Guest guest Posted April 2, 2008 Report Share Posted April 2, 2008 I have not tried an intervention, nor do I think it would be a good idea. I think confronting a BP would only confirm their worldview that everyone is out to get them, especially if all the people conducting the intervention were painted black. I think it would make things worse. > > So I know I've asked this before, but never heard from anyone and thought I throw it out there again. Has anyone tried or know of another who has tried an intervention. This is the only thing I can think of that had not been tried. I know I could gather about 13 people all currently painted black. I wouldn't want to do this if it would make things worse, but then...how could it get worse besides suicide. And would that be worse?. I hope that's not sickly awful, but my BPD has created so much emotional, social and mental pain for herself and others that I truly wonder. Any thoughts on this? > Thanks. > > JaneSoul > > > _____________________________________________________________________ _______________ > You rock. That's why Blockbuster's offering you one month of Blockbuster Total Access, No Cost. > http://tc.deals.yahoo.com/tc/blockbuster/text5.com > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2008 Report Share Posted April 2, 2008 As with any damaged person I would think this would have to be approached very carefully. An intervention can, if not handled properly, devolve into a gang up. On the other hand the confrontation cannot be dismissed if a number of people are telling someone the exact same thing: your behavior is causing us damage and we want you to be aware of it. I think that is the most you can hope for with a BPD,to make them aware of the damage they do knowing that they may be incapable of change. They will never accept responsibility for their behavior, but they might be made aware that a number of people are being hurt by them. It might make them think. If you are considering an intervention, make sure you have objective third party mitigation there to help out, a therapist or clergy member. Someone who appreciates BPD. I have never had any experience with this but I do remember that the way ex-President Ford and his family conducted their intervention with Betty Ford over her drug and alcohol addiction was probably the best run intervention to date. It is certainly well documented in her autobiography. You might want to use that as a model. Good luck. Be strong Intervention So I know I've asked this before, but never heard from anyone and thought I throw it out there again.. Has anyone tried or know of another who has tried an intervention. This is the only thing I can think of that had not been tried. I know I could gather about 13 people all currently painted black. I wouldn't want to do this if it would make things worse, but then...how could it get worse besides suicide. And would that be worse?. I hope that's not sickly awful, but my BPD has created so much emotional, social and mental pain for herself and others that I truly wonder. Any thoughts on this? Thanks. JaneSoul ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ You rock. That's why Blockbuster' s offering you one month of Blockbuster Total Access, No Cost. http://tc.deals. yahoo.com/ tc/blockbuster/ text5.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2008 Report Share Posted April 2, 2008 i don't see an intervention being something positive, especially if the bpd in your life is at all prone to paranoid delusions. this will just allow them to say, " SEE!??! you ARE talking about me behind my back!! you're trying to CONTROL ME! " after unmitigated rage, i do see the bpd turning to suicidal threats to get people to feel guilty. what could this lead to... hospitalization? maybe. suicide? maybe. more black paint? maybe. breakthrough? probably not. sorry to be such a cynic, but i just don't see it being a positive expenditure of your energy. bink Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2008 Report Share Posted April 2, 2008 I'm not sure that intervention is a tool that needs to be applied to something like this. It is used in addiction because people are making the point that it is not the person in question, but their progressively out of control addiction to a substance, that is causing the pain to themselves and those around them. An intervention for a personality disorder or mental illness is the opposite because it says that 'YOU are the problem'. Since bpd/npd people seem pathologically shame-based it's possible that they don't have the cognitive processing skills for something like that to do any good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2008 Report Share Posted April 2, 2008 Yes, unfortunately it seems that denial and projection are part of the BPD arsenal, so admitting that they have a deep seated problem isn't something they're likely to do. BPDs just won't be convinced that they're the problem. An addict can be convinced that the drug he's choosing is destroying his life, and that those around him aren't going to prop it up anymore. But I've thought about it myself, so you're not alone in your thinking. I just see it as so hopeless, as my mom won't entertain the notion that there's anything wrong with her. -Kyla > > > > So I know I've asked this before, but never heard from anyone and > thought I throw it out there again. Has anyone tried or know of > another who has tried an intervention. This is the only thing I can > think of that had not been tried. I know I could gather about 13 > people all currently painted black. I wouldn't want to do this if > it would make things worse, but then...how could it get worse > besides suicide. And would that be worse?. I hope that's not > sickly awful, but my BPD has created so much emotional, social and > mental pain for herself and others that I truly wonder. Any > thoughts on this? > > Thanks. > > > > JaneSoul > > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ > ____________ ___ > > You rock. That's why Blockbuster' s offering you one month of > Blockbuster Total Access, No Cost. > > http://tc.deals. yahoo.com/ tc/blockbuster/ text5.com > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2008 Report Share Posted April 2, 2008 i've tried an intervention before with my dad on my side and my mom just turned into a crying pitiful mess. we succeeded in getting her to confront some parts of her (after she was done projecting all over us), but it resulted in a big depression that my mom has no way of dealing with. she just sinks into despair when she thinks about the way things have been. she can't cope. it looks insurmountable to her and she doesn't think anything will ever change. i don't think she likes being this way any more than i do. the only way it would work is if you already had a psychologist familiar with bpd lined up and ready to see your mom like, THAT DAY or the next day because by the time my mom gets over things, she's back to acting like nothing is wrong again. bink > > > > > > So I know I've asked this before, but never heard from anyone > and > > thought I throw it out there again. Has anyone tried or know of > > another who has tried an intervention. This is the only thing I > can > > think of that had not been tried. I know I could gather about 13 > > people all currently painted black. I wouldn't want to do this if > > it would make things worse, but then...how could it get worse > > besides suicide. And would that be worse?. I hope that's not > > sickly awful, but my BPD has created so much emotional, social and > > mental pain for herself and others that I truly wonder. Any > > thoughts on this? > > > Thanks. > > > > > > JaneSoul > > > > > > > > > > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ > > ____________ ___ > > > You rock. That's why Blockbuster' s offering you one month of > > Blockbuster Total Access, No Cost. > > > http://tc.deals. yahoo.com/ tc/blockbuster/ text5.com > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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