Re: Catching Up/Venting

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Oh, Tammy, I am so incredibly sorry to read this. What a horrible thing to do. No one has the right to treat another human being so atrociously. And no one deserves such pain and devastation, or the inevitable fall-out which comes. You know this had nothing to do with you. You could have been or said or done anything and it wouldn't have caused nor prevented his actions. Those are choices he made and, unfortunately, you are left to suffer for them. I know a lot changed inside you before you wrote this post and I know it's been some time since you did post it and more changes have come. I hope you continue to find increased comfort and strength as the days pass. Warm Hugs, Challis Tamatha P wrote: I've not written in a while. I've been reading all the posts, but just have not been up to writing. I went to Kansas mid-October to see my two middle kids. I was gone a week and had a great time. When I got home, my husband sat me down and told me he met someone! I was crushed. He told me that he hadn't felt strongly for me for quite some time. I was dx'd in March of this year and he said if I hadn't been, he would have left me at the beginning of the year. So I guess that means he felt sorry for me and felt obligated

to stay! What a jerk! I told him to take his pity and shove it! So now he is so in love with this other woman. She is everything I have never been. Although I have extra pounds and have been losing quite a bit, she is just plain fat. No offense to anyone here that is overweight! My DH never really liked me to dress provacative, she looks like a street corner hooker! She wears more makeup than Tammy Faye Baker! When I found out who she was, and yes I've known her for years, I was even more crushed. On top of all of this, she still lives with her ex-DH because she couldn't afford the house they bought when they were married! They have been divorced for about 5 years! So naturally, my DH and his slut have to keep their affair hidden from her ex because he is still so in love with her! It's been 2 months and I think I have finally come to terms with the fact that my DH is no longer mine. It was

very hard to accept at first because I love him so much. However, the more I write this story over and over in letters, emails, and in my head, the madder I get. I left my first DH and took nothing. Not this time. I've got this DH by the balls. Infidelity, mental anguish, mental cruelty, .....I can come up with lots of things to throw in there. I have since had to go on antidepressants which I vowed not to do when I was Dx'd, but I had no choice. Crying all the time, bursts of anger, I was a mess. I am feelling better now as the pills have started working their magic, but I am still not going to let him get off easy. He even had the nerve to as if when we went to go see the Nature in Lights (big Christmas park here), if he could invite her! I have so many names I could call him, but I won't offend anyone here. There is so much that has gone on, but I won't bore you all to death. I will keep

everyone posted on the seperation and divorce. Thanks for letting me vent. Love to everyone! Tammy, Tx Join Killeen Barter at http://finance.groups.yahoo.com/group/KilleenBarter/ Trade or Barter away those things you don't want anymore! Cheap Talk? Check out Yahoo! Messenger's low PC-to-Phone call rates. __________________________________________________

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Check out Waiting to Exhale...I love it when she has the garage sale of all his stuff and loads the clothes in his beemer and catches it on fire. I'm sorry Tammy, I know how you feel. My ex used to call me fat and all kinds of things and after we got divorced everyone he dated was twice as large as me. You are strong and independent and he can't hold a candle to you. I have to go to the dr in Dallas sometime next month, we should meet up for lunch. 'Smyelin groovy wrote: Oh, Tammy, I am so incredibly sorry to read this. What a horrible thing to do. No one has the right to treat another human being so atrociously. And no one deserves such pain and devastation, or the inevitable fall-out which comes. You know this had nothing to do with you. You could have been or said or done anything and it wouldn't have caused nor prevented his actions. Those are choices he made and, unfortunately, you are left to suffer for them. I know a lot changed inside you before you wrote this post and I know it's been some time since you did post it and more changes have come. I hope you continue to find increased comfort and strength as the days pass. Warm Hugs, Challis Tamatha P

<tamatha_tx> wrote: I've not written in a while. I've been reading all the posts, but just have not been up to writing. I went to Kansas mid-October to see my two middle kids. I was gone a week and had a great time. When I got home, my husband sat me down and told me he met someone! I was crushed. He told me that he hadn't felt strongly for me for quite some time. I was dx'd in March of this year and he said if I hadn't been, he would have left me at the beginning of the year. So I guess that means he felt sorry for me and felt obligated to stay! What a jerk! I told him to take his pity and shove it! So now he is so in love with this other woman. She is everything I have never been. Although I have extra pounds and have been losing

quite a bit, she is just plain fat. No offense to anyone here that is overweight! My DH never really liked me to dress provacative, she looks like a street corner hooker! She wears more makeup than Tammy Faye Baker! When I found out who she was, and yes I've known her for years, I was even more crushed. On top of all of this, she still lives with her ex-DH because she couldn't afford the house they bought when they were married! They have been divorced for about 5 years! So naturally, my DH and his slut have to keep their affair hidden from her ex because he is still so in love with her! It's been 2 months and I think I have finally come to terms with the fact that my DH is no longer mine. It was very hard to accept at first because I love him so much. However, the more I write this story over and over in letters, emails, and in my head, the madder I get. I left my first DH and took nothing. Not

this time. I've got this DH by the balls. Infidelity, mental anguish, mental cruelty, .....I can come up with lots of things to throw in there. I have since had to go on antidepressants which I vowed not to do when I was Dx'd, but I had no choice. Crying all the time, bursts of anger, I was a mess. I am feelling better now as the pills have started working their magic, but I am still not going to let him get off easy. He even had the nerve to as if when we went to go see the Nature in Lights (big Christmas park here), if he could invite her! I have so many names I could call him, but I won't offend anyone here. There is so much that has gone on, but I won't bore you all to death. I will keep everyone posted on the seperation and divorce. Thanks for letting me vent. Love to everyone! Tammy, Tx Join Killeen Barter at http://finance.groups.yahoo.com/group/KilleenBarter/ Trade or Barter away those things you don't want anymore! Cheap Talk? Check out Yahoo! Messenger's low PC-to-Phone call rates. __________________________________________________

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Tammy I can relate to your story. I think we all go through this. I just wish they had live one day as we do. It seams fair. As I could call him a few chouse names I won't but remember you will always have friends here and if you need to vent. We are there to listen. Hugs Helen

Oh, Tammy, I am so incredibly sorry to read this. What a horrible thing to do. No one has the right to treat another human being so atrociously. And no one deserves such pain and devastation, or the inevitable fall-out which comes.

You know this had nothing to do with you. You could have been or said or done anything and it wouldn't have caused nor prevented his actions. Those are choices he made and, unfortunately, you are left to suffer for them.

I know a lot changed inside you before you wrote this post and I know it's been some time since you did post it and more changes have come. I hope you continue to find increased comfort and strength as the days pass.

Warm Hugs,

Challis

Tamatha P <tamatha_tx> wrote:

I've not written in a while. I've been reading all the posts, but just have not been up to writing. I went to Kansas mid-October to see my two middle kids. I was gone a week and had a great time. When I got home, my husband sat me down and told me he met someone! I was crushed. He told me that he hadn't felt strongly for me for quite some time. I was dx'd in March of this year and he said if I hadn't been, he would have left me at the beginning of the year. So I guess that means he felt sorry for me and felt obligated to stay! What a jerk! I told him to take his pity and shove it! So now he is so in love with this other woman. She is everything I have never been. Although I have extra pounds and have been losing quite a bit, she is just plain fat. No offense to anyone here that is overweight! My DH never really liked me to dress provacative, she looks like a street corner hooker! She wears more makeup than Tammy Faye Baker! When I found out who she was, and yes I've known her for years, I was even more crushed. On top of all of this, she still lives with her ex-DH because she couldn't afford the house they bought when they were married! They have been divorced for about 5 years! So naturally, my DH and his slut have to keep their affair hidden from her ex because he is still so in love with her! It's been 2 months and I think I have finally come to terms with the fact that my DH is no longer mine. It was very hard to accept at first because I love him so much. However, the more I write this story over and over in letters, emails, and in my head, the madder I get. I left my first DH and took nothing. Not this time. I've got this DH by the balls. Infidelity, mental anguish, mental cruelty, .....I can come up with lots of things to throw in there. I have since had to go on antidepressants which I vowed not to do when I was Dx'd, but I had no choice. Crying all the time, bursts of anger, I was a mess. I am feelling better now as the pills have started working their magic, but I am still not going to let him get off easy. He even had the nerve to as if when we went to go see the Nature in Lights (big Christmas park here), if he could invite her! I have so many names I could call him, but I won't offend anyone here. There is so much that has gone on, but I won't bore you all to death. I will keep everyone posted on the seperation and divorce. Thanks for letting me vent. Love to everyone!

Tammy, Tx

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This is also my favorite part of that movie. It's so empowering!

E.

Colorado

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I'm sorry Tammy, I know how you feel. My ex used to call me fat and all kinds of things and after we got divorced everyone he dated was twice as large as me. You are strong and independent and he can't hold a candle to you. I have to go to the dr in Dallas sometime next month, we should meet up for lunch.

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, How are you handling all of the snow? 'lissa252000@... wrote: This is also my favorite part of that movie. It's so empowering! E. Colorado Re: Catching Up/Venting Check out

Waiting to Exhale...I love it when she has the garage sale of all his stuff and loads the clothes in his beemer and catches it on fire. I'm sorry Tammy, I know how you feel. My ex used to call me fat and all kinds of things and after we got divorced everyone he dated was twice as large as me. You are strong and independent and he can't hold a candle to you. I have to go to the dr in Dallas sometime next month, we should meet up for lunch. ' Check out the new AOL. Most comprehensive set of free safety and security tools, free access to millions of high-quality videos from across the web, free AOL Mail and more.

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Well we are certainly tired of it. There are huge piles of it

everywhere & some of the side streets are only one lane. My speech

is better since my MIL left & the holidays are over. I've had a

chance to rest so that's good. I made the trek up to Denver yesterday

to see the neuropsychologist for the testing. Some of it was easy &

some of it suprised me how hard it was. I know I failed some of the

tests because I either sucked up the amount of time allowed & still

couldn't do it or I flat out couldn't ido it to begin with. I'll get

the results back probably tomorrow. I'm kind of nervous about what it's

going to say. Of course he didn't comment about anything during the

testing which drove me nuts. I also had to do the MMPI which is a

personality test. It was about 500 questions long. He's going to fax

the results today to the MS specialist I'm seeing on the 9th. The only

thing that bothered me is he mentioned that some of the weird episodes

I had sounded more like TIA's to him than MS flares. He said those

don't show up on CAT scans or MRI's. I don't know what to think about

that. I guess that means that I've had 4 or 5 in the last 2 1/2yrs.

Creepy. He also mentioned that it was odd that I was Dx with RRMS

without any visible lesions. Then he said that maybe it was too early

& since I haven't had an MRI in 2yrs that maybe something would

show up now. I can't imagine what else it could be with permanent

bladder problems & 3 episodes of ON & pins & needles in

legs & feet all the time & trouble walking due to fatigue at

times. I'm so worried that if the MRI comes back clean that she will

say "oh we don't know what it is go home". I will go " Duck" on

the lady right then! It took me 4 damn neuros before I got an answer

the first time. The only thing is the last guy who was willing to put

it on paper is like 75yrs old & is bound to retire soon. So I

decided to go to this new Dr. I will try not to go crazy in the

meantime & I will keep everyone updated.

E.

Colorado

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Sounds like you and I might be somewhere on the same page. After over 20 years of being told I had MS, and recently being treated for it, My doctor says he wants to do further testing. He said he's not convinced that this is MS. Could be Fibromyalgia , or something else. He said he could see that looking into my eyes, there is definitely something going on, but it looks like it might be clearing up. In any case...I'm waiting for a phone call to tell me when to come back in for a follow up.

Listen...you know there is something wrong with you. So what? Maybe it won't show up in the MRI, but maybe it will. Whatever the situation, don't take NO for an answer. There is something going on, or you wouldn't be trying to find out what it is. Stick to your guns and stay the course. Peserverance (SP) does pay.

Wow! Three cliches in a row!! Am I on a roll or what?? Sorry.

Blessed be...

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Les lettres de Suzan

Septembre 06

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good luck melissa.stay strong.you are in my thoughts and prayers.keep us

posted.hugs,cassy

[lissa252000@...] wrote:

Well we are certainly tired of it. There are huge piles of it everywhere & some

of the side streets are only one lane. My speech is better since my MIL left &

the holidays are over. I've had a chance to rest so that's good. I made the trek

up to Denver yesterday to see the neuropsychologist for the testing. Some of it

was easy & some of it suprised me how hard it was. I know I failed some of the

tests because I either sucked up the amount of time allowed & still couldn't do

it or I flat out couldn't ido it to begin with. I'll get the results back

probably tomorrow. I'm kind of nervous about what it's going to say. Of course

he didn't comment about anything during the testing which drove me nuts. I also

had to do the MMPI which is a personality test. It was about 500 questions long.

He's going to fax the results today to the MS specialist I'm seeing on the 9th.

The only thing that bothered me is he mentioned that some of the weird episodes

I had sounded more like TIA's to

him than MS flares. He said those don't show up on CAT scans or MRI's. I don't

know what to think about that. I guess that means that I've had 4 or 5 in the

last 2 1/2yrs. Creepy. He also mentioned that it was odd that I was Dx with RRMS

without any visible lesions. Then he said that maybe it was too early & since I

haven't had an MRI in 2yrs that maybe something would show up now. I can't

imagine what else it could be with permanent bladder problems & 3 episodes of ON

& pins & needles in legs & feet all the time & trouble walking due to fatigue at

times. I'm so worried that if the MRI comes back clean that she will say " oh we

don't know what it is go home " . I will go " Duck " on the lady right then!

It took me 4 damn neuros before I got an answer the first time. The only

thing is the last guy who was willing to put it on paper is like 75yrs old & is

bound to retire soon. So I decided to go to this new Dr. I will try not to go

crazy in the meantime & I will keep

everyone updated.

E.

Colorado

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