Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 Susie Barratt wrote: > > > *Hello All,* > > *First thing I walked into class at 9am this morning for word processing and > gosh soon the first student stared at me weird, I just didn't knew where > else too look. then when i looked at the other student in the end then she > stared at me weird, because my social worker explained my disability and no > turning back now lol, they didn't even said a word to me since I got in this > morning and it was all the students, now I feel more isolated than I did > before, I wish she never said nothing now but i agreed with her too, now its > my big mistake I ever made. Now i have to start off conversations, but just > too frightened too, as they humans around me. Gosh I feel so nervous and I > never made first move for conversations before, thats what my social worker > suggested me, I'm not that good at taking that kind of advice, it takes alot > of confidence, but i feel the nerves inside me. Gosh what a nightmare and it > was so horrible I Just felt like a zombie came in thru the door lol oh its > monday morning , but I don't think its that, I think its coz they know they > don't want to say things that upset me, but they are allowed to say hello > and ask me how my weekend went, that will not upset me at all, thats not > personal lol, Its worse than I thought its gonna be, I thought they will say > hello at leasat, but they didn't, they ignored me altogether , anyway that > is all 4 now and I will keep on updating. Susie* That's one heck of a long run-on sentence! Wow! I think the reason that the people in your class are not speaking to you now is that they don't know what to say, or what's okay to say, so they're defaulting to " don't say anything. " Look, the trick to starting conversations is to ask about the other person and look interested in what they're saying, even if you think it's totally boring or ridiculous. Example: You: " Hi, [other person's name], how are you doing today? " Other person: " I'm fine, how are you? " (Standard response.) You: " I'm fine too. Hey, did you see [movie that is currently popular]? I was thinking about going to see it but I've heard mixed reviews. " Then just listen while they talk. Say " Oh yeah? " and " mm-hmm " as appropriate, to show you're listening. Look at the bridge of their nose so they think you're making eye contact. Also, practice this with someone beforehand. It's a learning curve. Griff -- Don't believe everything you think. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2007 Report Share Posted January 8, 2007 thanks Adman and thats best way to start conversation even it is boring > lol, Susie > > Susie Barratt wrote: > > > > > > *Hello All,* > > > > *First thing I walked into class at 9am this morning for word processing > and > > gosh soon the first student stared at me weird, I just didn't knew where > > else too look. then when i looked at the other student in the end then > she > > stared at me weird, because my social worker explained my disability and > no > > turning back now lol, they didn't even said a word to me since I got in > this > > morning and it was all the students, now I feel more isolated than I did > > before, I wish she never said nothing now but i agreed with her too, now > its > > my big mistake I ever made. Now i have to start off conversations, but > just > > too frightened too, as they humans around me. Gosh I feel so nervous and > I > > never made first move for conversations before, thats what my social > worker > > suggested me, I'm not that good at taking that kind of advice, it takes > alot > > of confidence, but i feel the nerves inside me. Gosh what a nightmare > and it > > was so horrible I Just felt like a zombie came in thru the door lol oh > its > > monday morning , but I don't think its that, I think its coz they know > they > > don't want to say things that upset me, but they are allowed to say > hello > > and ask me how my weekend went, that will not upset me at all, thats not > > personal lol, Its worse than I thought its gonna be, I thought they will > say > > hello at leasat, but they didn't, they ignored me altogether , anyway > that > > is all 4 now and I will keep on updating. Susie* > > That's one heck of a long run-on sentence! Wow! I think the reason that > the people in your class are not speaking to you now is that they don't > know what to say, or what's okay to say, so they're defaulting to " don't > say anything. " > > Look, the trick to starting conversations is to ask about the other > person and look interested in what they're saying, even if you think > it's totally boring or ridiculous. > > Example: > > You: " Hi, [other person's name], how are you doing today? " > > Other person: " I'm fine, how are you? " (Standard response.) > > You: " I'm fine too. Hey, did you see [movie that is currently popular]? > I was thinking about going to see it but I've heard mixed reviews. " > > Then just listen while they talk. Say " Oh yeah? " and " mm-hmm " as > appropriate, to show you're listening. Look at the bridge of their nose > so they think you're making eye contact. > > Also, practice this with someone beforehand. It's a learning curve. > > Griff > -- > Don't believe everything you think. > > -- My private email address: susie4uk2006@... My group email: susannah2005uk@... My Website at: http://susie4uk2005.tripod.com/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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