Re: no orgasam,sometimes,or painful

[Guest guest]

Sue,

I think it is both the fear of pain and the pain itself. I am very

tense from both.

Jo

[Guest guest]

Hi,

My sex life has always stunk b/c I couldn't have an orgasm unless

masturbating. Now, my boyfriend and I haven't had sex in 1 yr b/c it

is too painful. The pain itself has messed me up psychologically and

of course, has lowered my desire for intimacy with my bf. But I

still oragasm a lot with my vibrator when I'm alone. With vvs, we

are dealing w/ physical and emotional aspects, which contribute to

less orgasms, sex, etc.

Ruth

> I was wondering what stops woman with " our condition " to stop

having orgasms

> or have them more rarely. I sit fear of pain,pain itself,or this

doesn't

> apply to you. If it does apply let me know what you think the

difference

> is. Thanks, Sue

[Guest guest]

If I have an orgasm I will get a flare-up the next day.

Every few months I try again to see if it is still happening.

:-( :-(

> no orgasam,sometimes,or painful

>

> I was wondering what stops woman with " our condition " to stop

> having orgasms

> or have them more rarely. I sit fear of pain,pain itself,or this doesn't

> apply to you. If it does apply let me know what you think the difference

> is. Thanks, Sue

>

>

[Guest guest]

Ruth - I might suggest (and please excuse if this is wrong, but it is from my experience)....

Despite a wonderful communicative relationship with my husband both in the bedroom and out - I also found that it was easier, and more comfortable to orgasm without him - but I think it was more because I would be in complete control. So, when we were together I would take the control. We would use toys together, watch movies together and enjoy each other separately. In fact, I love watching him! I he loves watching me - we take turns talking as well - you have to have a pretty good trust level to do this but if you have it it can be wonderful. What this has done has allowed me to have POSITIVE SUCCESSES (as opposed to negative experiences when having sex and getting pain) This in turn, eases the obvious psychological connection.. YOu can not relax if you know in your mind that you will get pain.

Good Luck - feel free to contact me off list if you like

(WPB, FL)

[Guest guest]

I liked your way of solving your problem till you can conquor this disease. You are fortunate indeed to have that kind of communication with your mate. I think it's a grand idea as a temporary situation. Thanks for the input.

Dee~