Re: Dealing with Grief (conf call notes, 12/6/10)

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much Robin for this summary of the talk on grief - and thank you

also for all the many research papers and information you share so often

with the group.

Another book I have recently read on grief is " Nothing was the Same " by Kay

Redfield Jamison (Professor of Psychiatry at the s Hopkins University

School of Medicine) - which is her journey of caring for her husband who

dies from cancer. The flypaper says " with her characteristic honesty,

candour, wit and simplicity, she describes his death, her own long,

difficult struggle with grief, and her efforts to distinguish grief from

depression. Kay Jamison has bipolar illness and has already written about

this in her book " Unquiet Mind " .

I also went hunting on the internet for the poem " Friends " and found it here

http://www.docstoc.com/docs/19816993/SEVEN-WAYS-TO-HELP-WHEN-SOMEONE-DIES

Friends

You don't need to say you're sorry

It's written in your face

I know you share my sadness

By the warmth of your embrace.

Don't try to justify the " why " ,

Or " how " this came to be

Or explain away the mystery

Of death's reality.

Just know that more than any words

The thing I hold most dear

Is the friendship in your handshake

And the fact that you are here

Bruce H. Conley

Elaine, in Sydney Australia