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Hi All,

I want to thank everyone who has replied to my post from last night,

regarding my fist flush and my resultant questions. You have all been

very helpful. Dale, thanks particularly for your in-depth reply. And

Agnes, I appreciate your offer to help regarding the ia. I am

assuming you feel that the leaf-like substances I found in the toilet

bowl during the flush were parasites/flukes? Tom sent me some online

photos of the snail fluke, and they were remarkably similar. However,

the ones I found after the flush had a very coarse consistency, much

like a small dried leaf after a morning dew. I had taken several of

them out of the toilet bowl with a pair of tweezers, and washed them off

to examine them. They had the same markings down the center of the

" leaf " as the snail fluke has. But if they were indeed flukes, wouldn't

they have had a more fleshy, " worm " like texture to them? I'm just

curious. I am going to do the ia, no doubt. I can remember eating

raw hamburger as a child (I liked the taste) so God only knows what's in

there.

Again, thanks to all for the support and ideas this group offers. It is

invaluable.

Regards,

Steve Barwick

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Hi everyone,

I just wanted to write a note to tell ALL of you how much your support and

information has meant to me and to Spencer in the last few months. We have

just returned home from the Autism Center at UCSB, where they specialize in

behavioral issues and intervention, with a focus on communication issues as

they relate to negative behavior. The director of the center, Dr. Lynn

Koegel, after a very cursory observation of Spencer, said that she would

question a diagnosis of autism. Speech and social delays, yes, autism, no. It

was 1 year ago this month that Spencer was diagnosed. I immersed myself in

research about autism and the various treatment protocols and therapies

available for him. As many of you have read my words...I do not focus on the

fact that my toddler is autistic, I focus on the fact that I will not have an

adult child with autism, living in a group home and anything I have to do to

get him to that point is fine. So, the most important and most valuable step

I took during this process was to become a member of this board. The name of

the board does not do justice to the benefits it has offered at least my

family. Of all of the things we have embraced in our journey to deal with

this monster, this board has made the most impact.

I grant you that we were fortunate that Spencer was diagnosed before he was

even 18 months old. We got a great head start on turning him into a lab rat.

I am also quite stubborn when it comes to pursuing something that my gut

tells me is right. So, Spencer got the best mom for the job--me and I got the

best support system-you all. Without you I wouldn't know about Houston

enzymes, or MSM, or Megson vitamin A therapy, or probiotics, or Colostrum, or

the Pfeiffer Treatment Center, or many of the other things we have

implemented that have helped so much. Our lives would most likely be quite

different right now if not for you all.

So, after a more thorough evaluation, Dr. Koegel tells me that she will help

us teach Spencer to read this summer (just before his 3rd birthday) because

of his obvious intellectual ability. She says that the research and her

center's experience indicate that Spencer's chance of being undiagnosable as

compared to typical peers by the time he reaches school is quite high,

actually, she would expect that he will excel academically ahead of his peers

due to his intellect at this point. All of this I found out today, at a time

when most parents of AS kids are just beginning the process of questioning

whether their child is " special " and in need of some assistance.

Interestingly, I have been telling people over the last couple of months that

I wondered if Spencer would even meet the criteria for autism now. My gut

told me that he was well on the way to recovery; the expert confirmed my gut

feeling today...without any prompting. For those of you skeptics out there,

we are not paying for the behavioral services at the center. They are a

Regional Center vendor. So, this isn't a matter of filling a vulnerable

parent full of empty wishes so as to empty my wallet. She gets no money from

me at all, so I guess her motivation to create false hope would be limited. I

say all of this only for those who might question her ethics. For the rest of

you who hold out hope that miracles do occur, I'm right there with you.

Again, thanks for all of your support, and know that I will be here, whether

I am an active contributor, supporting you all in my heart.

Most Sincerely,

Amber Onstot

I want to thank you all so much. I know that you all have a very accuarate

idea of how full my heart is right now. I wish for all of you the same

success and fullness that we have had.

I will continue to monitor this board because there is always room for more

great things. In addition, my NT kids have benefitted from much of the advice

I have implemented.

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Thank you so much for all the wonderful info and support everyone has given me the last few days. you guys don't know how much it means when I am so upset to look at my mailbox and see so many posts from so many people trying to help me! I have been so depressed lately and confused. I am sorry to burden everyone with all of my mess but I feel like you really are the only ones who understand what I am dealing with. I really-really appreciate all of the time everyone has taken to help me and looking up old posts from three years ago! you have really brightened my day!

To answer some of the questions, I do have short term and long term disability benefits through my current employer. I am scared to ask about the details of these plans as I don't want to "alert" anyone in HR but I used the short term when my son was born for maternity leave and I think it was 60% pay. I am not sure how long they last or when ss would have to be applied for. I am not sure how the long term works or what it takes to apply/qualify for them. I am scared that my conditons won't be "good enough" (you know how insurance companies are these days) for them then I will be in trouble for filing as I will have alerted my employer. I guess I will have to tread lightly there. I know that they won't hold my position no matter what which I guess is OK but what I am mainly concerned about is being able to get the 60% to support my family until I can get it back together. I agree that I am only making things worse and slowing my healing by staying under such stress - my hubby agrees, too. It is just scary to make that jump as I know that there will be no turning back once I say something to them. Hopefully I will get the doctors to agree. I have and advantage in having doc Vasey in my area but I am not sure how he feels about the disability thing. My primary wouldn't agree, probably. I have an appt 4/22 w/ an infectious disease specialist who maybe can get more info on what is really going on inside me if there needs to be proof. All I have now is the FM, CFS, and severe depression and I wasn't sure if it would qualify. I can't imagine with the way i feel day in and day out being turned down but i am also very aware of the insurance companies getting harder and harder on us. Also, I don't work for the most understanding people in the world. They give me a hard time for taking off when my baby is sick, I can't imagine what they would do if I said that I had to leave for a few months - this is yet another source of my constant anxiety-worrying about them.

My hubby and I have been discussing it - actually he told me to quit a year ago but I was so scared to be without the income and having it hurt my family and ruining my credit but I guess now I must put myself first and stop worrying about money and work. We will have to manage and hopefully my faith will find me through all of this.

bless all of you who have helped me lately. It has definately made me stronger the last few days which I desparately needed!

love to all of you!!!

shari

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Shari: you dont need to discuss the policy with anyone. Get your policy handbook and it will give you all the info on short and long term disability. Then have your doctor write a letter putting you on disability for short term when that is close to expiring you have him re-evaluate and go for long term. Once your employer gets the letter, they can not fire you. If they do, you go to the EEOC. Having been out on short and long term disability will better your chances of getting SSDI if you still need it. Again, do not discuss this, just have the letter written and take it to your HR department, stay home and get well.

Vickiehalvey70@... wrote:

Thank you so much for all the wonderful info and support everyone has given me the last few days. you guys don't know how much it means when I am so upset to look at my mailbox and see so many posts from so many people trying to help me! I have been so depressed lately and confused. I am sorry to burden everyone with all of my mess but I feel like you really are the only ones who understand what I am dealing with. I really-really appreciate all of the time everyone has taken to help me and looking up old posts from three years ago! you have really brightened my day!To answer some of the questions, I do have short term and long term disability benefits through my current employer. I am scared to ask about the details of these plans as I don't want to

"alert" anyone in HR but I used the short term when my son was born for maternity leave and I think it was 60% pay. I am not sure how long they last or when ss would have to be applied for. I am not sure how the long term works or what it takes to apply/qualify for them. I am scared that my conditons won't be "good enough" (you know how insurance companies are these days) for them then I will be in trouble for filing as I will have alerted my employer. I guess I will have to tread lightly there. I know that they won't hold my position no matter what which I guess is OK but what I am mainly concerned about is being able to get the 60% to support my family until I can get it back together. I agree that I am only making things worse and slowing my healing by staying under such stress - my hubby agrees, too. It is just scary to make that jump as I know that there will be no turning back once I say something to them. Hopefully I will get the doctors to

agree. I have and advantage in having doc Vasey in my area but I am not sure how he feels about the disability thing. My primary wouldn't agree, probably. I have an appt 4/22 w/ an infectious disease specialist who maybe can get more info on what is really going on inside me if there needs to be proof. All I have now is the FM, CFS, and severe depression and I wasn't sure if it would qualify. I can't imagine with the way i feel day in and day out being turned down but i am also very aware of the insurance companies getting harder and harder on us. Also, I don't work for the most understanding people in the world. They give me a hard time for taking off when my baby is sick, I can't imagine what they would do if I said that I had to leave for a few months - this is yet another source of my constant anxiety-worrying about them. My hubby and I have been discussing it - actually he told me to quit a year ago but I was so scared to

be without the income and having it hurt my family and ruining my credit but I guess now I must put myself first and stop worrying about money and work. We will have to manage and hopefully my faith will find me through all of this.bless all of you who have helped me lately. It has definately made me stronger the last few days which I desparately needed!love to all of you!!!shari

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Very valuable info Vickie! Thank you so much for sharing.

--- In , Vickie <gracie17db@y...>

wrote:

> Shari: you dont need to discuss the policy with anyone. Get your

policy handbook and it will give you all the info on short and long

term disability. Then have your doctor write a letter putting you

on disability for short term when that is close to expiring you have

him re-evaluate and go for long term. Once your employer gets the

letter, they can not fire you. If they do, you go to the EEOC.

Having been out on short and long term disability will better your

chances of getting SSDI if you still need it. Again, do not discuss

this, just have the letter written and take it to your HR

department, stay home and get well.

> Vickie

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