Re: It's Not My Fault!

[Guest guest]

:

The victim made me do it. If victim had been behaving him/herself there

would have been no need for me to push/hit/scratch/attack/maim/murder

him/her.

We have heard these words ourselves.

It's a tough life.

Salli

[Guest guest]

Sounds like Sully's rationale for his actions!!! Either that or " I didn't mean

too! "

CHRIS

and

Parents of:

Sully 10-94 (AS)

Chenoa 6-96 (NT Mild Speech Delay)

Trevayne 3-98 (PDDNOS, Significant Speech Delay)

and

set 12-99 (Significant Speech Delay)

It's Not My Fault!

" She wasn't answering me. I wanted her to play a game with me. She

said she would play a game with me. I want to play a game. I poked

her but she wouldn't answer so I kicker her. I had to get her

attention. She wasn't listening to me. I only kicked her three

times. "

Sound familiar anyone? I must have spent thirty minutes talking to

deaf ears. " No kicking. No hitting. No biting. No spitting.

Ever. It is not allowed. At nine years old you get sent to your

room. At nineteen you get sent to jail. "

" But, but, but, it's not my faul!!! She wasn't paying attention! "

" You are responsible for your own actions. You choose how to act.

You make a poor choice. Kicking is not allowed. "

" BUT IT'S NOT MY FAULT! "

said he really thinks doesn't get it. It just didn't

connect for him. One step forward, two steps back I guess.

[Guest guest]

> said he really thinks doesn't get it. It just didn't

> connect for him.

's right...

{{{hugs}}}

My friend has signs up all over her house. Step-by-step instructions

for things from eating dinner to using the toilet to cleaning your room.

Signs that say " No Hitting " No Pushing " " No Biting " are prominent in every

room.

I had been meaning to suggest the instruction sheets for Gail, perhaps

accompanied by sticker charts or whatever would work for her. I know it

seems silly to do this for a child her age, but if it works...?

I was also going to suggest that Gail may be a " piler " , that is, someone who

is more comfortable having her things out where she can see them. What if,

instead of having to put all her laundry away in drawers and closets, you

gave her, say, 4 laundry baskets - one for shirts, one for pants, one for

underthings, one for dirty clothes. Could you live with that? Label

everything. Make it really simple and easy. And again, sticker charts or

play money or whatever for putting the clothes away.

You can set up similar systems for just about everything. For example I

don't have a silverware holder. I have a silverware drawer and a sharps

(knives, food processor blades, etc) drawer, and I just dump everything in.

It's not hard to find what you need and I don't have to sort the silverware.

Good luck...I'm thinking about you lots.

-Sara.

[Guest guest]

>>> " But, but, but, it's not my fault!!!<<<

Are you kidding? THAT is my son!!! He NEVER took resposiblity for his

actions. It was always someone else's fault or the fault of the

circumstance.

His yearbook quote is " It was like that when I got here " . I'm not kidding.

Penny

[Guest guest]

,

I'm right there with you. I don't get the 'it's not my fault', but my

response is the same as yours and it gets me no where!

Sue

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