Re: First day back at work/Todd

August 15, 2000

Todd

How do you handle comments like that? My roommate was on this diet for a week

with me and didnt last either and now she makes snide remarks everytime I eat

a hamburger without the bun, etc.....what do you say when those people say

you wont keep it off?

Jen

In a message dated 8/15/00 12:17:07 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

zookeper@... writes:

<< Hi All,

Wel yesterday was my first day back to work in 9 days and I was quite pleased

to have gotten compliments on looking good from the time I walked in and

throughout the day. It really helps keep my momentum going and I just felt so

good about myself.

Of course there were the people that started the diet with me and failed

within a

week

to stay on it, they had had neg comments like " Your just gonna gain it

back " and

there are better ways to lose. One girl is on some weight loss pill, not

meridia

but

something else. She has been on it almost 2 weeks and hasnt lost a pound. So

I

guess that isnt working either.

So now I am back into gear and going full steam on losing and losing and

losing.

Have a mist excellent week everyone nad be big losers.

Todd >>

August 15, 2000

I just wish I knew what to say in situations like that. I get so upset, not

to the point of tears or anything but I just really get upset and I'm sure

it's written all over my face. That is a horrible story about your SIL and

sorry to say it but what a bitch. My roommate is driving me crazy over

this.....I was talking to a friend of mine she is one of those people who you

hate, thin and gorgeous, she said, , you are getting thin and this is

how people act.....she wasnt being vain or vane or vein or however you spell

it in this case but anyway she said, I've been thin my whole life and you

just better get used to it. I was like, GREAT. I was thin in middle school

and I'm not sure that I remember people acting like this but I was a

kid.....who knows. This is a good discussion topic for everyone......HOW

DOES EVERYONE HANDLE SITUATIONS LIKE THIS???? (Situation being people tell

you.....'you will just put the weight right back on' or people being

obnoxious and saying things like 'look at how she eats this hamburger guys

WITHOUT the bun' )

In a message dated 8/15/00 1:24:34 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

Adria@... writes:

<< Jen,

I have this happen to me too, maybe I mentioned my sister-in-law's

birthday party, I wore the tightest outfit I could find, a plaid mini

skirt, a tailored bright red blouse and highheeled sandals...everyone

raved about how 'skinny' I look, but when it came to dessert,

(SIL) laughed about how we ate at a seperate table (us poor low carbers

all alone with a wonderful salad and a HUGE plate of meat) then come

dessert (I brought cheesecake for the LCers) she kept going on and on

about how I wish I wasn't LCing now, and licking her lips and oohing and

ahhing over her cake... I said nothing, but watching her, with a knife

in one hand, her plate in the other, looking down at that cake with

glazed over eyes, a huge stupid grin on her face, and the nastiest

multiple chin thing going on, I just smiled and told her I didn't have

the slightest craving, but I hope she enjoyed it..........

Oh yeah, about 3 days later she called my mother in law to ask for

atkins advice

they're just jealous !

Adria

>>

August 15, 2000

,

I would suggest that you gather your courage and just tell your " friend " that

you don't appreciate her comments--you don't criticize her lifestlye (don't

say that if you do ). And that you'd really appreciate it if she'd not do

that to you anymore, because it hurts. Perhaps if she knows how it makes you

feel, she won't do it, unless she's just a real bitch, she probably doesn't

mean to hurt you that way. Good luck!

JMO

August 15, 2000

In a message dated 8/15/00 1:56:01 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

frenyea@... writes:

<< ,

I would suggest that you gather your courage and just tell your " friend " that

you don't appreciate her comments--you don't criticize her lifestlye (don't

say that if you do ). And that you'd really appreciate it if she'd not do

that to you anymore, because it hurts. Perhaps if she knows how it makes you

feel, she won't do it, unless she's just a real bitch, she probably doesn't

mean to hurt you that way. Good luck!

JMO

>>

I'll have to get really fired up to say something like that LOL I am looking

for more subtle stuff to say I think LOL

August 15, 2000

Jen/Adria/Todd --

The hell with those people!!!!! I can't stand nay-sayers, I swear!!! I have

already 'coached' in how to respond to those people (have you been

practicing?)....am I *now* going to have to schedule a group session??

And you're right, Adria, they are jealous. Anytime someone differs from others

in trying to better themselves...there is jealousy - because they only wish that

they had just a teeny piece of that control that we show everytime there is a

food choice.

Hang in there -- don't let these people get to you....see who has the last

laugh!!

So There!!!

(taking appointments for 'attitude sessions' for anyone interested.....LOL)

In a message dated Tue, 15 Aug 2000 1:23:52 PM Eastern Daylight Time, Adria

Filion writes: