Re: Re: Assisted Living vs. Nursing Home

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Katy, it sounds like you are doing the best for your precious Mom too.

Your Mom is so very young to go through this!! Your right it was so hard

in the beginning, I cried a river so much, especially the first months.

Take care,

in Texas

We, as caregivers, are so very hard on ourselves. It sounds like you are

doing the best you can for your dad. When my mom was first diagnosed, we

tried having her live with us, using the services of a home health nurse during

the day. It did not take us long to realize she needed care and

supervision 24 hrs every day. Yes, she is independent a lot of the time, but we

never

know when she might need more care and supervision, given the extreme

fluctuations in her congnition and physical abilities. Moving her to a Nursing

Home was the best option. It wasn't easy, though. I cried every time I left

her for the day for at least the first month--probably longer. It is

normal for your dad to want to live on his own - most people do - you have to

consider what is best for him. When my mom complains about the Nursing Home

we reassure her that we understand and then we say something positive about

the care she receives there. You mentioned that your dad is not a

social person. My mom is very social, but LBD is changing that. When she

wants to be left alone, she has the option of staying in her room with the

door closed. She knows she does not have to participate in the activities

going on, but she also knows she can if she wishes.

I hope you have some good support for yourself. This is a tough situation.

Bless you for taking such good care of your dad. Come to this group for

support, answers, and reassurance. Connection with these good folks saved my

life 2 years ago and I have learned much from the posts, links, and files

found within this group.

Warmly, Katy--daughter to Jill, age 71