Re: Yet another S#!++y day!!

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In a message dated 12/28/01 9:00:30 PM Pacific Standard Time, Tamara writes:

> I am so angry when she

> does this that I scare myself.

>

I don't know how you do it at all, Tamara!

You run a daycare out of your home?

Isn't that a problem with this going on?

I mean, don't the parents know something

is wrong here? I do not know what I would

do if I had to deal with this. This is like the

ultimate behavioral problem. You realize we

hold none of this against you, and only wish

we could do something to help. With this

and her running away, I just would have

checked out by now.

You are a hell of a woman, Tamara!

Normally I hate swearing, but you are

remarkable in the patience dept with

having any by now.

I realize you are at the end of that rope,

but hopefully that (straight jacket) I mean

overalls will arrive soon and you can relax.

Barb-pulling for you, girl.

This might not be a good time to mention it,

but I absolutely love the name Ebony.

May the Spirit of Christmas move you and those

you love to a better place in life, one full of promise.

~Barbara Allyn

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Thanks, Barb. I don't feel very patient most of the time, but I appreciate

the support. All the day care families know about Ebony and do not have a

problem with her. She is normally in school until 11:15. Then she has

in-home therapy until 4:30. Generally, she only does the poop when she is

not directly interacting with someone....so in the evenings or weekends or

early mornings. I only have one child in the evenings that I watch

Monday-Thursday and I don't offer care on the weekends. I also clean up

immediately when she does it and she only does it when she is alone, so the

day care kids really are not exposed to it.

Thank you!!

Tamara

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I don't know how you do it at all, Tamara!

You run a daycare out of your home?

Isn't that a problem with this going on?

I mean, don't the parents know something

is wrong here? I do not know what I would

do if I had to deal with this. This is like the

ultimate behavioral problem. You realize we

hold none of this against you, and only wish

we could do something to help. With this

and her running away, I just would have

checked out by now.

You are a hell of a woman, Tamara!

Normally I hate swearing, but you are

remarkable in the patience dept with

having any by now.

I realize you are at the end of that rope,

but hopefully that (straight jacket) I mean

overalls will arrive soon and you can relax.

Barb-pulling for you, girl.

This might not be a good time to mention it,

but I absolutely love the name Ebony.

May the Spirit of Christmas move you and those

you love to a better place in life, one full of promise.

~Barbara Allyn

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Tamara,

Two things:

Did you find out about MedicAlert? I never saw...

wears a bracelet from them---got it at the suggestion of the

police after he bolted out of church one day. I would suggest the

bracelet rather than the necklace...can't get it off if you measure

it right. They're pretty nice folks...

Anyway, just in case you still need the information, the phone number

is 1-, or you can go to www.medicalert.org

It costs around $35 a year, I think (or they have a special 3 yr rate

that is cheaper)...and you can update it when you need to.

*Second*, you asked about the poop and smell thing in the book I'm

reading... has been sick, so I haven't been doing a lot of

reading lately...SO, I haven't gotten to the intervention part of the

manual yet (most therapy books are arranged with theory first, then

intervention)...but I have read that she feels poop smearing is tied

to needing to find " me " ...sense of smell is very directly tied to the

limbic system and is therefore strongly emotional--gives a lot of

sensory/emotional impact if you are feeling lost...so if her therapy

is helping her to gain an internal map of her body, and a sense of

organization, in THEORY the smearing should decrease.

Not much help, I know...I'll keep reading ( smears, too).

Hope today is better,

Raena

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Raena...thanks so much for the info. I will be doing that soon. I had been

thinking about something with her name and address and phone number on it

with like autistic/non-verbal so that they would know. I will definetely

look into it asap. Thanks again,

Tamara

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Reply-To: parenting_autism

To: parenting_autism

Subject: Re: Yet another S#!++y day!!

Date: Sat, 29 Dec 2001 17:19:28 -0000

Tamara,

Two things:

Did you find out about MedicAlert? I never saw...

wears a bracelet from them---got it at the suggestion of the

police after he bolted out of church one day. I would suggest the

bracelet rather than the necklace...can't get it off if you measure

it right. They're pretty nice folks...

Anyway, just in case you still need the information, the phone number

is 1-, or you can go to www.medicalert.org

It costs around $35 a year, I think (or they have a special 3 yr rate

that is cheaper)...and you can update it when you need to.

*Second*, you asked about the poop and smell thing in the book I'm

reading... has been sick, so I haven't been doing a lot of

reading lately...SO, I haven't gotten to the intervention part of the

manual yet (most therapy books are arranged with theory first, then

intervention)...but I have read that she feels poop smearing is tied

to needing to find " me " ...sense of smell is very directly tied to the

limbic system and is therefore strongly emotional--gives a lot of

sensory/emotional impact if you are feeling lost...so if her therapy

is helping her to gain an internal map of her body, and a sense of

organization, in THEORY the smearing should decrease.

Not much help, I know...I'll keep reading ( smears, too).

Hope today is better,

Raena

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> Anyway, just in case you still need the information, the phone number

> is 1-, or you can go to www.medicalert.org

>

> It costs around $35 a year, I think (or they have a special 3 yr rate

> that is cheaper)...and you can update it when you need to.

Thanks for doing this Raena -- Tamara, I forgot to answer that post. I'm so

sorry!

Raena, does the $35 include being listed in the registry? Our was $85 for the

bracelet and the registry. (canadian, of course)

Jacquie