Guest guest Posted February 3, 2011 Report Share Posted February 3, 2011 what wonderful nformatoin you have shared thank you !!! sharon Subject: Re: Mom To: LBDcaregivers Date: Thursday, February 3, 2011, 3:05 PM  Tony, As a nurse, I am going to jump right in here and tell you that 6 sons means that you all have wives that must be involved in this process as well. I suggest that you all have a family care giver meeting and have them on a regular basis. You will all need to be on the same page. You will need to identify long and short term goals on a regular basis. These is a piece that every family care giver does not take into consideration- that is boundaries and setting limits. There are many unpleasant tasks that occur with care giving- toileting, bathing, not sleeping, maybe dealing with terrible unpredictable behaviors. Many family caregivers go into this with good intentions. They have no idea what they are agreeing to do. Care giving can last for as long as 20 years. YEs, that long. So there are many things that you all need to discuss- vacation coverage, holiday coverage, weekend coverage. That is the surface stuff. First the legal paper work. Here is a list of all the important things that need to be put into place from making changes to the home to legal paper work- http://www.aginghomehealthcare.com/planning-in-advance.html Here is info on how to run a family care giver meeting http://www.aginghomehealthcare.com/family-communication.html That is a start for you. I do not want to overwhelm you. I just want you to get off on the right foot. Please feel free to ask more questions. Diane Carbo www.aginghomehealthcare.com www.dementiacaresecrets.com > > Good evening all, > > I the oldest of six brothers and our mom has been diagnosed with this disease.� > This is new to us and we have all recently come to terms that mom is ill and > will probably not get better.� We have an appt. with the > neurologist/psychiatrist next week and we're looking for help on what questions > we need to ask.� Even though we have no sisters we've decided that mom will be > cared for by all of us and�do not want a home.� She's not that bad yet but we > don't see it getting better.� > > > Recently she has been seeing me and my wife in her home in Arizona but we're in > Texas.� Any suggestions on how we deal with that other than directly?� I don't > know but I believe she is having these hallucinations because we mentioned we > might be going to Arizona for a visit.� She's still very witty and has her long > term memory.� I know it's going to get tough but God will see us through it.� > Any suggestion for me and my brothers are welcomed. > > Thank you for listening. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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