Guest guest Posted July 28, 2002 Report Share Posted July 28, 2002 > If it wasn't for this group I probably wouldn't even be on > a diet any more. .......Me too! I tell ya, I wanted so bady to say something about " at least I'm not looking for 'other men' " or something of the sort. >It gives me suport and helps keep me focased. ........Yep. And he NEVER compliments or says anything posative at all. I could wake up perfect in every way (I wish), and he wouldn't notice or say a thing. A girl was here the other day out in the shed with all the guys. So of course I had to go out and see what she looked like, who she was, and be certain she was out there for one of the guys...my husband was 1/2 under a dumptruck getting ready to do some welding and I got to the interior of the shed just before she did. He didn't even glance when I was coming in...but when she walked in and I saw who it was I said " you look nice today " ...of course my husband immediately had to crain his neck around to 'see'. >I weighed in today and lost a pound too. I > just wish I could loose faster. It seems like it slowes down every > week. Is it supose to? .....good job on the pound loss! I lost fast then would stop then would go slow then stay the same then fast again. The longer your body has been fed propperly the better it runs. I can't hardly believe how my weight is falling off here the last several days... Oh - my sister in law (size 0) told me I was medium today...like, instead of fat, now I'm medium :-) I'll take that! Ang > > > Ok - so my husband comes in after a kitchen comment that didn't > > get 'the correct answer' as far as he was concerned, and starts > > complaining abut my being her everyday.... > > he says if we all got up off the keyboard and did something we > > wouldn't be fat. > > Of course I wanted to say something about what he 'does' infront of > > his computer and ask how many caloried he burns that way.... > (remember > > I just discovered he's back at the porn). > > > > Aaarrrrhhhh! How I manage to keep my mouth shut is beyond me! > > Ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2002 Report Share Posted July 28, 2002 Ang, Don't feel bad. My husband dose the same crap. What really bothers me is when I am fat he is never intrested in " you know what " But when I get down in my fourtys and thirtys he wont leave me alone. He tells me all the time that the weight dosen't matter but I feel like he is way nicer to me when I am smaller. About two 1/2 years ago we were at the track. My husband and boys race dirt bikes. Any way the guy who owns the track my husband has been friends with since they were kids. Well this guys wife is like three years younger then me. Beautiful, is about a size 1, riding is her passion. I personaly don't ride because I have spent the last 7 years being pregnant. Basicaly this lady is his dream girl and you could tell. He was being so friendly that even her husband could tell. He didn't say anything but he looked jelious. So here I am fat with one of those baby frunt cariers on and trying to some how fit in there conversation. I was so mad at him and his excuse was I was just trying to help you make friends at the track so you would want to come more. Bottem line is guys are always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry to say most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think I am full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh about how there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out about the porn cause he is going to do it anyway. But if you think he might cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. I have been cheeted on so many times. Not by my husband but past relation ships. I have a really hard time with trust. I don't trust men period. I'm not trying to make all you good guys out there look bad. I don't think all men are bad. I wouldn't worry about the other stuff, just make sure he isn't cheeting and don't let him find out if your suspecious. Anyways soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. When you do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there and see how he likes it. Michel ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > > > Ok - so my husband comes in after a kitchen comment that didn't > > > get 'the correct answer' as far as he was concerned, and starts > > > complaining abut my being her everyday.... > > > he says if we all got up off the keyboard and did something we > > > wouldn't be fat. > > > Of course I wanted to say something about what he 'does' infront > of > > > his computer and ask how many caloried he burns that way.... > > (remember > > > I just discovered he's back at the porn). > > > > > > Aaarrrrhhhh! How I manage to keep my mouth shut is beyond me! > > > Ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2002 Report Share Posted July 28, 2002 > He was being so friendly > that even her husband could tell. ......Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat like ??? I mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the way he talks! > Bottem line is guys are > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry to say > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think I am > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh about how > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out about the > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. .......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at the track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that counts. It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, I don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his life'. > But if you think he might > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. .......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my coolness that somethings up - and it's always the same thing. >Anyways > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. When you > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there and see > how he likes it. .....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't probably. He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just don't like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his friends take notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in particular because he always wants to hug me or something...he doen't mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2002 Report Share Posted July 29, 2002 Ang, No I'm definetly not ok with him looking at porn and he knows that. I just don't see the point in fliping out about it when you can't change people. I made it clear that I don't like it but I'm not going to go out and get divorce papers over it either. And about the lady at the track. He wasn't making passes at her I could just tell he was atracted to her. It's only humon nature to look it's if you cross the line by being more then just friendly with a person. I know he has never cheated on me I just don't let my self think it would never happen to me because it could happen to anyone. We have a close relationship, were like best friends and thats why he dosen't hide anything from me. I would rather know that he does it then to try to hide things from me. I don't get up tight when he looks at other girls and sais if he thinks there pritty. He doesn't do it very often. And I will point out a good looken guy too if I see one. We just laugh about it because we know that we love eachother and that looking is all that it is. Michel ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > > He was being so friendly > > that even her husband could tell. > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat like ??? I > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the way he > talks! > > > Bottem line is guys are > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry to > say > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think I am > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh about how > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out about > the > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at the > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that counts. > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, I > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his life'. > > > But if you think he might > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my coolness that > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > >Anyways > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. When > you > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there and > see > > how he likes it. > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't probably. > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just don't > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his friends take > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > particular because he always wants to hug me or something...he doen't > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2002 Report Share Posted July 29, 2002 Well, like you said - he doesn't hide it. Women tell my husband things like " anywhere, anytime " , " So what, your wife don't have to know " ... all kinds of stuff. These girls are all but begging him, trying to talk him into sex. He doesn't tell me, I always find out from someone else long after anything could have happened. If he were the type to tell me, I could joke with him and tell him how wonderful he must be or whatever. But when he just makes it like his 'secret life' --- it's just not right. If he sees something he wants to look at he'll just wait till I'm not around - sneaky because he thinks I'll get mad. What he deosn't realize is that it the fact that he completely shuts me out that makes me mand and is so wrong. Ang > > > He was being so friendly > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat like ??? I > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the way he > > talks! > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry to > > say > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think I am > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh about > how > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out about > > the > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at the > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > counts. > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, I > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > life'. > > > > > But if you think he might > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my coolness > that > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > >Anyways > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. When > > you > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there and > > see > > > how he likes it. > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't probably. > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just don't > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his friends > take > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > particular because he always wants to hug me or something...he > doen't > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2002 Report Share Posted July 29, 2002 Ang, I am one of those women who truly believes in love. I usually give advice for people to stick with their spouses in good times and in bad, but this is an exception. Your husband sounds like he is far from caring. I know it's tough to adress, but you shouldn't have to put up wqith bullshit. There's alot of men out there who WOULD be faithfull and truthfull with you. Maybe it it time for a divorce. I'm sorry if my response has upset you in any way. Vicky amdvdhjr wrote: Well, like you said - he doesn't hide it. Women tell my husband things like " anywhere, anytime " , " So what, your wife don't have to know " ... all kinds of stuff. These girls are all but begging him, trying to talk him into sex. He doesn't tell me, I always find out from someone else long after anything could have happened. If he were the type to tell me, I could joke with him and tell him how wonderful he must be or whatever. But when he just makes it like his 'secret life' --- it's just not right. If he sees something he wants to look at he'll just wait till I'm not around - sneaky because he thinks I'll get mad. What he deosn't realize is that it the fact that he completely shuts me out that makes me mand and is so wrong. Ang > > > He was being so friendly > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat like ??? I > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the way he > > talks! > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry to > > say > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think I am > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh about > how > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out about > > the > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at the > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > counts. > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, I > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > life'. > > > > > But if you think he might > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my coolness > that > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > >Anyways > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. When > > you > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there and > > see > > > how he likes it. > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't probably. > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just don't > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his friends > take > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > particular because he always wants to hug me or something...he > doen't > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2002 Report Share Posted July 29, 2002 I agree with you. Now if I didn't lovwe the jerk so dambed much... And the kids of course. The thing is - he's the best, perfect in every other way. Why can't we have it all? I wish he had a drinking or drug problem instead - anything but this :-( Ang > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat like ??? > I > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the way he > > > talks! > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry > to > > > say > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think I > am > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh about > > how > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out > about > > > the > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at the > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > > counts. > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, I > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > > life'. > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my coolness > > that > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. > When > > > you > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there > and > > > see > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > probably. > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just > don't > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his friends > > take > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or something...he > > doen't > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > ang > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2002 Report Share Posted July 30, 2002 Poor Ang : ( hmmm........if only there were a treatment clinic for ass-hole-ish behavior. excuse my language Vicky amdvdhjr wrote: I agree with you. Now if I didn't lovwe the jerk so dambed much... And the kids of course. The thing is - he's the best, perfect in every other way. Why can't we have it all? I wish he had a drinking or drug problem instead - anything but this :-( Ang > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat like ??? > I > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the way he > > > talks! > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry > to > > > say > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think I > am > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh about > > how > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out > about > > > the > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at the > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > > counts. > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, I > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > > life'. > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my coolness > > that > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. > When > > > you > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there > and > > > see > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > probably. > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just > don't > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his friends > > take > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or something...he > > doen't > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > ang > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2002 Report Share Posted July 30, 2002 Hi Ang, Sorry so long getting back to you. Who are these women that are trying to get with your husband? I didn't realize how bad he was treating you. No, that changes everything if he is talking about ??? with other women. Do you think he has? You shouldn't have to be put through that. I feel that all people are diffrent and if it is really hurting you when he looks at porn then he needs to stop. Your feelings are more important then his pleasure. > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat like ??? > I > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the way he > > > talks! > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry > to > > > say > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think I > am > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh about > > how > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out > about > > > the > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at the > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > > counts. > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, I > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > > life'. > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my coolness > > that > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. > When > > > you > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there > and > > > see > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > probably. > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just > don't > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his friends > > take > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or something...he > > doen't > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2002 Report Share Posted July 30, 2002 I tell ya....and he is so perfect and responsible and wonderful in every other way. I know he tries to stay away from it for the most part....but when he is mad or ticked off - no one can be a bigger jerk than him (on purpose). Ang > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat like ??? > > I > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the way > he > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry > > to > > > > say > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think > I > > am > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh > about > > > how > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out > > about > > > > the > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at > the > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > > > counts. > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, I > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my > coolness > > > that > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. > > When > > > > you > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there > > and > > > > see > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > > probably. > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just > > don't > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his friends > > > take > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or something...he > > > doen't > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > > ang > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2002 Report Share Posted July 30, 2002 Well the women who try to talk him into stuff are work, gas stations truckies ect... He doesn't GO to places where they are or find reasons to go towards or talk to them...they come to him. He has never done anything with them...but it bothers me that he keeps it a secret. Even right here in my own nieghborhood women are 'falling' all over him. (I took my wedding ring off - I figure if he don't wear one niether will I)... He never talks about being with other women. If he did - tell me what he was thinking - I don't think it would be so bad. It's my imagination along with his zipped lip, the internet porn and all the women who think he's so hot that drive me nuts. (He's a non-talker period. Not just on this subject but all. I mean, when his friends from work are out in the shed - I might here them talk about the sexy ladies underwear they find, the big boobed women that drive back and forth all day to flash them, all the 'stuff' they see women doing to themselves when they look down into the cars when driving the big trucks.....but he never says a word to me - even if I ask. Ang > Sorry so long getting back to you. Who are these women that are > trying to get with your husband? I didn't realize how bad he was > treating you. No, that changes everything if he is talking about ??? > with other women. Do you think he has? You shouldn't have to be put > through that. I feel that all people are diffrent and if it is really > hurting you when he looks at porn then he needs to stop. Your > feelings are more important then his pleasure. > > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat > like ??? > > I > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the way > he > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And sorry > > to > > > > say > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there think > I > > am > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh > about > > > how > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out > > about > > > > the > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at > the > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > > > counts. > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, > I > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my > coolness > > > that > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. > > When > > > > you > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out there > > and > > > > see > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > > probably. > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just > > don't > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his > friends > > > take > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or something...he > > > doen't > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > > ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2002 Report Share Posted July 30, 2002 Ang, Sounds to me thet you two really love eachother. Every relation ship has there problems. I'm sure things will get better in time, as long as he realizes that he is hurting your feelings by looking. It sounds like he dose and that he is trying. Good luck to you. Michel > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat > like ??? > > > I > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the > way > > he > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And > sorry > > > to > > > > > say > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there > think > > I > > > am > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh > > about > > > > how > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out > > > about > > > > > the > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at > > the > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > > > > counts. > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? Now, > I > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my > > coolness > > > > that > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. > > > When > > > > > you > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out > there > > > and > > > > > see > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > > > probably. > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just > > > don't > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his > friends > > > > take > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > something...he > > > > doen't > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > > > ang > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 30, 2002 Report Share Posted July 30, 2002 Ang, hi agian, You know it would be nice if he would talk to you more so you could know how to feel. Sounds like normal guy talk though. I know how you feel about the women flirting with him. There is a few women at my husbands work that do that to him. Even hugging and hanging on him. Now that p????? me off and I try to stop it when I am aware of it. If your husband is a good looken guy there isn't much you can do about other women flirting. My husband is one of those guys who has always has girls as friends like the teddy bear kind of thing. Even in middle school. I hate it and I feel like maby sometimes he does things to lead it on by being so nice and letting the hugg him all the time. I just pop in on him at work all the time and haven't seen anything to get real up tight about. If I were you, this is what i do is tell him you don't like all the flirting and you don't want him doing anything to egg it on. Thats really all you can do. I would try as much as you can to communicat about it with out fighting or acusing eachother. Thats what I do. Hope I could helped a little. Michel > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat > > like ??? > > > I > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the > way > > he > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And > sorry > > > to > > > > > say > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there > think > > I > > > am > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh > > about > > > > how > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out > > > about > > > > > the > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at > > the > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > > > > counts. > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? > Now, > > I > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my > > coolness > > > > that > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. > > > When > > > > > you > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out > there > > > and > > > > > see > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > > > probably. > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just > > > don't > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his > > friends > > > > take > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > something...he > > > > doen't > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > > > ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2002 Report Share Posted July 31, 2002 my boyfriend IS the type of guy that only has girls as friends. but what's been bothering me lately is him saying that his new coworker friends(he got a new job)are hot. He's pretty gorgeous and he's surrounded by skinny girls.....i trust him but it still upsets me Vic sunshinestarface wrote:Ang, hi agian, You know it would be nice if he would talk to you more so you could know how to feel. Sounds like normal guy talk though. I know how you feel about the women flirting with him. There is a few women at my husbands work that do that to him. Even hugging and hanging on him. Now that p????? me off and I try to stop it when I am aware of it. If your husband is a good looken guy there isn't much you can do about other women flirting. My husband is one of those guys who has always has girls as friends like the teddy bear kind of thing. Even in middle school. I hate it and I feel like maby sometimes he does things to lead it on by being so nice and letting the hugg him all the time. I just pop in on him at work all the time and haven't seen anything to get real up tight about. If I were you, this is what i do is tell him you don't like all the flirting and you don't want him doing anything to egg it on. Thats really all you can do. I would try as much as you can to communicat about it with out fighting or acusing eachother. Thats what I do. Hope I could helped a little. Michel > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat > > like ??? > > > I > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the > way > > he > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And > sorry > > > to > > > > > say > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there > think > > I > > > am > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh > > about > > > > how > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip out > > > about > > > > > the > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman at > > the > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought that > > > > counts. > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? > Now, > > I > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing about 'his > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my > > coolness > > > > that > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look fine. > > > When > > > > > you > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out > there > > > and > > > > > see > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > > > probably. > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he just > > > don't > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his > > friends > > > > take > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one in > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > something...he > > > > doen't > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > > > ang Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2002 Report Share Posted July 31, 2002 I think that would bother me a little too....but not as much as if he didn't tell you. Now if he all of the sudden stopped talking about them - THEN I'd worry. LOL. Ang > > my boyfriend IS the type of guy that only has girls as friends. but what's been bothering me lately is him saying that his new coworker friends(he got a new job)are hot. He's pretty gorgeous and he's surrounded by skinny girls.....i trust him but it still upsets me > Vic > sunshinestarface wrote:Ang, hi agian, > > You know it would be nice if he would talk to you more so you could > know how to feel. Sounds like normal guy talk though. I know how you > feel about the women flirting with him. There is a few women at my > husbands work that do that to him. Even hugging and hanging on him. > Now that p????? me off and I try to stop it when I am aware of it. If > your husband is a good looken guy there isn't much you can do about > other women flirting. My husband is one of those guys who has always > has girls as friends like the teddy bear kind of thing. Even in > middle school. I hate it and I feel like maby sometimes he does > things to lead it on by being so nice and letting the hugg him all > the time. I just pop in on him at work all the time and haven't seen > anything to get real up tight about. If I were you, this is what i do > is tell him you don't like all the flirting and you don't want him > doing anything to egg it on. Thats really all you can do. I would try > as much as you can to communicat about it with out fighting or > acusing eachother. Thats what I do. Hope I could helped a little. > > Michel > > > > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat > > > like ??? > > > > I > > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of the > > way > > > he > > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And > > sorry > > > > to > > > > > > say > > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there > > think > > > I > > > > am > > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who laugh > > > about > > > > > how > > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip > out > > > > about > > > > > > the > > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman > at > > > the > > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought > that > > > > > counts. > > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? > > Now, > > > I > > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing > about 'his > > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my > > > coolness > > > > > that > > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look > fine. > > > > When > > > > > > you > > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out > > there > > > > and > > > > > > see > > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > > > > probably. > > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he > just > > > > don't > > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his > > > friends > > > > > take > > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one > in > > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > > something...he > > > > > doen't > > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > > > > ang > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2002 Report Share Posted July 31, 2002 Ang, Your so right about that one. He did stop talking about one and I really wondered and asked. Come to find she was injured and couldn't work in his department any more she had to be put on light duty. After all this talk about this stuff it made me realize that it really dose bother me I just didn't feel like dealing with it. You know how it is when you already have so much stress and you don't want to add more so you kind of put things out of your mind for a while. We ended up talking about it today and I told him how messed up it is and I don't think he even knew it bothered me as much as it does. There hasen't been any girls in his department at work in about 6 months so I haven't really herd a whole lot only every once -n- a while about people in the store. If it dose start again I don't think I will be so layed back about it. I don't want him to wonder off because i gave him to much freedom. Or does it sound like I am being to pozessive? Michel > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat > > > > like ??? > > > > > I > > > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of > the > > > way > > > > he > > > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. And > > > sorry > > > > > to > > > > > > > say > > > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out there > > > think > > > > I > > > > > am > > > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who > laugh > > > > about > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't flip > > out > > > > > about > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' woman > > at > > > > the > > > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought > > that > > > > > > counts. > > > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is he? > > > Now, > > > > I > > > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing > > about 'his > > > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my > > > > coolness > > > > > > that > > > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look > > fine. > > > > > When > > > > > > > you > > > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys out > > > there > > > > > and > > > > > > > see > > > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I don't > > > > > probably. > > > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk top...he > > just > > > > > don't > > > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his > > > > friends > > > > > > take > > > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to one > > in > > > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > > > something...he > > > > > > doen't > > > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > > > > > ang > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 31, 2002 Report Share Posted July 31, 2002 Well, I'm probably the last one in the world to answer this one open- mindedly...as I am probably the last one on the earth to go by biblical stadards - and that leaves NO ROOM for hanky panky or even the thought. They don't need to be in temptations reach because temptation only leads one place - and it isn't home. I figure if you don't want your dog out roaming the nieghborhood, feed him and water him well - give him love and attention - plenty of toys and time, and if he even looks towards the nieghbors yard - back on the chain he goes! I hang on to the leash - and tight. It causes alot of ripples when they yank a bit - because you can feel every little tug and jerk, but I'll be dambed if someone else is going to come along and take what has taken me 16 years to turn into what he finaly is today :-) Ang > > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T treat > > > > > like ??? > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because of > > the > > > > way > > > > > he > > > > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. > And > > > > sorry > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > say > > > > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out > there > > > > think > > > > > I > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who > > laugh > > > > > about > > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't > flip > > > out > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' > woman > > > at > > > > > the > > > > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the thought > > > that > > > > > > > counts. > > > > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is > he? > > > > Now, > > > > > I > > > > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing > > > about 'his > > > > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by my > > > > > coolness > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and look > > > fine. > > > > > > When > > > > > > > > you > > > > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys > out > > > > there > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > see > > > > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I > don't > > > > > > probably. > > > > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk > top...he > > > just > > > > > > don't > > > > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when his > > > > > friends > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to > one > > > in > > > > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > > > > something...he > > > > > > > doen't > > > > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > > > > > > ang > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2002 Report Share Posted August 1, 2002 Ang, I agree with you there. I don't think he has ever cheated but I really hate it when girls flert with him. They all know he is married too. I have never liked women who go after taken men. I have never been the jelious type but maby I should be a little more. You have opened my eyes to alot these last few days. He is a good man though and he takes good care of us so I wont start getting all up tight unless it starts again. He has always told me about it so I know he isn't trying to hide anything from me. It's been at least a year sence all this was going on so I'm not too worried about it now unless it happins again. And if it does i will be there to have lunch everyday unanounced he he. Michel > > > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T > treat > > > > > > like ??? > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because > of > > > the > > > > > way > > > > > > he > > > > > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent story. > > And > > > > > sorry > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > > say > > > > > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out > > there > > > > > think > > > > > > I > > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends who > > > laugh > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you don't > > flip > > > > out > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' > > woman > > > > at > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the > thought > > > > that > > > > > > > > counts. > > > > > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other woman...is > > he? > > > > > Now, > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing > > > > about 'his > > > > > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell by > my > > > > > > coolness > > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and > look > > > > fine. > > > > > > > When > > > > > > > > > you > > > > > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken guys > > out > > > > > there > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > see > > > > > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I > > don't > > > > > > > probably. > > > > > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk > > top...he > > > > just > > > > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when > his > > > > > > friends > > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough to > > one > > > > in > > > > > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > > > > > something...he > > > > > > > > doen't > > > > > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of mine. > > > > > > > > > ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 1, 2002 Report Share Posted August 1, 2002 I hope you don't find it as stressfull as I do. Jealousy in itself is a good thing (there is of course unfounded jealousy which is wrong and hurful also)..but jealousy is there to give us warning. And every one has their own personality too. Like my husband - if he reached out and picked a piece of tape off a girls back, or even walked up to her to say hellow (after knowing her for years)...there would be major red flags go up...he is not that kind of person. Me on the otherhand, ... I am a big people person. I have long deep personal conversations with strangers in the supermarket line :-) It is nothing for me to reach out and tuck in a strangers tag hanging out, or sooth a baby I've never seen before. I talk to everyone everyware all the time. I think I would be considered 'flirty', although I don't do anything intentionally to be 'flirty'. Just open and love to be near and talk to people. Because I know I am that way - I try to keep males out of that 3' 'personal space' thing...just out of curtousy for my husband. I think often about how I would be upset if he did (whatever) that I do or did. But I guess I feel like the female is tronger when it comes to not even being tempted, much less giving in to temptation. I guess reguardless of their brown, I feel men are week and need protection from theirselves. My way of protecting him and our marriage is to keep him from what I feel might tempt him. Now before the porn thing it wasn't a trust issue - just a protective love thing....now along with that I guess I'm just plain scarred and insecure. I had a feince that was a 'people person'. All the rules were different. Things that would freak me out with my husband were fine and ok with him. Ang > Ang, > > I agree with you there. I don't think he has ever cheated but I > really hate it when girls flert with him. They all know he is married > too. I have never liked women who go after taken men. I have never > been the jelious type but maby I should be a little more. You have > opened my eyes to alot these last few days. He is a good man though > and he takes good care of us so I wont start getting all up tight > unless it starts again. He has always told me about it so I know he > isn't trying to hide anything from me. It's been at least a year > sence all this was going on so I'm not too worried about it now > unless it happins again. And if it does i will be there to have lunch > everyday unanounced he he. > > Michel > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T > > treat > > > > > > > like ??? > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl because > > of > > > > the > > > > > > way > > > > > > > he > > > > > > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent > story. > > > And > > > > > > sorry > > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > > > say > > > > > > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys out > > > there > > > > > > think > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends > who > > > > laugh > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you > don't > > > flip > > > > > out > > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about the 'perfect' > > > woman > > > > > at > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the > > thought > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > counts. > > > > > > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other > woman...is > > > he? > > > > > > Now, > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing > > > > > about 'his > > > > > > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell > by > > my > > > > > > > coolness > > > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight and > > look > > > > > fine. > > > > > > > > When > > > > > > > > > > you > > > > > > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken > guys > > > out > > > > > > there > > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > see > > > > > > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since I > > > don't > > > > > > > > probably. > > > > > > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk > > > top...he > > > > > just > > > > > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it when > > his > > > > > > > friends > > > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close enough > to > > > one > > > > > in > > > > > > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > > > > > > something...he > > > > > > > > > doen't > > > > > > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of > mine. > > > > > > > > > > ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2002 Report Share Posted August 5, 2002 Ang, It sounds to me like you know him to a 'T' since you have been married to him for the last 16 years. Has it just been recently that he has been looking at the porn obsessively behind your back? In my openion if it is behind your back then he is in the wrong. If he has to do it even though you have expresses how it makes you feel then there is a problem. Is this an addiction? If so maby he needs someone to talk to. Although it wont do any good if he dosen't care. I think you might need to have a long talk with him on how much he values the marrage and then go from there. It's really up to him. He is the only one who can change him not you by your self. So if he isn't willing to change this and make it better for the marrage then you might need to ask your self how many more years are you going to tolorate it. Because you don't need to take that. Maby just really being serious with him and telling him that you have had more then you can take and now it's time to make it better. Like you said it took 16 years to have the beautiful family and happyness so if he cares as much about that as you do he will show some remorse and effort to change it. I wish the best for you. Anything is fixable as long as you both want it bad enough. Michel > > > > > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T > > > treat > > > > > > > > like ??? > > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl > because > > > of > > > > > the > > > > > > > way > > > > > > > > he > > > > > > > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent > > story. > > > > And > > > > > > > sorry > > > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > > > > say > > > > > > > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys > out > > > > there > > > > > > > think > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends > > who > > > > > laugh > > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you > > don't > > > > flip > > > > > > out > > > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about > the 'perfect' > > > > woman > > > > > > at > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the > > > thought > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > > counts. > > > > > > > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other > > woman...is > > > > he? > > > > > > > Now, > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing > > > > > > about 'his > > > > > > > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell > > by > > > my > > > > > > > > coolness > > > > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight > and > > > look > > > > > > fine. > > > > > > > > > When > > > > > > > > > > > you > > > > > > > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken > > guys > > > > out > > > > > > > there > > > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > > see > > > > > > > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since > I > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > probably. > > > > > > > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk > > > > top...he > > > > > > just > > > > > > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it > when > > > his > > > > > > > > friends > > > > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close > enough > > to > > > > one > > > > > > in > > > > > > > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > > > > > > > something...he > > > > > > > > > > doen't > > > > > > > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of > > mine. > > > > > > > > > > > ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2002 Report Share Posted August 5, 2002 Ang, It sounds to me like you know him to a 'T' since you have been married to him for the last 16 years. Has it just been recently that he has been looking at the porn obsessively behind your back? In my openion if it is behind your back then he is in the wrong. If he has to do it even though you have expresses how it makes you feel then there is a problem. Is this an addiction? If so maby he needs someone to talk to. Although it wont do any good if he dosen't care. I think you might need to have a long talk with him on how much he values the marrage and then go from there. It's really up to him. He is the only one who can change him not you by your self. So if he isn't willing to change this and make it better for the marrage then you might need to ask your self how many more years are you going to tolorate it. Because you don't need to take that. Maby just really being serious with him and telling him that you have had more then you can take and now it's time to make it better. Like you said it took 16 years to have the beautiful family and happyness so if he cares as much about that as you do he will show some remorse and effort to change it. I wish the best for you. Anything is fixable as long as you both want it bad enough. Michel > > > > > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband DOESN'T > > > treat > > > > > > > > like ??? > > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl > because > > > of > > > > > the > > > > > > > way > > > > > > > > he > > > > > > > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent > > story. > > > > And > > > > > > > sorry > > > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > > > > say > > > > > > > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys > out > > > > there > > > > > > > think > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands friends > > who > > > > > laugh > > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you > > don't > > > > flip > > > > > > out > > > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about > the 'perfect' > > > > woman > > > > > > at > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the > > > thought > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > > counts. > > > > > > > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other > > woman...is > > > > he? > > > > > > > Now, > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing > > > > > > about 'his > > > > > > > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can tell > > by > > > my > > > > > > > > coolness > > > > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight > and > > > look > > > > > > fine. > > > > > > > > > When > > > > > > > > > > > you > > > > > > > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good looken > > guys > > > > out > > > > > > > there > > > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > > see > > > > > > > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - since > I > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > probably. > > > > > > > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk > > > > top...he > > > > > > just > > > > > > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it > when > > > his > > > > > > > > friends > > > > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close > enough > > to > > > > one > > > > > > in > > > > > > > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > > > > > > > something...he > > > > > > > > > > doen't > > > > > > > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend of > > mine. > > > > > > > > > > > ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2002 Report Share Posted August 5, 2002 Amen to that sister! I totally agree. Tina ) Re: Devorce yet?/michel Ang, It sounds to me like you know him to a 'T' since you have been married to him for the last 16 years. Has it just been recently that he has been looking at the porn obsessively behind your back? In my openion if it is behind your back then he is in the wrong. If he has to do it even though you have expresses how it makes you feel then there is a problem. Is this an addiction? If so maby he needs someone to talk to. Although it wont do any good if he dosen't care. I think you might need to have a long talk with him on how much he values the marrage and then go from there. It's really up to him. He is the only one who can change him not you by your self. So if he isn't willing to change this and make it better for the marrage then you might need to ask your self how many more years are you going to tolorate it. Because you don't need to take that. Maby just really being serious with him and telling him that you have had more then you can take and now it's time to make it better. Like you said it took 16 years to have the beautiful family and happyness so if he cares as much about that as you do he will show some remorse and effort to change it. I wish the best for you. Anything is fixable as long as you both want it bad enough. Michel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2002 Report Share Posted August 5, 2002 Amen to that sister! I totally agree. Tina ) Re: Devorce yet?/michel Ang, It sounds to me like you know him to a 'T' since you have been married to him for the last 16 years. Has it just been recently that he has been looking at the porn obsessively behind your back? In my openion if it is behind your back then he is in the wrong. If he has to do it even though you have expresses how it makes you feel then there is a problem. Is this an addiction? If so maby he needs someone to talk to. Although it wont do any good if he dosen't care. I think you might need to have a long talk with him on how much he values the marrage and then go from there. It's really up to him. He is the only one who can change him not you by your self. So if he isn't willing to change this and make it better for the marrage then you might need to ask your self how many more years are you going to tolorate it. Because you don't need to take that. Maby just really being serious with him and telling him that you have had more then you can take and now it's time to make it better. Like you said it took 16 years to have the beautiful family and happyness so if he cares as much about that as you do he will show some remorse and effort to change it. I wish the best for you. Anything is fixable as long as you both want it bad enough. Michel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 5, 2002 Report Share Posted August 5, 2002 I believe it is an addiction really. I think he does try not to...then some pop up comes up and no one's home...it only takes one picture and here it goes. He knows when I know, but if I say even 1 word he goes off. But just knowing that I know is enough to make him stop I think - for a time. And your right. I am working on 'me' and my personal strength. Once the baby is out of 'daddy is god' moad and I am able to work - and my self insecurities are worked out (and yes, when I'm not over weight), I think I'll be in a better position to say 'see ya'....then let him come after me and make the promises. He's a tough cookie to crack and reguardless of consequences will do or will not do what he feels to be right --- so untill I can realy suport myself I don't want to make waves. Ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > > > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband > DOESN'T > > > > treat > > > > > > > > > like ??? > > > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl > > because > > > > of > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > way > > > > > > > > > he > > > > > > > > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > > > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a diffrent > > > story. > > > > > And > > > > > > > > sorry > > > > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > > > > > say > > > > > > > > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of ladys > > out > > > > > there > > > > > > > > think > > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands > friends > > > who > > > > > > laugh > > > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were you > > > don't > > > > > flip > > > > > > > out > > > > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about > > the 'perfect' > > > > > woman > > > > > > > at > > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's the > > > > thought > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > > > counts. > > > > > > > > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other > > > woman...is > > > > > he? > > > > > > > > Now, > > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know nothing > > > > > > > about 'his > > > > > > > > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > > > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch > them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can > tell > > > by > > > > my > > > > > > > > > coolness > > > > > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same thing. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > > > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your weight > > and > > > > look > > > > > > > fine. > > > > > > > > > > When > > > > > > > > > > > > you > > > > > > > > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good > looken > > > guys > > > > > out > > > > > > > > there > > > > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > > > see > > > > > > > > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - > since > > I > > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > > probably. > > > > > > > > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my desk > > > > > top...he > > > > > > > just > > > > > > > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy it > > when > > > > his > > > > > > > > > friends > > > > > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close > > enough > > > to > > > > > one > > > > > > > in > > > > > > > > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me or > > > > > > > > something...he > > > > > > > > > > > doen't > > > > > > > > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend > of > > > mine. > > > > > > > > > > > > ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2002 Report Share Posted August 8, 2002 Ang, Me again. Well it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. You know what you have to do. I wish the best for you and your family. Just remember when you think you have it bad there is always someone who has it worse. I have a friend who came over yesterday and her husband was acused of making sexual advances to her 11 year old neice. She has a little girl who is crushed. My friend had to move back in with her parents and it really sucks. She is now getting a divorce, and her whole world has been fliped upside down. The whole thing is going to court. Now when the little girl wants to see her daddy my friend has to supervise visits to cover all ground if they try to take custedy away from her for letting her go with him. The family is mad at her for spending time with him when she is only doing it for her daughter since she is being punished enough for things thet were out of her control. I really feel for her and her daughter. My friends little girl was questioned by a profecional and dosen't show any signs of being abused so that is good. As far as the rest of the story I haven't a clue but I guess we will all find out when it goes to trial. So see, dosen't that make your life sound like a bed of roses? I hope things get better for you. But your right not to jump the gun if you don't have two feet to stand on. Take care Michel -- In weightlossbuddies2@y..., " amdvdhjr " <amdvdhjr@y...> wrote: > I believe it is an addiction really. I think he does try not > to...then some pop up comes up and no one's home...it only takes one > picture and here it goes. He knows when I know, but if I say even 1 > word he goes off. But just knowing that I know is enough to make him > stop I think - for a time. > And your right. I am working on 'me' and my personal strength. Once > the baby is out of 'daddy is > god' moad and I am able to work - and my self insecurities are worked > out (and yes, when I'm not over weight), I think I'll be in a better > position to say 'see ya'....then let him come after me and make the > promises. He's a tough cookie to crack and reguardless of > consequences will do or will not do what he feels to be right --- so > untill I can realy suport myself I don't want to make waves. > Ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > He was being so friendly > > > > > > > > > > > > > > that even her husband could tell. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > .....Ya, I am the only female my husband > > DOESN'T > > > > > treat > > > > > > > > > > like ??? > > > > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > > > > mean even on the phon I know if it's a girl > > > because > > > > > of > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > way > > > > > > > > > > he > > > > > > > > > > > > > talks! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Bottem line is guys are > > > > > > > > > > > > > > always going to look, cheeting is a > diffrent > > > > story. > > > > > > And > > > > > > > > > sorry > > > > > > > > > > > to > > > > > > > > > > > > > say > > > > > > > > > > > > > > most guys look at porn. I know alot of > ladys > > > out > > > > > > there > > > > > > > > > think > > > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > > am > > > > > > > > > > > > > > full of it. I know alot of my husbands > > friends > > > > who > > > > > > > laugh > > > > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > > > > how > > > > > > > > > > > > > > there wives don't have a clue. If I were > you > > > > don't > > > > > > flip > > > > > > > > out > > > > > > > > > > > about > > > > > > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > > > > porn cause he is going to do it anyway. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......Your ok with him thinking about > > > the 'perfect' > > > > > > woman > > > > > > > > at > > > > > > > > > > the > > > > > > > > > > > > > track while he's with you? See to me, it's > the > > > > > thought > > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > > > > counts. > > > > > > > > > > > > > It feels like he IS physically with other > > > > woman...is > > > > > > he? > > > > > > > > > Now, > > > > > > > > > > I > > > > > > > > > > > > > don't think so, before? No clue. I know > nothing > > > > > > > > about 'his > > > > > > > > > > > > life'. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > But if you think he might > > > > > > > > > > > > > > cheet act stupid and it's easier to catch > > them. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ......I do try to do that - LOL - but he can > > tell > > > > by > > > > > my > > > > > > > > > > coolness > > > > > > > > > > > > that > > > > > > > > > > > > > somethings up - and it's always the same > thing. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > >Anyways > > > > > > > > > > > > > > soon enough your gonna loose all your > weight > > > and > > > > > look > > > > > > > > fine. > > > > > > > > > > > When > > > > > > > > > > > > > you > > > > > > > > > > > > > > do make sure you point out all the good > > looken > > > > guys > > > > > > out > > > > > > > > > there > > > > > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > > > > see > > > > > > > > > > > > > > how he likes it. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ....Well, he don't care if I look at men - > > since > > > I > > > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > > > probably. > > > > > > > > > > > > > He put a nude (gorgous) pic of a guy on my > desk > > > > > > top...he > > > > > > > > just > > > > > > > > > > > don't > > > > > > > > > > > > > like other men looking at me. So I do enjoy > it > > > when > > > > > his > > > > > > > > > > friends > > > > > > > > > > > > take > > > > > > > > > > > > > notice...and even be sure to hang out close > > > enough > > > > to > > > > > > one > > > > > > > > in > > > > > > > > > > > > > particular because he always wants to hug me > or > > > > > > > > > something...he > > > > > > > > > > > > doen't > > > > > > > > > > > > > mean anything by it - he's just a good friend > > of > > > > mine. > > > > > > > > > > > > > ang > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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