Guest guest Posted May 15, 2011 Report Share Posted May 15, 2011 Jan I'm sorry to hear about all the turmoil following your loss. That's awful for you but I'm sure that you will succeed at getting your life back, and moving onto a new chapter . -- His, Sherry daughter/guardian of , dx 4/09 with LBD, living in a nearby NH > Hi, > I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death last January. > As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a buyer. > I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a room to move into until I get my life back in order. > A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful and they employee me almost on a weekly basis. > I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to get my life back! > I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be getting in the beginning. > To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back. > So onward to a new chapter of my life. > Jan Colello Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 Jan, Jim’s kids have no idea how lucky they were when you walked into his life. I’m sure they will only understand your true worth when it is their time to care for a spouse or need taking care of themselves. I hope you go from strength to strength and find a lovely little place that brings you peace and feels like home. Courage From: Janet Colello Sent: Sunday, May 15, 2011 2:35 PM To: LBDcaregivers Subject: Hello All Hi, I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death last January. As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a buyer. I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a room to move into until I get my life back in order. A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful and they employee me almost on a weekly basis. I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to get my life back! I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be getting in the beginning. To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back. So onward to a new chapter of my life. Jan Colello Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 Jan,it is so good to hear from you. I was just thinking this weekend it was time to email you to find out how you are doing, to let you know you are thought of. I remember your saying you were going to move in July and have wondered how that short time line is going for you. I can't believe the lack of consideration by Jim's kids with the demanding time line they set for you. Perhaps at some time of crisis in their own lives they will realize how inconsiderate they have been. Know that positive thoughts are sent your way frequently. ((((hugs to you)))) > > Hi, > I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death last January. > As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a buyer. > I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a room to move into until I get my life back in order. > A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful and they employee me almost on a weekly basis. > I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to get my life back! > I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be getting in the beginning. > To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back. > So onward to a new chapter of my life. > Jan Colello > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 Always good to hear from you! :) Terrible way Jim's kids thank you by selling the house from under you. I also hope they realize one day how inconsiderate they are. I hope you find a perfect home - you can build your own... find a bit of land and build a Tumbleweed Tiny Home http://www.tumbleweedhouses.com/houses/harbinger/ Can you imagine? and you can have a pet pig. LOL Wishing you lots of peace & joy as you enter your new chapter in life. Why? b/c no one else deserves it more than you! > > Hi, > I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death last January. > As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a buyer. > I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a room to move into until I get my life back in order. > A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful and they employee me almost on a weekly basis. > I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to get my life back! > I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be getting in the beginning. > To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back. > So onward to a new chapter of my life. > Jan Colello > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 16, 2011 Report Share Posted May 16, 2011 Dear Jan, It was sad to read that Jim's kids couldn't wait to sell the house out from under you. YOU were the one that took such amazing care of their father, and it is awful to read how they are repaying your devotion. I wish you peace and happiness in the next chapter of your life... and friends to come and help you finish packing to get out of there! Sending you love from dreary and rainy NY, Helene > > Hi, > I just thought I would update you all on my life's story as of Jim's death last January. > As most of you know, Jim's kids had the Trust to the house and put it up for sale only a month after Jim's passing. I have bearly had time to mourn his loss, but maybe it is a good thing I have been keeping very busy packing and cleaning to move out. I have had my moments of melt downs mostly at night when I am alone in thought. I will be moving out on June 1. They have a buyer. > I have really had to learn to humble myself and ask friends and family for a room to move into until I get my life back in order. > A friend of a friend has opened her home up to me and I am going to rent a room from her until I can find a full time job again and get a place of my own. As of now, I do sub jobs at the school, which has been very helpful and they employee me almost on a weekly basis. > I just need a stop over to get myself together again and move on. I need to get my life back! > I asked Jim's kids if they could wait for me to pack and move out before putting the house up for sale, but they wanted it on sale now and they weren't going to wait, so I had to live in a gold fish bowl of people passing through and attempting to keep the house clean and presentable while packing and cleaning. It's all about the money to them. I do get the last laugh since the house prices have gone down and Medicaid wants a lump out of the sale, so they won't be getting all they were thinking they would be getting in the beginning. > To tell you the truth, I will be glad to be over with this episode of my life and moving onto a new chapter. It will be good to get my life back. > So onward to a new chapter of my life. > Jan Colello > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 17, 2011 Report Share Posted May 17, 2011 Jan, The best of luck to you as you move on. Life still has a few stikes to deal us even after LBD but we have learned how to be strong and will take whatever comes at us while still looking to the future for a normal life. You have been an example of courage and strength throughout your struggles with LBD, caring for Jim with the utmost love and concern and still finding time and ability to help with this list and respond to others cries for help. Thank you for your help to all of us through the years. Leona Leona: Caregiver for husband Ray, age 68, diagnosed 2/04 with Parkinson's Disease. Changed doctors, diagnosed 6/06 with LBD. Almost continual downhill slide no matter what drugs we try. 5/2/08 Ray was placed in Sunrise Nursing Home in Oswego, NY, 1 hour from home. So far, so good! Hardest thing I have ever done in my life, however. 3/19/09 transferred to Samaritan Keep NH in Watertown, NY closer to home. He passed peacefully at 5:18 am on April 14, 2009. I am handling it OK. 'Love is not finding someone to live with; it's finding someone you don't want to live without.' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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