Guest guest Posted December 11, 2006 Report Share Posted December 11, 2006 Hi , I think stress is a huge factor for some people because of how they cope with it. I would say that your mother in law obvisouly knows and loves your little boy already right, what difference does it make what they call what he has. I think if you tell her it would only be a big deal if you are totally stressed about it. NOt telling her will make it hard for you to talk openly about his treatments and everything you are going to do for him. I guess it depends on how much you see her and how much a part of your life she is. It sounds like her mom and husband need to make some changes in their routine also. Getting on some fish oil and minerals would be a start. Let us know what happens. wrote: > > Anyways, my husband and I are debating whether >or not to tell her that our son was diagnosed with Autism. We have >kept it from her for fear that it will cause her stress and cause her >to have another flare up. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 HI katie.. For me stress is the one and only trigger..weather it be phisycal or emotional, large scale or small..it is my trigger.. Its a delicate subject as to weather she should be informed.. I wish you the best either way Helen x > >Reply-To: mscured >To: mscured >Subject: Stress Factor >Date: Tue, 12 Dec 2006 01:13:18 -0000 > >Just wondering what you all think about how big a role stress plays in >triggering flare ups or symptoms? > >My dear mother in law was diagnosed last year with MS and it seems >that throughout the past 25 years her symptoms had occured with major >life stressors (father died=blatter problems, her mother had a >stroke=eye issues, her husband had a heart attack=pain in head that >lead to her diagnosis) Anyways, my husband and I are debating whether >or not to tell her that our son was diagnosed with Autism. We have >kept it from her for fear that it will cause her stress and cause her >to have another flare up. > >Thanks for any input or advice! I'm looking forward to learning lots >from this group and passing along information to my mother in law! > > > _________________________________________________________________ Express yourself instantly with MSN Messenger! Download today it's FREE! http://messenger.msn.click-url.com/go/onm00200471ave/direct/01/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 , There is no doubt that negative stress is a MAJOR trigger to bring on MS problems. The only way that I have found to deal with that is to: 1. Learn when to let go....If it is out of your control, there is nothing that you can do about it...so let it go. 2. If there is something that you can do about it...do the very best that you can, you cannot do more than that. If that does not help...let it go, you cannot do more than the best that you can. 3. Everything that we do or do not do is a choice...your choice. Sometimes we have no choice...if and when that occurs...accept it. However, don't accept until after you have done your best. Regards, Tom Stress Factor Just wondering what you all think about how big a role stress plays in triggering flare ups or symptoms? My dear mother in law was diagnosed last year with MS and it seems that throughout the past 25 years her symptoms had occured with major life stressors (father died=blatter problems, her mother had a stroke=eye issues, her husband had a heart attack=pain in head that lead to her diagnosis) Anyways, my husband and I are debating whether or not to tell her that our son was diagnosed with Autism. We have kept it from her for fear that it will cause her stress and cause her to have another flare up. Thanks for any input or advice! I'm looking forward to learning lots from this group and passing along information to my mother in law! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 Stress is really bad for me too. I'm trying to get disability now, along with short term disability from my work for my fatigue. As of right now, The stress is making me wonder if it's worth it, but I know it will in the long run. Thanks, Debbie Cleo Christou wrote: HI katie.. For me stress is the one and only trigger..weather it be phisycal or emotional, large scale or small..it is my trigger.. Its a delicate subject as to weather she should be informed.. I wish you the best either way Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 I take St 's Wort to stop any stress getting me down, it is a natural anti-depressant and worth looking into. . Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2006 Report Share Posted December 12, 2006 I think you need to tell her. She may already believe something isn't right with your son. My nephew hasn't had a formal diagnosis yet, but it's becoming really obvious to me that he has at least some form of autism. My little sister has had the hardest time, socially. People just can't stand her little boy and think she is a terrible mom. She feels so much pain because of this. I've even been really angry with my nephew and my sister, not understanding what the deal was. Now that I'm seeing it, I feel a lot of relief and am much more compassionate. Here's how I'd (not) drop the bomb; Send a letter! (example letter) " Dear Mommy in law, We have some news that isn't wonderful but gives us a huge amount of relief for our situation. We care about you and your health and worried that telling you would be a major stress, triggering further health issues. But then we realized this shouldn't be such a negative thing, because it can give us all more freedom and understanding. Tommy has been diagnosed with autism, which explains SO MUCH and gives us the opportunity to look for and receive the proper tools to help him be happy and progress. We're excited to be able to finally see the road ahead and we just really want you to have the same peace in knowing this that we do, etc. " Something like that. Just totally positive.. Just my idea. ~amy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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