How I found my dr

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I am sending this experience that I wrote that to another e-mail that is for

endometriosis last year, and the reason that I'm sending this is b/c of the fact

that I was asked if I would mind doing it so that it might be of some help to

others who are still looking for a dr that is caring and compassionate.

Also, when I had read of Suzy's first visit to Dr. and how she cried at

that first visit it reminded me of how I cried during my first visit to my dr.

The cry that I had was something that I hadn't been able to do for 2 years b/c

of the way that I was made to feel by the dr that I had before the one that I

have now.

I truly hope that this will be of help to everyone still looking. (Tess, if you

are reading this I hope that you enjoy my adventures of how I found her )

At the end of this message is an update on myself and how I'm doing since I last

posted to the list.

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I want to share this story of a very special day to me with all of you. The

reason for doing this is b/c I want to give all of the ladies who are still

looking for that very special dr who truly cares, and understands how we think

and feel.

You see, one year ago today I found my very special dr. Some of you (you know

who you are) have heard my personal thoughts in private on what has turned out

to be very strong feelings for this wonderful dr of mine.

What I have decided to do was repost the messages that I wrote about what led up

to that day as well as what happened on that day. Even though I have told the

story here again to all of you I figured that if I took some of those messages

that expressed some of the feelings that I had at that time that it would tell

the story a whole lot better than I tried to do.

Please forgive me ahead of time for how lengthy this message is going to be, but

these posts from last year, and the feelings that I currently have (which are

very deep rooted now) will definitely tell the story of why this day is so

special to me even better than me as I just said.

I've decided to set this in journal type format for easier reading. Here is how

my story unfolds:

Dec 12, 1998

" Seeing new Gyn-need advice "

Now, it's my turn to reach out. Here's why. The Gyn who took over my medical

care since I had my lap last August put on me on continuous birth control to

keep my menstrual cramps away, and also to keep the endo down. When I cramped up

during my period it would really hurt. At post-op he told that the cramps I had

with my periods were not related to the endo.

He said that it was really to the ovarian cysts that I have. But I didn't, and

to this day still don't agree with that because I've had problems with my

periods and really bad cramps since I was 13, and over the years it just kept

getting worse. I need to stay continuous inspite of some of the problems I've

had adjusting.

Here's what I need to know. I know want to know why you like or dislike being on

continuous bcp's, and if you disliked it I want to know what type of problems

you all have had while taking it because the Gyn said I was " exhibiting signs of

problems while taking continuous bc " . Taking continuous bcp has been wonderful

for me despite trying to adjust to it.

He didn't give me fair warning at post-op about what I might expect. He acted

like I should know what to expect, but since I had never done this before until

last Sept I didn't know. If I had done this before it would've been a lot

different. Because he didn't, I had to do the research myself.

This Gyn and I had been having communication problems since he became my doctor

(14 1/2 months). He decided that we should part ways as a result of this. He did

me a favor by letting me go because I wasn't comfortable with him being my

doctor. I had to find another Gyn, and I'm afraid that she might put me back on

cyclic, and I don't want to do that because of all the problems I had with it

before. I go to her on the 17th. I just hope this works out better for me.

I'd like to hear as many stories so that I can rethink my situation regarding

whether I should go back to cyclic or not, though I'd prefer not to. I'll keep

you all posted as to how the visit with her goes if you all would like.

Note: This next post was the first of two posts on this day, but with this one I

was very nervous which is very normal.

Dec 17, 1998

Post #1:

" Seeing new Gyn today "

I'm off to see the new Gyn today at 4:30. I hope that she'll be a little more

understanding of my present situation than the last one was. I just want

everything to go well because I don't want to keep searching for a doctor. I've

got to go take a shower now because it takes my hair a while to dry. Wish me

well! I'll post another message later today letting everyone know how it turned

out.

Post #2:

" Good news "

I just want to let everyone know that the visit with the new Gyn went well

today. She also has endo, and that makes me feel really good. She couldn't

believe that my last Gyn told me some of the things that he did. I am looking

forward to this new relationship.

Dec 18, 1998

" Thank you to all "

I just want to say thank you to all who read my messages yesterday, especially

the one about seeing the new Gyn. I was a little nervous. It had been a while

since I had to find another Gyn. She was so wonderful. It was so nice to have

someone who knew exactly what I was talking about for a change. I hope she meets

my expectations as well.

Franca, and Cameo I especially want to thank you for responding to my last post.

That's one of the reasons why I am so glad that I joined this forum. Having so

much support has been extremely wonderful. I told her as well as my PM

specialist about this forum, and they were glad to know that I'm part of this. I

look forward to continuing to do my share in offering support to all of you. We

definitely need each other to get through this.

The posts from last year stop there, but since then the relationship has only

gotten stronger. One of the things that helped to make this relationship get

stronger was b/c of the fact that when she came to talk to me on the day of my

surgery before going in to the OR not only did we talk but she held my hand.

Sure people came in and out of my cubicle, but when she came in I forgot

everybody else.

Her standing there holding my hand, and talking to me was the last thing that I

put in to my mind. She became my focal point at the time that I was going under,

and it made me feel calm. She did one better after I was in the recovery room.

She came and talked to me again to tell me what she found and showed me the pics

from the surgery.

Her face was the first thing that I remembered seeing after waking up and looked

over to the desk where she was sitting after I checked the clock. I kept that

face in my mind until I was able to see my mom b/c when the anesthetist came to

ask me how I was doing I honestly couldn't remember who he was (terrible, isn't

it?).

Well, it seems like with each passing month and moment the relationship

continues to get stronger, and the bond just a little tighter. That bond got

even tighter on Mon night as a result of the " thank you " gift that my mother and

I wanted to give her as a way to say thank you for all that she had done for me.

It's hard to believe that it has been one year, and that when I started out in

this relationship I was very afraid that things were going to start off the same

way that the prior relationship had ended.

Well, as we all know that didn't happen. One of the things that I truly

appreciate is that she gladly gives me pain meds when I need them b/c she knows

that I absolutely need them.

It has taken a lot of time to heal the old wounds of a relationship that messed

me up emotionally for quite some time, but she has been a big help with that.

Even though I like my PCP and arthritis dr a lot, I don't trust them the same

way that I trust her.

After one year I have come to realize something, and it was brought to my

attention in recent days by you and Mandy too. I have more than just a dr

taking care of me. I have ended up with another friend who truly cares about me

and thinks that I'm special (even though I know that this what she does with

other patients). To have that kind of a situation where you feel like you are

part of a family at the dr's office is truly unique in wonderful.

That poem that I wrote and shared with all of you about an angel dr as I said

before was dedicated to her b/c of how wonderful she is.

I try not to talk about her often except in private b/c I don't want anyone to

get tired of hearing about it, but today I just had to do it again b/c of how

special this day is, and how special and wonderful she is.

Once again I say I'm sorry for how long this has turned out, but I hope that by

telling about her like this will continue to give hope to those of you who are

still looking.

Have a wonderful day everyone and may everyone be as pain free as possible.

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I went out on Sat to a Hispanic Heritage Festival with my mother and we had a

wonderful time especially b/c the weather here in my part of the Sunshine State

has been wonderful. Then on Sunday afternoon I went to meeting for worship, and

even though I'm so glad that I went I was in a lot of pain a lot of it internal

either from the endo or the infection that I'm currently on antibiotics for (my

second consecutive round).

The culture that was taken two weeks before the appt that I had on Fri came back

showing that I had a Staph infection. As to how I got it I'm not sure but I'm

going to ask my dr how she thinks I got it. I don't know if that had anything

to do with my cervical infection but I guess that anything is possible at this

point in time.

The internal pain is quiet at the moment but I'm not sure how long that will

last. Time will tell and in the mean time I go back to see my dr on the 27th

and I will let everyone know how it goes.

If anyone is interested in seeing the poem that was mentioned in that item that

is posted above please let me know and I will be glad to share it.

Take care everyone and of course please know that everyone is free to e-mail me

privately any time.

Kristy

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