Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 Dawn: I totaly understand your situation.. as I am sure most of us here do.. Jake and I have been together 13 year's today.. was married for 11. are now divorced have been for two years. But we are still together.. I divorced him. b/c I just was not my self.. I went through some terriffic stuff. a bad accident.. Sever depression.. and a lot of hidden thing's from my past satrted comming back up sort of haunting me.. well any ways to make a long story short.. I got divorced to let him have the freedom he desreved.. after living apart for a whole year. we gradually got back together.. When he and I was first together our sex life was fantastic..every single day. some times twice a day.. then it gradually went to once a day then every other day. to once a week. then to once a month. and now is pretty much non existant.. after I had my Hyst. in Aug. of last year. I completly lost all intrest. and being in pain all the time has not helped..my problem with Jake tho is he doesn't want to show any intrest in me what so ever unless it is for SEX!! and that totaly disgusts me and turns me off even more.. He tells me he need's sex to make him still feel hole b/c he has MS.. and say's that sex is the only thing he can still do.. But I can't still do it..kwim? Sure I still want to be with him when I am feeling up to it which isn't very often I know but.. isn't it better to have it once a month than never? Sorry for rambling. Gentle Hug's Marie messanger'sAOL: marieavaYahoo: marieava62907Email: marieava@...marieava62907@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 ahhh, I would never leave my husband to give him a normal life. I need him too much, my kids need their fathers and Ive done alot for him too in the past 20 years; put up with some crap. This IS going to be his normal life and we're going to go through it togehter. You start telling them that they need a normal life and they may start believing you. Margaret, mom to the monsters Husbands/partners > > All this talk about hubbys and partners makes me want to vent about mine for > a bit. lol. > Kent and I have been together for 7 years, but we haven't married. We have a > five year old son, . Sex is a big issue for him as it is for most men, > I guess. Between the flares I get, the arthritis and the Paxil side effects > of not wanting sex, you could say our relationship was a little strained. I > don't know what to do about it. He is a paramedic, so he does know about > these things. He reads the literature I give him. He sees the pills I take > to survive. He knows when I've had enough with . > > Yet, he can still be a jerk. > > He's wonderful in the fact that he supports us, he takes care of the money > situation, he keeps a roof over our heads and is very, very responsible. I > don't ever have to worry about him cheating on me or anything like that. > > But he just doesn't understand the pain, and it gets to be so frustrating at > times that I just want to leave so he can have his life back. KWIM? > > Hugs, > Dawn > site mod > > > > 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general. > > 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make that situation better. > > > Have a nice day everyone. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 I know what you mean Dawn.. I feel the same way about my BF... we have no children together and he is far younger than me... and I am not sure if he knows how he feels towards me.. he says he loves me.. but longs for the life that I no longer can give him and it just frustrates us both.. him for always saying lets go to this persons house... his friends ( first they don't know me much and don't care to know me.. when i see them when i am alone they snub me every time) And i am not one to say the "F" word every two seconds but they do... i think it is the age again .. but anyway's I have nothing in common with these friends of his and not that I haven't tried i do all the time.. and will still try but they don't understand and he doesn't........so I see him wanting something else all the time which makes me think he would be better off. We are not married, nor have any children together .. so it is the change that scares him i think that is why he stays not anything else. But that is just me saying it though you know. No one knows exactly what someone else thinks... anyway's.........I do know what you mean Dawn hun hugs Huggles you lots Sophia -------Original Message------- From: Coder Dawn Date: 11/24/04 08:03:38 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 24, 2004 Report Share Posted November 24, 2004 Gee you ladies, all this talk about your men and sex life ALMOST makes me want to go out and find me a man. HaHa Deb R.__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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