Re: Lou comes for Advent Candles

[Guest guest]

> Yep, we did it. He was very pleasant and polite. and

Enrique were furious; Enrique admitted that a year ago he would have

been glad but he is not glad now and finds his father's presence

stressful. just felt it ruined candles.

>

:-(

> Sophie was all smiles and sweetness (she has been very disruptive

of our Advent wreath service this year). Putter was a little startled

but carried on as usual, and Robbie was excited.

:-)

>

> Lou asked Enrique if he could come to our Advent wreath service

every night and Enrique, giving me an agonized sidelong glance,

said, " Um. I dunno. "

>

At least he answered him somewhat honestly.

I hope you have a peaceful holiday season, Salli.

[Guest guest]

It's a shame, really, when you think about it.

I think that a whole lot of Enrique's " controllable " behaviors would be

controlled if Lou were around. He's obviously scared of Lou, and KNOWS that Lou

will not be as easy with him as you would be. I think that would be a definite

way to find out how much of Enrique's behavior is within his control, and how

much, if not all, of his acts are involuntary.

<goodness, don't you have a nickname for him, whew> seems quite angry

these days. But I'm sure most of it has to do with Enrique, lack of Lou, lack

of this or that, too much of this or that, etc.... and with Lou back in the

house, ideally - - - -there should be stability. Mom, Dad, everything back in

order. What every kid wants.

Now if Lou knew how to be a decent human being, and if he knew the basic

unspoken law that a man does not, under any circumstance, hit a woman, and if

Lou knew how to feel love the way most people expect others to feel - - - I'd

be so much happier for you, Salli. And if he is being pleasant and polite with

selfish intentions yet again - - - I am seriously going to want to strangle him.

In the meantime, I hope he pulls through for you guys. I hope he doesn't let

the kids down. Or you, for that matter.

Grace

Lou comes for Advent Candles

Yep, we did it. He was very pleasant and polite. and Enrique were

furious; Enrique admitted that a year ago he would have been glad but he is not

glad now and finds his father's presence stressful. just felt it

ruined candles.

Sophie was all smiles and sweetness (she has been very disruptive of our

Advent wreath service this year). Putter was a little startled but carried on as

usual, and Robbie was excited.

Lou asked Enrique if he could come to our Advent wreath service every night

and Enrique, giving me an agonized sidelong glance, said, " Um. I dunno. "

Salli

[Guest guest]

> with Lou back in the house, ideally - - - -there should be stability <

ha! extremely ideally. nice thought tho...

" Why is it that everytime I think I know the answers, someone goes and

changes the questions?? " - Fox Mulder

[Guest guest]

Poor kids. It's too bad Lou's presence is so stressful. It would be nice if he

could at least have a relationship with his kids. Of course, he has no one to

blame but himself for this one I spose.

Kerri

Lou comes for Advent Candles

Yep, we did it. He was very pleasant and polite. and Enrique were

furious; Enrique admitted that a year ago he would have been glad but he is not

glad now and finds his father's presence stressful. just felt it

ruined candles.

Sophie was all smiles and sweetness (she has been very disruptive of our

Advent wreath service this year). Putter was a little startled but carried on as

usual, and Robbie was excited.

Lou asked Enrique if he could come to our Advent wreath service every night

and Enrique, giving me an agonized sidelong glance, said, " Um. I dunno. "

Salli

[Guest guest]

> Poor kids. It's too bad Lou's presence is so stressful. It would be nice

if he could at least have a relationship with his kids. Of course, he has no

one to blame but himself for this one I spose.

Yep. That's right. But slowly and easily he probably can, if he chooses,

win them back. Of course, I am not sure he has the skills to do this, but

he should be given his opportunity if he finally cares about what he has

been missing.

Salli

[Guest guest]

I am cautiously pleased for you Salli. I know it is a calculated risk and I

think I understand your motives. Even if I don't, I am still pleased that Lou

was able to behave himself for a little while and that you were willing to

suspend disbelief long enough to give him a chance.

You are very brave, Salli. I am cautiously pleased for you.

I know you don't need me to explain that.... but I will say that it means that I

am hoping you get what you want and that it works out for the kids as well.

Is that good? I mean it good.

Smiles!

37 year old wife to , 41

Mom to:

na-14-NT

Marilla-8-Autistic

Sherman-7-Autistic

Greilyn-2-NT (so far)

" It is never too late to start from where you are. The future is whatever you

want it to be. " Dr. , Port

" Do not think that what is hard for thee to master is impossible for man; but if

a thing is possible and proper to man, deem it attainable by thee. " Marcus

Aurelius (121-180) Meditations. vi. 19.

Lou comes for Advent Candles

Yep, we did it. He was very pleasant and polite. and Enrique were

furious; Enrique admitted that a year ago he would have been glad but he is not

glad now and finds his father's presence stressful. just felt it

ruined candles.

Sophie was all smiles and sweetness (she has been very disruptive of our

Advent wreath service this year). Putter was a little startled but carried on as

usual, and Robbie was excited.

Lou asked Enrique if he could come to our Advent wreath service every night

and Enrique, giving me an agonized sidelong glance, said, " Um. I dunno. "

Salli