Re: To Kim--So sick of stares & ready to quit - little long

[Guest guest]

Dear Kim---I am sorry this experience has been a difficult one for you. I think that you are absolutely correct. There is no doubt about it, people will stare and wonder why your child is wearing a helmet. I have often thought what I would do if I were foreign to plagio and saw a child wearing a helmet. I don't think I would feel comfortable asking the parent what it was for without some other kind of opening in the conversation...and I'm a social worker and am usually quite good at asking the questions. However, it is hard for a total stranger with no other opening to come up to you and ask. I think people are afraid of appearing nosey, upsetting us, or hearing an explanation they don't want to hear. However, the public is generally curious and will look to try and figure it out. Generally, I don't mind the stares because I feel like, number one, people are not ignoring us---which I think is a whole lot worse---and two, maybe if people get a good look, they will ask someone else at some point and eventually find out what the helmet is for. Plus, my son looks so happy in his band and I think is says something for children who are different and wear medical devices...that they can be happy and we can be happy---and I think the public needs that message. I do hope that decorating helps. In my experience, I think it has. Hang in there. I think your emotions may change as you go along this process and have a little more time under your belt.

Mom to B.

Docband #1 9/4/02

Docband #2 12/18/03

Miami