Re: So sick of stares & ready to quit -Kim

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Kim - I am sorry you are feeling so down about the helmet. First off remember that Jaxson most likely has no idea that any of this is happening. The most important part is him and his feelings and I would think he doesn't really know that people are staring. When I see people staring I say in a really loud voice "oh look Aidan, that woman thinks you are beautiful and she can't stop looking at you!" Usually makes them embarrassed enough to look away. That said..

Is Jax's band decorated? I am not sure if you saw the picture of Aidan's, but his decoration is pretty elablorate. I get tons of people that come up to me and ask me about it. I really like it when people ask me about the helmet and what it is for. The most common comment I get is "oh poor thing, did he hurt his head?". I think that one is pretty funny - do they think the helmet is holding in his brain or something?? Either way, I have found that with the helmet decorated people will look - but then feel comfortable to come over and ask. I have no problem with them asking, people should know. And a very common answer I get it "oh my son/daughter/sibling had that, I wish they had those when we were younger!"

The few rude stares I have gotten I have said something to the people. My mom told me to ignore it but I didn't feel like it. Maybe people don't know about plagio but they darn well should know about common decency!!

I hope it gets easier for you!

Deb w/ Aidan C.

So sick of stares & ready to quit - little long

Hello all - I am sure all of you that have had your little ones in a helmet have went through this, and somehow managed. The first time I took Jaxson out with his helmet, Dec. 6th (3 days after he got it) I had a bad experience with someone asking me if it was to stop him from banging his head. I explained it to her, nicely, but all along my eyes welling up. After that day, I told his PT about it and she said it really needs to be known, more public, what a helmet is for. She suggested I call the newspapers, news channels, etc. I emailed them all, haven't heard anything yet (just did this on Thursday). I want more people around my area to know about it. Well, I wanted so badly to just be done with the helmet this weekend. First, I was in Wal-Mart picking up stocking stuffers and decided to check out their sticker department. I had noticed all along people just kind of looking at Jax, but a little glance was ok.. I was ok with it. In the stickers, this woman stopped right next to my cart, STARING at Jax. She didn't say anything. I said nothing. Yet. She walked away, turned around, and CAME BACK to stare MORE. She stood there looking at him like he was a side show at the fair or something. I asked her in not so nice of a tone what she was staring at and just ASK already. She said nothing and walked away. I was sooo mad. To top it all off, I went Christmas shopping at the mall yesterday along with Jaxson. All kinds of people just stared at him like he was a freak. I wanted to pretend it was because he's so darn cute, but after the 15th, 20th time of hearing the comments after they walked by, I couldn't take it any longer. I want to take it off and keep it off him. I don't want to go out in public this way again with people commenting, but never asking. I feel so stupid because I'm crying right now typing this. Bawling actually. It has only been 12 days in this helmet and I am now emotionally, a mess. I dread going out in public. Jax's dad tells me to ignore it, but how can I? I can tell if someone is staring and it's just not right, not polite. More needs to be done to have this out there, to have more information out there. Any suggestions or help, BESIDES locking me up in an institution... Kimmom to Kaela (age 9) and Jaxson 5 months w/plagio/tort CranioCap 12/3/03For more plagio info