTALLY bared my soul here....I'll shut up for a while!

>

May 4, 2002

OOOOOOh trust me they thought about it but I hidded the tape for long times!

LOL And the moon is still bright just not as big! LOLOL

Love,

Theresa

*The most beautiful things in the world can not be

seen or even touched. They must be felt with the

heart. ~Helen Keller~

May 4, 2002

My most embarrassing moment was when I was hospitalized and had to go to

xray , and I didnt fit the wheelchair .. and the attendant told me I could

either go by stretcher or walk, they didnt have a large enough wheelchair.. I

went back to the room and cried I was so embarrassed..

OR

When I was at my mom/s apt and sat on her toilet and it broke.. I had to

tell her.. and listen to her lecture me about being so fat... and call the

apt manager for her and report a broken toilet seat..

Hugs,

in GA

open RNY 12/12/00

revision 04/18/01

revision 02/07/02

sw392

cw 209

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May 4, 2002

In a message dated 5/4/02 6:00:39 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

jim@... writes:

> In any event, I'd be interested in knowing how this goes for you.....

>

thanks Jim, for your reply. It may be tommorrow or three weeks before I get

the chance to bring it up. But, in anycase I will let you know.

Complicating the situation is my weight going doooown..I know that with him

being depressed( he is) and heavy that it could cause insecurity if I add to

the mix by saying hey, your penis has shrunk under the fat...even if I say it

in a nice way... So I am thinking that the thing to do is to build him up in

other ways and to involve him as much as I can in my new activities etc..to

show him 1st that it is all about make US stronger, before I bring it up..and

possibly he may catch the fever and I may never have to bring it up if he

starts getting active etc. I appreciate you guys, there is no one else in the

world I would have talked this over with. ((((HUGS))))

May 4, 2002

IN a store, waiting for Don to try on clothes. Kids near by waiting for

parents. Little girl about 4 says to her brothers (maybe 8-10?), " WOW, look at

that FAAAAAAAAT lady " . I was horrified.

OR

Was sitting there ALONE one day, eating one of my " diet " foods. Nekkid tuna,

nekkid toast, 1 pickle spear. Chair leg broke & threw me head first into sliding

glass door.

Pick one.

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New Topic : What was your most embarrassing moment pre WLS...

What was your most embarrassing moment pre WLS...

May 4, 2002

Well, the first one to broach the subject was me. She had noticed that I

had stopped urinating from the standing position and innocently asked why.

I explained to her that I had already had a couple of accidents related to

the lack of " directional control " , meaning that there was less of it to find

and grab onto and so there was seldom enough to reach beyond the area of my

pants, and found that the only way to go safely was to sit down.

This, naturally let to a discussion of size with regard to sex. She lived

with this for years. And my own sex drive fell off to almost nothing at all.

I don't think I realized what was happening until after the second time I

sprayed the front of my pants. (Thinking the first was an anomaly) . Then

once we talked about it...the sex part was a natural progression of the

conversation.

You know I'm usually pretty chatty, and have some kind of opinion on almost

any subject, but on the subject of speaking to your hubby about this, I'm

not sure how you should proceed. I can only suggest that if you have a

strong and loving relationship, and it sounds as if you do, he would listen

to what you have to say if you had a frank, but delicate conversation about

this. Maybe the best thing to do is find a way to get it in a conversation.

In any event, I'd be interested in knowing how this goes for you.....