Guest guest Posted December 12, 2001 Report Share Posted December 12, 2001 , Seems to me you are handling things extremly well, much better than I would. Hang in there hon, I think you are doing a great job. Tuna --- egcjssmom wrote: I love my mom, but I don't like when she meddles. I know that's how she shows she cares but I don't need to be her latest project in the midst of all I'm trying to manage here. The last thing I want to do right now is add a Friday night progress report to her. Thanks for listening guys. I can't call my mom and tell her not to meddle because then she will take offense, and besides that she told dh not to tell me she called and basically chewed his rear end out, so you guys get to hear me vent. Thanks. ===== ______________________________________________________ Send your holiday cheer with http://greetings.yahoo.ca Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2001 Report Share Posted December 12, 2001 , that is one hell of a hubby you have to tell you that your mother is complaning about you. I think you are holding everything together just fine. Don't let her try and change how you do things. You are a great person and one that sure knows how to cope with what life throws your way. Lori Parental Vent ... Not about kids, but about my parents. According to my husband, who received a call from my mother last night, I am on the brink of a breakdown. She thinks I am teetering on the edge of complete incapacity. HA! I only wish because then I could go for a nice quiet vacation. No such luck. I have all my faculties, there just isn't enough of me. Even with two of us there isn't enough of us to manage everything to my mother's satisfaction, or mine when you get right down to it, but that's the way life is when you have kids like ours. It's called reality bites but my mom doesn't see it that way. I am so overwhelmed and stressed out in her view that that is why I am incapable of getting everything done, the bills paid, the house cleaned, the insurance investigated, and so on and so forth ad nauseaum. Now keep in mind that everything must be on a neatly planned schedule for my mother who's entire life is on lists and planners. She thinks that because I operate under the " it's here somewhere " theory that I am slipping down the slipery slope to destruction and madness. I think all things considered I'm coping reasonably well. I haven't completely lost my sense of humor or my sanity. My mom has a need to control and organize everything and everyone in her environment. It's how she functions. I do not have the same need. I like things to be orderly but I don't need them to be. My mom can not tolerate extended time with Gail or because they are too unpredictable, uncontrolable, disorganized. The crumbs, noise and chaos that accompany them have her unglued in a day. Because this is how she reacts she thinks this is how I react (good old AS brain here). I love my mom, but I don't like when she meddles. I know that's how she shows she cares but I don't need to be her latest project in the midst of all I'm trying to manage here. The last thing I want to do right now is add a Friday night progress report to her. Thanks for listening guys. I can't call my mom and tell her not to meddle because then she will take offense, and besides that she told dh not to tell me she called and basically chewed his rear end out, so you guys get to hear me vent. Thanks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2001 Report Share Posted December 12, 2001 > Thanks for listening guys. I can't call my mom and tell her not to > meddle because then she will take offense, and besides that she told > dh not to tell me she called and basically chewed his rear end out, > so you guys get to hear me vent. Thanks. You're a stronger woman than me, ! :-) I'd have to call her back. (bad move) Sorry that's what she thinks -- and i " m glad you know she's not right. (((hugs))) Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2001 Report Share Posted December 13, 2001 , Keep reminding yourself she's just like one of your kids! Also, at least you didn't answer the phone when she called!!! And, aren't you glad she doesn't live around the corner right now? Sue, who's trying to help you find the humor in the situation! Hope it worked. : ) ---------------------------------------------------- Sign Up for NetZero Platinum Today Only $9.95 per month! http://my.netzero.net/s/signup?r=platinum & refcd=PT97 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2001 Report Share Posted December 13, 2001 - I think you have everything well in hand, even though you are totally and absolutely exhausted. Too bad your Mom couldn't come up with a plan to have someone go down and help you. Penny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2001 Report Share Posted December 13, 2001 > And, aren't you glad she doesn't live around the corner right now? > > Sue, who's trying to help you find the humor in the situation! Hope it > worked. : ) Oh boy, am I ever glad! I don't think that would work well for either of us! LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2001 Report Share Posted December 14, 2001 : I agree with Sue, find some way to add some humor to it!!! Just keep repeating We are not our parents We are not our parents We are not our parents If she want to come and step into your shoes for a while, welcome her!!! I am sure she will find them much too tight as Jacquie's mom would say!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 14, 2001 Report Share Posted December 14, 2001 I think I just sent my last post without my signature, DUH!! , Columbus, OH Mom to , 15, possible bipolar Annie, 12, so far so good JD, 8, severe ADHD, Autism, and my reason for getting out of bed each morning! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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