Re: I have to vent I need help ladies

[Guest guest]

There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus! I

know it hurts, I have been judged too, just remember that some peoples sins

are on the inside or hidden, some are obvious, but a sin is a sin and we all

do it. This woman who thinks she is better and without sin is wrong in what

she is doing. Have you talked to her about why your dh went to prison? Maybe

she doesn't know and is afraid of what she can't see, but you will face this

from people until someone gives them something else to talk about and the

memories fade. It will blow over. Hang in there and be strong and know that

God loves your family. Be careful who you tell when it comes to this subject.

I have found that it is better not to tell, because people are people, they

just are. Take care sweetie, Ingy

[Guest guest]

P.S. Do you have to tell your son? I would talk to the lady about this right

away. Yucky call, but worth it.

[Guest guest]

I agree with !

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Arlene:

Totally unfair to your son -- If it were me I would go directly to her house and

confront her! I would (not that it is any of her business) explain to her the

situation. If she still refused my child to play with hers - screw it, it's not

worth it, there are other kids to play with.

(just my opinion, I seem to be very opinionated today, not sure why?)

G.

Nashville, TN

I have to vent I need help ladies

Ok,

I have a problem with MEAN people.

My little boy who is 9 has a best friend who he has played with since

he started school here in Batesville 3 yrs ago. Well this past week

he asked to play at the boys house and I told him as long as the mom

didn't care, well I never got the chance to talk to her so being the

confindent mom I asked the friend if his mom cared for JC to play at

their house, he says no. Well he goes there to play and my son is a

very honest open person the mom asks him about his parents and my son

tells her where I work and my name then she asked about his dad.

Well my DH is in Jail so my son who isn't ashamed of his dad tells

her and she immediately leaves the room.

WEELLLLL today my day care lady is at the park and runs into this

lady and they are talking and when she finds out my son goes to her

day care, she tells my day care lady that JC is no longer allowed to

play at her house because he has a father who is a felonist and she

doesn't want her son to play with a boy from that type of lifestyle.

My DH went to prison for DUI's NOT murder or anything really terrible.

I hate MEAN people.

Now how do I tell my son without making him cry. I have cried enough

about this to fill a pool.

Help me

Arlene

[Guest guest]

My kids grandpa is on prison and they let everyone know. No one seems to

care around here . They just get nosy and ask why.

I have to vent I need help ladies

> Ok,

> I have a problem with MEAN people.

> My little boy who is 9 has a best friend who he has played with since

> he started school here in Batesville 3 yrs ago. Well this past week

> he asked to play at the boys house and I told him as long as the mom

> didn't care, well I never got the chance to talk to her so being the

> confindent mom I asked the friend if his mom cared for JC to play at

> their house, he says no. Well he goes there to play and my son is a

> very honest open person the mom asks him about his parents and my son

> tells her where I work and my name then she asked about his dad.

> Well my DH is in Jail so my son who isn't ashamed of his dad tells

> her and she immediately leaves the room.

> WEELLLLL today my day care lady is at the park and runs into this

> lady and they are talking and when she finds out my son goes to her

> day care, she tells my day care lady that JC is no longer allowed to

> play at her house because he has a father who is a felonist and she

> doesn't want her son to play with a boy from that type of lifestyle.

> My DH went to prison for DUI's NOT murder or anything really terrible.

> I hate MEAN people.

> Now how do I tell my son without making him cry. I have cried enough

> about this to fill a pool.

> Help me

> Arlene

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[Guest guest]

arlene

being the streight forward person i am i would also do what leslie said ,

tell jc it is not his fault and that lady has a problem then go see her and

the other bust bodies and give them a mouth full, that will show jc you are

not ashamed of your dh either and he made a mistake and hes sorry and he has

did his time, dont let that hateful lady get away with hurting your son,

love judy

[Guest guest]

Arlene, we all know what happened, we know what kind of wonderful person you

are, we know that your DH isn't a monster. I'm certainly not defending the

mother that said that since it was very ignorant, however, as a mother, if I

didn't know the whole story, I would be hesitant to send my children to

somebodys house too. I have a neighbor, a dear friend, who's husband has been

in and out of prison for drugs, alcohol, etc. and to be honest, I don't let my

daughter spend the night (they have a DD about my DD's age) when he is there.

WE know that your husband wouldn't hurt a fly, but there are so many nuts out

there, us mother's can never be too careful. I know you would be the same when

it came to your children and you didn't know the whole story.

It is however, the other mothers shame that she didn't take the time to find out

the whole truth. Her loss. You don't need her in your life, or her kids.

I hope this adds some insight.

in MI

Re: I have to vent I need help ladies

arlene

being the streight forward person i am i would also do what leslie said ,

tell jc it is not his fault and that lady has a problem then go see her and

the other bust bodies and give them a mouth full, that will show jc you are

not ashamed of your dh either and he made a mistake and hes sorry and he has

did his time, dont let that hateful lady get away with hurting your son,

love judy

[Guest guest]

You have nothing to cry for. You are a good mother b/c you have taught your

son to say the truth in the face of potential embarrassment. Even our last

president couldn't do that. Anyway, always pray for those who hate you, for

they have a log in their eyes while yours is a spec. Stay blessed.