Re: Stepped in a mine field!

[Guest guest]

Gail Pennington wrote:

>

>

> Communication wise, that is. On a relationship list I am on that has both

> NTs and autistics, a situation came up where I could see this NT woman

> being

> misunderstood with what she was trying to say. I wrote her offlist as well

> as wrote on her behalf on list. I thought we had a good understanding

> communication wise.

>

> But I just got a response from her onlist to something I wrote to one of

> her

> posts on the list. She so completely misunderstood what I wrote that it has

> shaken me. I have not had this happen in a long time. I just got done

> trying

> to explain what I *did* mean and now have no idea how she is going to take

> it.

>

> I normally would not write about something like this but this is really

> bothering. I feel like I'm in the Twilight Zone!

I'm on the same list, Gail, and personally: the woman who responded to

you has a few screws loose, IMO. Did you notice she also took everything

I said as if it were a personal attack? She is simply unwilling to hear

anything that goes against her personal prejudices and beliefs, as far

as I can tell.

You did nothing wrong. Don't sweat it. She's the problem.

Griff

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Don't believe everything you think.

[Guest guest]

Hi Griff!

You wrote:

>>I'm on the same list, Gail, and personally: the woman who responded to

you has a few screws loose, IMO. Did you notice she also took everything

I said as if it were a personal attack? She is simply unwilling to hear

anything that goes against her personal prejudices and beliefs, as far

as I can tell.

Yes, I did see that. Normally I do not write about what goes on in other

lists, but her response just confused me so much I had to come here and talk

about it !

Take care,

Gail :-)

[Guest guest]

> But I just got a response from her onlist to something I wrote to one of her

> posts on the list. She so completely misunderstood what I wrote that it has

> shaken me.

I wouldn't worry much about the reactions on that list right

now. There was a lot of criticism of what I called " partner

bashing " , and people are still touchy. I guess it's a touchy

subject matter because NTs (I'm guessing it's an NT trait) like

to complain about their spouses to a sympathetic choir.

I think it will come to pass and the people on that list will be

understanding.