Guest guest Posted October 8, 2007 Report Share Posted October 8, 2007 > > " American schools spend $8 billion a year on educating the mentally > retarded. Spending on the gifted isn't even tabulated in some states, > but by the most generous calculations, we spend no more than $800 > million on gifted programs. " " Are we failing our geniuses? " TIME Aug > 16, 2007 > > Thought I would share this one...it angers me.... > > Temple Grandin has always said, if Einstein was born to day, he would > be lucky to be a UPS driver. No joke...all's they can concentrate on > is the deficits.... > This is so true. I wish I could talk to my friends who have autistic children and tell them how I feel without making them feel as though they are being told how to raise their children! > Not saying that genius are all autistic...and truly not saying that > autistic means " retarded " I know it doesn't....but making a point. We > know with a certainty that many of the amazing people in our > history...where on the spectrum. Today they are slipping through the > cracks...the cookie cut out (under financed) schools...are destroying > our special children. > > Antoinette > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 8, 2007 Report Share Posted October 8, 2007 Antoinette -- Einstein was kicked out of school as a child because they did think he was retarded, and there was no law keeping him in. He's one of the main examples given for specialized programming. How many Einsteins were being lost because they thought and learned differently, who didn't show up again as adults? The major, disasterous flaw in today's specialized programming, whether for autism or other learning differences that slow academic gain, or for giftedness and other learning differences that speed academic gain, is that administrators are under the mistaken impression that if you tell staff to implement a program, they can do it without adequate training, staffing numbers, or materials. Therefore, you can get great teachers who don't know what they're doing, without the time or resources to have a chance at making it happen. The good teachers that also have the backgrounds, and therefore have success, frequently get " dumped " on with an overload (hey, he/she does good, so let's send him/her more), which defeats the purpose of having the small group to begin with, and makes them unable to focus individually like they should. To find a well- trained, good teacher who knows his/her program, with correct student- teacher ratios, is a rare and unexpected blessing. Yes, there's still " lemon " teachers out there, in spite of the stupid " Highly Qualified " paperwork thrown up (sic) by NCLB. Proof that standardized tests don't mean diddly-squat in any case, since those " lemon " teachers passed their professional exams. In special ed, many of these " lemons " survive because a majority of the administrators tend to be regular ed, whose experience is either 20 years out of date, or young ones who washed " up " in the classroom, rising into administration in order to survive in their chosen careers, and don't have a clue themselves about what learners with differences from the norm need to succeed. And they get offended rather than interested when given new information... old dogs, new tricks. Many can even " talk the talk, " but certainly don't " walk the walk. " Truly well-implemented ABA and other Autism programs start from the students' perspectives (YES, they do!), and gradually shape outward behaviors through positive reinforcement and environment into survival behaviors. It is in the program literature. It is staff lack of training, and therefore lack of understanding or correct implementation, that causes the terrible and hurtful results. But then, the program or good teacher is blamed, rather than the administrators who failed to assign correct levels of training, staffing, and materials to make it positive and successful if it has a good teacher assigned to it. The program is blamed, rather than the " lemon " teacher who tries to cookie-cutter it, if implementing it at all for anytime other than evaulative observations. Good program implementation focuses on strengths, not just weaknesses. That's why all IEPs are supposed to start with student strengths being discussed. > > > > " American schools spend $8 billion a year on educating the > mentally > > retarded. Spending on the gifted isn't even tabulated in some > states, > > but by the most generous calculations, we spend no more than $800 > > million on gifted programs. " " Are we failing our geniuses? " TIME > Aug > > 16, 2007 > > > > Thought I would share this one...it angers me.... > > > > Temple Grandin has always said, if Einstein was born to day, he > would > > be lucky to be a UPS driver. No joke...all's they can concentrate > on > > is the deficits.... > > This is so true. I wish I could talk to my friends who have > autistic children and tell them how I feel without making them feel > as though they are being told how to raise their children! > > Not saying that genius are all autistic...and truly not saying > that > > autistic means " retarded " I know it doesn't....but making a point. > We > > know with a certainty that many of the amazing people in our > > history...where on the spectrum. Today they are slipping through > the > > cracks...the cookie cut out (under financed) schools...are > destroying > > our special children. > > > > Antoinette > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 8, 2007 Report Share Posted October 8, 2007 and all, This is quite an important example. An even more egregious example was Evariste Galois, one of the two mathematicians who established that the general fifth degree equation cannot be solved by radicals (that is, there is no analog of the so-called Quadratic Formula for quintic (fifth degree) equations). He also invented what is now called Galois Theory, and underpins algebraic number theory and related fields. To summarize the sad story, Evarsite lived his teenage years during the French Revolution. he was denied entrance twice to the Ecole Politechnique. At his second exam, it has been stated by E.T. Bell that he threw an eraser at one of the examiners, when they asked him something senseless. His mathematical skill was far better than theirs, but he did not have the formal training to state things exactly as they would have had him state them- with the political niceties of it. Later, he was captured by a political faction, and manipulated into duelling over a girl he hardly knew. He realized he would die, and wrote down all the mathematics that bears his name the night before. He duelled the day before his 21th birthday, lost, was injured incurably, and died the next day, at the age of 21. he did not know that his manuscript found its way into the right hands at last. As a teacher, I have often used his life to illustrate the importance of staying in school- and of keeping kids in school, if we can. In reading this particular thread, it makes me wonder if Galois was on the Spectrum -- he certainly made enough social errors, and did not seem socially astute enough to be able to talk himself out of getting killed- when it seems that there might easily have been a way to do so. When I first read his story in E.T. Bell, Men of mathematics, I was 15 years old. My reaction, at that age, was to identify strongly with him- I felt that in his shoes, it might well have been me. I loved mathematics as a child, every bit as much as Galois. I also lacked social sense, and took many risks I had no business taking- and when upset, I gave up and reacted badly far too often, too. wrote: Antoinette -- Einstein was kicked out of school as a child because they did think he was retarded, and there was no law keeping him in. He's one of the main examples given for specialized programming. How many Einsteins were being lost because they thought and learned differently, who didn't show up again as adults? The major, disasterous flaw in today's specialized programming, whether for autism or other learning differences that slow academic gain, or for giftedness and other learning differences that speed ... Visit Your Group Healthy Eating Find Yahoo! Groups that are focused on healthy eating. Yahoo! 360° Get Started Your place online To share your life Sitebuilder Build a web site quickly & easily with Sitebuilder. . --------------------------------- Moody friends. Drama queens. Your life? Nope! - their life, your story. Play Sims Stories at Yahoo! Games. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 9, 2007 Report Share Posted October 9, 2007 > Einstein was kicked out of school as a child because they did think > he was retarded, and there was no law keeping him in. He's one of the > main examples given for specialized programming. How many Einsteins > were being lost because they thought and learned differently, who > didn't show up again as adults? I was a teacher for 2 years before I switched professions. Now I'm a stay-at-home mom to a 4 year old dx with autism. I've already put him, when he was 3, through the highly touted intensive early start program for autism, which just made my son cry everyday. It took one year of pubic school to make me leave and decide to homeschool (fortunately I can do this). The public school system not only fails almost everyone, especially those that have special needs, or who are gifted (or both gifted and special needs as is often the case with autism). I am very dubious of NT's trying to " cure " autism. Often some NT who has a loose degree in special ed, or no degree at all, will try to give me bad advice/goals for my son. I think that is just ridiculous. Having aspergers myself, having gone through the public school system,college, and being a teacher gives me a unique perspective. I don't think that the larger NT community/media/experts have a very good grasp on autism (I often hear it touted as some horrible disease that we must find a cure for-- a negligent approach at best). And public schools in our area just wanted to dump my son into special ed, with all the kids that don't fit in. This garbage pail approach is touted as integration. To be fair, there are some good private schools (some), and some great teachers; however, this is a sad minority of the education community. Right now I homeschool, as well as bring my son to supervised speech and occupational therapy. Everytime during therapy,the teachers ask me questions about how autistics think and use a lot of the tips I give them. Any successful approach to educating autistics would have to involve the input and participation of adult autistics in my opinion. By the way, to anyone looking for a meaningful career-- look into educating autistics! Adult autistic voices and understanding is almost totally missing from the educational community to the detriment and pain of the masses of young autistics entering education. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2007 Report Share Posted October 10, 2007 -- Yes, more autistics/aspies should become teachers. Our students need teachers who truly understand their situations. When getting ready to become teachers, they should take more psychology/sociology electives, and attend counseling for social interaction coaching, to build masking and positive routines to ensure survival coping skills for collaboration with other teachers and parents for " standard " communications. When hired, finding a social coach for the unexpected is also important. Schools are awfully herd/pack when it comes to staff interactions especially. Personal experience and problems, here. I agree that the current system is awful. However, the choice is whether to scrap it completely or fix what's wrong with it. I commend you for what you've done! Your son has a wonderful mother. I wish more parents were like you, either by taking more responsibility for their child's education at home, or becoming strong advocates for their child in school. Your son attending a " highly touted " program... by who? Parents? Don't believe the press, especially that published by the school ... word of mouth is much better. Even teachers who are very concerned for your child do not dare step outside " the party line " when talking to parents, for fear of reprisals and intimidation from the system. Just because the schools claim to have adopted a " research-based, highly successful program " doesn't mean they're implementing it correctly. Also, especially with curriculum, that " research " may be publisher research, not independent and peer reviewed/journal published... in other words, publisher window dressing. Unfortunately, many parents are not like you. As an elementary Resource teacher I have a current caseload of 31 kids, all but 5 of which are on moderate services (yes, I am way overloaded). About a quarter of them have parents who have the education, willpower, and resources to help make changes in their child's education. Administrators count on parents being ignorant, overwhelmed, uncaring, busy, etc., etc., etc., so that lack of compliance with IEPs, regulations, caseload maximums, etc., is the rule rather than the exception. Teachers are not trained correctly, nor given the resources they need to implement researched programs effectively. Then they are blamed for the failure of the system. Fixing the system: Taxpayers are not willing to shell out the dollars needed for adequate staffing and materials to make the demands of the current legislative and case laws something that is within reach. Either people need to accept that there will be kids falling through the cracks of the current giant seive, adequate funding and staffing needs to be provided, or an entirely new way of addressing student learning needs to be put in place. There is lots on the educator news, journals, webmail, etc. about places like a district in Alaska who has told the feds to take a flying leap, and has devised a student-driven learning environment in which students pre-test each level's benchmarks, work to learn only those things they missed, and then test again until they pass each level. A 10 year old can be at Level 3 in reading, Level 4 in Writing, Level 8 in Math... etc. Teachers act as facilitators, provide seminars and individual guidance, coaching, and instruction for students, etc. It's working like gangbusters. Their students with special needs then also have a special ed certified teacher focusing on " seminars " for deficit skills, and providing additional supports, modifications, etc. per their individual plans (all students have individual plans). Change is in the wind... and hopefully the current tropical system doesn't die out as it travels the equator... hopefully, it builds into a good hurricane. If only the NEA and AFT had some backbone. > I was a teacher for 2 years before I switched professions. Now I'm a > stay-at-home mom to a 4 year old dx with autism. I've already put him, > when he was 3, through the highly touted intensive early start program > for autism, which just made my son cry everyday. It took one year of > pubic school to make me leave and decide to homeschool (fortunately I > can do this). > > The public school system not only fails almost everyone, especially > those that have special needs, or who are gifted (or both gifted and > special needs as is often the case with autism). > > I am very dubious of NT's trying to " cure " autism. Often some NT who > has a loose degree in special ed, or no degree at all, will try to give > me bad advice/goals for my son. I think that is just ridiculous. > Having aspergers myself, having gone through the public school > system,college, and being a teacher gives me a unique perspective. I > don't think that the larger NT community/media/experts have a very good > grasp on autism (I often hear it touted as some horrible disease that > we must find a cure for-- a negligent approach at best). And public > schools in our area just wanted to dump my son into special ed, with > all the kids that don't fit in. This garbage pail approach is touted > as integration. To be fair, there are some good private schools > (some), and some great teachers; however, this is a sad minority of the > education community. > > Right now I homeschool, as well as bring my son to supervised speech > and occupational therapy. Everytime during therapy,the teachers ask me > questions about how autistics think and use a lot of the tips I give > them. Any successful approach to educating autistics would have to > involve the input and participation of adult autistics in my opinion. > > By the way, to anyone looking for a meaningful career-- look into > educating autistics! Adult autistic voices and understanding is almost > totally missing from the educational community to the detriment and > pain of the masses of young autistics entering education. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2007 Report Share Posted October 10, 2007 wrote: >Yes, more autistics/aspies should become teachers. Our students need >teachers who truly understand their situations. >When getting ready to become teachers, they should take more >psychology/sociology electives, and attend counseling for social >interaction coaching, to build masking and positive routines to >ensure survival coping skills for collaboration with other teachers >and parents for " standard " communications. And after schools become accustomed to autie teachers, we can start making them user-friendly for teachers who are faceblind (as well as autie, in some cases). Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 10, 2007 Report Share Posted October 10, 2007 The only way you can fail is if you don't follow what you know is right for you and when you know it's the right time. I have had to live with that for most of my life. Due to my complex medical history. I am unable to finish anything I start. right now I am in the middle of a shunt malfuinction and the doctors will take forever to figure out where and when to go in to fix the porblem. On the bright side, I did inspire my godmother to go into the field of teaching special ed and working with the disabled. Her youngest son, , my once annoying younger god brother finally found the girl of his dreams. She is also taking the same route in her career thanks to me so I feel blessed in a way. I am the secretary of the household and am very good at it. When I did try college, I worked at the lab under the ESE, as well as, volunteer for the girl scout office and did very well but I became ill and had to move to Denver. I am also a great listener and give good advice, it would just be nice if everyone would take my word for it, and not go to someone else afterwards and get the samething told to them. It makes me feel so incompentent. I guess it's why I'll never be a counselor if everyone is second guessing me all the time. These same people have the nerve also to tell me I am not dumb. Well then why do you make me feel like I am I want to scream at them? Most of the time I keep it to myself so they don't think to lock me in a loony bin. wrote: -- Yes, more autistics/aspies should become teachers. Our students need teachers who truly understand their situations. When getting ready to become teachers, they should take more psychology/sociology electives, and attend counseling for social interaction coaching, to build masking and positive routines to ensure survival coping skills for collaboration with other teachers and parents for " standard " communications. When hired, finding a social coach for the unexpected is also important. Schools are awfully herd/pack when it comes to staff interactions especially. Personal experience and problems, here. I agree that the current system is awful. However, the choice is whether to scrap it completely or fix what's wrong with it. I commend you for what you've done! Your son has a wonderful mother. I wish more parents were like you, either by taking more responsibility for their child's education at home, or becoming strong advocates for their child in school. Your son attending a " highly touted " program... by who? Parents? Don't believe the press, especially that published by the school ... word of mouth is much better. Even teachers who are very concerned for your child do not dare step outside " the party line " when talking to parents, for fear of reprisals and intimidation from the system. Just because the schools claim to have adopted a " research-based, highly successful program " doesn't mean they're implementing it correctly. Also, especially with curriculum, that " research " may be publisher research, not independent and peer reviewed/journal published... in other words, publisher window dressing. Unfortunately, many parents are not like you. As an elementary Resource teacher I have a current caseload of 31 kids, all but 5 of which are on moderate services (yes, I am way overloaded). About a quarter of them have parents who have the education, willpower, and resources to help make changes in their child's education. Administrators count on parents being ignorant, overwhelmed, uncaring, busy, etc., etc., etc., so that lack of compliance with IEPs, regulations, caseload maximums, etc., is the rule rather than the exception. Teachers are not trained correctly, nor given the resources they need to implement researched programs effectively. Then they are blamed for the failure of the system. Fixing the system: Taxpayers are not willing to shell out the dollars needed for adequate staffing and materials to make the demands of the current legislative and case laws something that is within reach. Either people need to accept that there will be kids falling through the cracks of the current giant seive, adequate funding and staffing needs to be provided, or an entirely new way of addressing student learning needs to be put in place. There is lots on the educator news, journals, webmail, etc. about places like a district in Alaska who has told the feds to take a flying leap, and has devised a student-driven learning environment in which students pre-test each level's benchmarks, work to learn only those things they missed, and then test again until they pass each level. A 10 year old can be at Level 3 in reading, Level 4 in Writing, Level 8 in Math... etc. Teachers act as facilitators, provide seminars and individual guidance, coaching, and instruction for students, etc. It's working like gangbusters. Their students with special needs then also have a special ed certified teacher focusing on " seminars " for deficit skills, and providing additional supports, modifications, etc. per their individual plans (all students have individual plans). Change is in the wind... and hopefully the current tropical system doesn't die out as it travels the equator... hopefully, it builds into a good hurricane. If only the NEA and AFT had some backbone. > I was a teacher for 2 years before I switched professions. Now I'm a > stay-at-home mom to a 4 year old dx with autism. I've already put him, > when he was 3, through the highly touted intensive early start program > for autism, which just made my son cry everyday. It took one year of > pubic school to make me leave and decide to homeschool (fortunately I > can do this). > > The public school system not only fails almost everyone, especially > those that have special needs, or who are gifted (or both gifted and > special needs as is often the case with autism). > > I am very dubious of NT's trying to " cure " autism. Often some NT who > has a loose degree in special ed, or no degree at all, will try to give > me bad advice/goals for my son. I think that is just ridiculous. > Having aspergers myself, having gone through the public school > system,college, and being a teacher gives me a unique perspective. I > don't think that the larger NT community/media/experts have a very good > grasp on autism (I often hear it touted as some horrible disease that > we must find a cure for-- a negligent approach at best). And public > schools in our area just wanted to dump my son into special ed, with > all the kids that don't fit in. This garbage pail approach is touted > as integration. To be fair, there are some good private schools > (some), and some great teachers; however, this is a sad minority of the > education community. > > Right now I homeschool, as well as bring my son to supervised speech > and occupational therapy. Everytime during therapy,the teachers ask me > questions about how autistics think and use a lot of the tips I give > them. Any successful approach to educating autistics would have to > involve the input and participation of adult autistics in my opinion. > > By the way, to anyone looking for a meaningful career-- look into > educating autistics! Adult autistic voices and understanding is almost > totally missing from the educational community to the detriment and > pain of the masses of young autistics entering education. > > > --------------------------------- Building a website is a piece of cake. Yahoo! Small Business gives you all the tools to get online. 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Guest guest Posted October 10, 2007 Report Share Posted October 10, 2007 Jane, I just read your chapter in " Coming Out Aspergers " - great work! I loved it! It really made me think. I believe I can duck being AS a lot of the time, or get over by asking for little things without giving too much detail, similar to the examples you gave. As far as making it safe to come out FB at work, I hope that you can really have a positive effect with this! Jane Meyerding wrote: And after schools become accustomed to autie teachers, we can start making them user-friendly for teachers who are faceblind (as well as autie, in some cases). Jane --------------------------------- Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2007 Report Share Posted October 11, 2007 ----- Original Message ----- > > I am also a great listener and give good advice, it would just be > nice if everyone would > take my word for it, and not go to someone else afterwards and get the > samething told to > them. My ex did that and it made me mad. It's so insulting. > It makes me feel so incompentent. I guess it's why I'll never be a > counselor if everyone is > second guessing me all the time. These same people have the nerve also to > tell me I am not dumb. Then I'd ask them why they always need to consult another sourse to get an answer after you've already given them one. I'd tell them, when they ask you something, to go and ask someone else, since they never believe you anyway. Keep doing this, even if it alienates people. They're the ones who are being rude. > Well then why do you make me feel like I am I want to scream at them? Most > of the time I keep > it to myself so they don't think to lock me in a loony bin. You don't have to scream, but let them know this bothers you. D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2007 Report Share Posted October 11, 2007 I am also a great listener and give good advice, it would just be > nice if everyone would > take my word for it, and not go to someone else afterwards and get the > samething told to > them. No-one really wants advice. What they want is to be heard. This person is more likely looking for someone who will, in essence, say to them, " That really sucks. " The other thing about giving advice is that if by some quirky reason it doesn't work out (like they didn't follow it exactly even), you will be to blame - well in their eyes... So, when they find someone else to go to, it is far more likely that they still have a need to be 'heard'; sympathised with... listen for what they are really saying underneath it all. It's really hard to find the 'voice under the voice', but it's always there. For instance, someone is asking about changing jobs. What job should I choose?, they ask. I would imagine comments like how stressful it might be to be in this positition might help the person feel like they've been heard, and questions about what was good about the last job? Will they find that in the next? All these things help a person to process without putting yourself on the hook for advice (and perhaps ruining the relationship later) and turning them away because it was given jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2007 Report Share Posted October 11, 2007 ----- Original Message ----- > > > > No-one really wants advice. What they want is to be heard. This > person is more likely looking for someone who will, in essence, say to > them, " That really sucks. " That's what I call 'verbal TLC'. > The other thing about giving advice is that > if by some quirky reason it doesn't work out (like they didn't follow > it exactly even), you will be to blame - well in their eyes... What if they're not asking for advice but ask, for example, how a word is spelled, you tell them and then they go and look it up in the dictionary? If they don't trust your answer why did they ask you in the first place and not consult the dictionary right away? > So, when they find someone else to go to, it is far more likely that > they still have a need to be 'heard'; sympathised with... listen for > what they are really saying underneath it all. It's really hard to > find the 'voice under the voice', but it's always there. I sympathised with a former co-worker, who might become a co-worker again, due to having been fired for no good reason from her other job. She's a hard worker but they felt she was having too many doctor's appointments. I hate the way people can just get fired at the drop of a hat in this country. D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2007 Report Share Posted October 11, 2007 What if they're not asking for advice but ask, for example, how a word is spelled, you tell them and then they go and look it up in the dictionary? If they don't trust your answer why did they ask you in the first place and not consult the dictionary right away? That's not advice. That's about a fact. Advice usually is given around decisions... jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2007 Report Share Posted October 11, 2007 ----- Original Message ----- > > That's not advice. That's about a fact. Advice usually is given around > decisions... I know it's not advice. But why ask me 'how do you...' and then not trust what I tell them? D. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2007 Report Share Posted October 11, 2007 Did I misread the original question? I thought she said people were asking her for advice, and then not believing her but asking someone else. I don't know why someone would ask you how to spell something and then go check it out somewhere else unless they didn't trust that you would give them the correct answer... Why do people find a doctor for a 'second opinion'? Same thing maybe. In any case, I don't think that was what the original post was about, but I might be wrong and I've deleted it. jo Re: Re: Our we failing our geniuses? ----- Original Message ----- From: " joanne ford " <joannefordrogers (DOT) com> > > That's not advice. That's about a fact. Advice usually is given around > decisions... I know it's not advice. But why ask me 'how do you...' and then not trust what I tell them? D. <!-- #ygrp-mkp{ border:1px solid #d8d8d8;font-family:Arial;margin:14px 0px;padding:0px 14px;} #ygrp-mkp hr{ border:1px solid #d8d8d8;} #ygrp-mkp #hd{ color:#628c2a;font-size:85%;font-weight:bold;line-height:122%;margin:10px 0px;} #ygrp-mkp #ads{ margin-bottom:10px;} #ygrp-mkp .ad{ padding:0 0;} #ygrp-mkp .ad a{ color:#0000ff;text-decoration:none;} --> <!-- #ygrp-sponsor #ygrp-lc{ font-family:Arial;} #ygrp-sponsor #ygrp-lc #hd{ margin:10px 0px;font-weight:bold;font-size:78%;line-height:122%;} #ygrp-sponsor #ygrp-lc .ad{ margin-bottom:10px;padding:0 0;} --> <!-- #ygrp-mlmsg {font-size:13px;font-family:arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg table {font-size:inherit;font:100%;} #ygrp-mlmsg select, input, textarea {font:99% arial, helvetica, clean, sans-serif;} #ygrp-mlmsg pre, code {font:115% monospace;} #ygrp-mlmsg * {line-height:1.22em;} #ygrp-text{ font-family:Georgia; } #ygrp-text p{ margin:0 0 1em 0;} #ygrp-tpmsgs{ font-family:Arial; clear:both;} #ygrp-vitnav{ padding-top:10px;font-family:Verdana;font-size:77%;margin:0;} #ygrp-vitnav a{ padding:0 1px;} #ygrp-actbar{ clear:both;margin:25px 0;white-space:nowrap;color:#666;text-align:right;} #ygrp-actbar .left{ float:left;white-space:nowrap;} ..bld{font-weight:bold;} #ygrp-grft{ font-family:Verdana;font-size:77%;padding:15px 0;} #ygrp-ft{ font-family:verdana;font-size:77%;border-top:1px solid #666; padding:5px 0; } #ygrp-mlmsg #logo{ padding-bottom:10px;} #ygrp-vital{ background-color:#e0ecee;margin-bottom:20px;padding:2px 0 8px 8px;} #ygrp-vital #vithd{ font-size:77%;font-family:Verdana;font-weight:bold;color:#333;text-transform:upp\ ercase;} #ygrp-vital ul{ padding:0;margin:2px 0;} #ygrp-vital ul li{ list-style-type:none;clear:both;border:1px solid #e0ecee; } #ygrp-vital ul li .ct{ font-weight:bold;color:#ff7900;float:right;width:2em;text-align:right;padding-ri\ ght:.5em;} #ygrp-vital ul li .cat{ font-weight:bold;} #ygrp-vital a{ text-decoration:none;} #ygrp-vital a:hover{ text-decoration:underline;} #ygrp-sponsor #hd{ color:#999;font-size:77%;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov{ padding:6px 13px;background-color:#e0ecee;margin-bottom:20px;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov ul{ padding:0 0 0 8px;margin:0;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov li{ list-style-type:square;padding:6px 0;font-size:77%;} #ygrp-sponsor #ov li a{ text-decoration:none;font-size:130%;} #ygrp-sponsor #nc{ background-color:#eee;margin-bottom:20px;padding:0 8px;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad{ padding:8px 0;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad #hd1{ font-family:Arial;font-weight:bold;color:#628c2a;font-size:100%;line-height:122%\ ;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad a{ text-decoration:none;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad a:hover{ text-decoration:underline;} #ygrp-sponsor .ad p{ margin:0;} o{font-size:0;} ..MsoNormal{ margin:0 0 0 0;} #ygrp-text tt{ font-size:120%;} blockquote{margin:0 0 0 4px;} ..replbq{margin:4;} --> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2007 Report Share Posted October 11, 2007 wrote: >I just read your chapter in " Coming Out Aspergers " - great work! I >loved it! It really made me think. I believe I can duck being AS a >lot of the time, or get over by asking for little things without >giving too much detail, similar to the examples you gave. As far as >making it safe to come out FB at work, I hope that you can really >have a positive effect with this! Thanks, . " Coming out " at work definitely is an individual matter/decision at this point. We can only dream of a day when doing so is considered " normal. " However, I think we get a tiny bit closer to that dream as person after person finds it possible to " come out " neuro-atypical. A very gradual process overall. Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2007 Report Share Posted October 11, 2007 Jane, You make a great point: Slowly, slowly- one experience at a time, and one person at a time- we can make changes. It trying to move too fast can be hard, maybe breaking it down can be easier. In any case, if one person discloses anything at all, then it makes it that much easier for other people anywhere. Thanks, Jane Meyerding wrote: wrote: >I just read your chapter in " Coming Out Aspergers " - great work! I >loved it! It really made me think. I believe I can duck being AS a >lot of the time, or get over by asking for little things without >giving too much detail, similar to the examples you gave. As far as >making it safe to come out FB at work, I hope that you can really >have a positive effect with this! Thanks, . " Coming out " at work definitely is an individual matter/decision at this point. We can only dream of a day when doing so is considered " normal. " However, I think we get a tiny bit closer to that dream as person after person finds it possible to " come out " neuro-atypical. A very gradual process overall. Jane --------------------------------- Need a vacation? Get great deals to amazing places on Yahoo! Travel. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 11, 2007 Report Share Posted October 11, 2007 I dare to speculate you do not have dyslexia, well I do and so do lots of people, and here is the funny thing: I have on many, many, many occations asked someone how to spell something. The times I have been told to 'look it up in the dictionary' is emence. It becomes funny when you dont even know what the first letter is!!!! Every dyslexic I've met, has had the experiences and all seem to laugh at theirs! I know you were using it as an analogy, but it did make me chuckle. (que) ___________________________________________________________ Want ideas for reducing your carbon footprint? Visit Yahoo! For Good http://uk.promotions.yahoo.com/forgood/environment.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 12, 2007 Report Share Posted October 12, 2007 The times I have been told to 'look it up in the dictionary' is emence. I too have dyslexia and had been told by my mom to " look it up in the dictionary. " I figure at least I know the meaning of just about every word in the dictionary because I used to read almost everything looking for the word I was searching for. Kellie > > ___________________________________________________________ > Want ideas for reducing your carbon footprint? Visit Yahoo! For Good http:// uk.promotions.yahoo.com/forgood/environment.html > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2007 Report Share Posted October 13, 2007 HI Bigearbob, I know what you mean about some teachers and school districts. But, now that you are grown and have tht GED, you are not frozen out at all: Adult ed can get you right back in! You could even take classes online, and then, just remember to use Spell Check before submitting any assignments, and be careful to follow all those weird directions. Collegte is different, anyway. Older students are just that-- older! They often do know more than a teacher, about a variety of subjects, and that is OK. If you take a few continuing education courses, and pick with care, they will transfer. All the levels of mathematics are available at local community colleges and state schools to get you back into the academic arena, and you might even be able to test out and get credit for some things. I believe that you should try. I teach college, and wish I had you in class. I have had AS students before, and have not fad one fail yet- they are the hardest workers. My greatest difficulty with students on the Spectrum? I want to reach out my hand and say, " Me, too! " , but have not had the nerve yet. After all, your status as an autistic is protected by law (ADA): You will want to see the ADA Liaison as soon as you apply to school, for extra time on tests and more--and extra consideration if a teacher does get a negative attitude about the fact that you may know more than he or she does. I, on hte other hand, would not be protected, since I do not have tenure, and coud be fired at will for any reason at all. Maybe, if I ever get tenure somewhere, or make just the right friend in administration, I will consider coming out. If your community is the problem, you need not live in the same community as you take classes, for online education. Do you drive, and do you mind commuting? Do you still live in that same community? bigearbob2000 wrote: I have gotten to see bad eduction from both extreams. My sister has trouble reading, understanding what she reads. Really anything to do with reading she has trouble with. She went to SpecEd because of this. She went in a young age, around fourth grade, with a third grade reading level, she graduated with a third grade reading level. I advanced much faster then anyone I went to school with. Nobody in my family can remember ever teaching me to count or read. Just at some point I could like I always knew. By third grade I was reading world books and got in trouble in school for it. They said I was a liar and that I wasnt reading anything, just looking at pictures.(have a reading level beyond a teach was just to much to beleive for any of them). Fourth grade starts the statewide testing for our schools. All subjects are tested and I was way above avg in every subject. 99 and 98 percentiles for science and social studies. After this it was all downhill for me in school. I quickly learned that those people cared nothing about teaching me anything I didnt already know, refused to listen to me, refused to say someone from a low income family could possibly be any more intellegent then the rich kids. I wasnt able to take the advanced math classes in juinor high because you needed to be a kiss ass to put in nicely. You had to have teacher permission and they didnt let " Disruptive Children " in. I was disruptive because when a teacher was wrong I would call them on it. Amazing how much trouble you get in for correcting an adult. I failed the math class for stupid kids, which is basicly what we where called for being in it. I got an F in that call becuase I refused to prove that I could do math I learned in first grade plus a few zeros. Best part of all this is that in 8th grade I had almost all Fs and as I said did in my math class, I won a math award from the State. I live in a small community so both my sister and I where in the same school. They care about money and money only. Advancing a child thru grades faster costs them money, as does teaching special ed children so they dont need SpecEd anymore. My mother gets much more upset then I do because of this. My sister is stuck being behind, being picked on and pushed around because of her reading problems that she tries very hard to fix. I had to drop out of school because of the bad treatment I recieved I wasnt able to get into a real college and ended up with a GED in a tech school. I lost all the possible scholarships and free rides to big univiersitys. I am now so far behind where I should be at this point in my life its sickening. I just learned of Autisim spectrum and aspergers syndrome a few months ago and my life has gotten a lot better since but it also has made me understand just what I am able to do. I always thought everyone who didnt learn just didnt try, they didnt care or refused to. I didnt understand that its not them thats the odd one its me. No child left behind. Every time I hear these words I get angry. Some children need to be left behind, some need to take it slow and learn at a slow pace, some need to go at avg speed, and a few need to go at high speed. For some reason people seem to think that everyone is the same and should keep the same pace. Our we failing our geniuses? I saw on TV once a kid who went from K to third grade and his parents thought his school wasnt giving him what they should, refused to advance him faster. They had to get new jobs and move a long ways from there so their son could get a proper education. That same kid then went thru 3 grades a year instead of 1 a year. Dont think you need to know anymore then that to see we are. Incase you havnt noticed already I am bad with one subject, partly because I dont care, and that is spelling. As long as I get the idea of what word I am meaning most of the time its about all that is important to me. Just wish I cared enough to fix my spelling.... yesh its bad. --------------------------------- Looking for a deal? Find great prices on flights and hotels with Yahoo! FareChase. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 13, 2007 Report Share Posted October 13, 2007 Franque, You can always ask for the first three letters! I learned that in fifth grade, from my classmates. Then, look it up! (Hard, but more manageable.) I did not have trouble with dyslexia, but I still hated to look things up! frank oldroyd wrote: I dare to speculate you do not have dyslexia, well I do and so do lots of people, and here is the funny thing: I have on many, many, many occations asked someone how to spell something. The times I have been told to 'look it up in the dictionary' is emence. It becomes funny when you dont even know what the first letter is!!!! Every dyslexic I've met, has had the experiences and all seem to laugh at theirs! I know you were using it as an analogy, but it did make me chuckle. (que) __________________________________________________________ Want ideas for reducing your carbon footprint? Visit Yahoo! For Good http://uk.promotions.yahoo.com/forgood/environment.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 14, 2007 Report Share Posted October 14, 2007 > > I have gotten to see bad eduction from both extreams. My sister has > trouble reading, understanding what she reads. Really anything to do > with reading she has trouble with. She went to SpecEd because of this. > She went in a young age, around fourth grade, with a third grade > reading level, she graduated with a third grade reading level. > If you have the progress reports and testing information from the school to show that she made no gains between fourth grade and graduation in reading, with special ed supports, then you can SUE!!! Do it. This is inexcusable, and that district needs to be called on it. Plateau for one or two years is one thing, but NO gain for eight years of specialized instruction? They were not doing their jobs. S. -- M.A. in Special Education, and currently teaching Resource remediation, and Gifted Enrichment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2007 Report Share Posted October 18, 2007 Hi, Regarding asking for the first three letters which would aid me in spelling words correctly; a quick story. I was 14 and in my English class. We had to write about the book chapter we had just read. So I began. About 10 mins in I could not remember how to spell a word. I knew it was an easy one and that I did know how to spell it. With all that I was too embaraced to ask. So I clocked onto the fact that if I began to re-read the chapter it would pop up somewhere. I eventually came across it : us! I was so relieved and found it quite funny. Thanks for the advice, (que) __,_.._,___ ___________________________________________________________ Want ideas for reducing your carbon footprint? Visit Yahoo! For Good http://uk.promotions.yahoo.com/forgood/environment.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2007 Report Share Posted October 18, 2007 I've got lots of what I consider funny stories about dyslexia and obvious there are about the 'look it up', have you got any yarns of comedic tone? Re: Our we failing our geniuses? The times I have been told to 'look it up in the dictionary' is emence. I too have dyslexia and had been told by my mom to " look it up in the dictionary. " I figure at least I know the meaning of just about every word in the dictionary because I used to read almost everything looking for the word I was searching for. Kellie > > ____________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _________ _ > Want ideas for reducing your carbon footprint? Visit Yahoo! For Good http:// uk.promotions. yahoo.com/ forgood/environm ent.html > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2007 Report Share Posted October 18, 2007 Bob, You wrote: <Our we failing our geniuses? I saw on TV once a kid who went from K to third grade and his parents thought his school wasnt giving him what they should, refused to advance him faster. They had to get new jobs and move a long ways from there so their son could get a proper education. That same kid then went thru 3 grades a year instead of 1 a year. Dont think you need to know anymore then that to see we are.> My son is only 4 and I took him out of preschool this summer because he was crying and hating it. I homeschool him now because I experienced some of the same problems you had in school (teachers accused me of cheating because my story writing was so advanced, held me back in school which left me so bored that I spent most of my time stimming (chewing pencils and tapping my feet) while living in my daydreams, etc.). Anyway, I started seeing my son going through the same problems and just couldn't watch it happen. Speaking of moving through grades quickly. . . I took my 4 year old out of preschool and bought him computer software for preschool level this summer (June). He mastered it in 2 hours. I bought him kindergarten grade level (June) and he mastered it in 2 months. I just bought him 1st grade level software and he is quickly working through it. He doesn't talk very often, but through the computer demonstrates 1st grade knowledge when it comes to reading, writing, keyboard typing, handwriting and phonetics. Because he didn't speak much in school, they assumed he was preschool level and he was probably bored out of his mind. Most schools are more interested in his social skills than his academic skills and spent the day trying to force him to talk and play with other kids. Torture for him. I'm just letting him enjoy his academic pursuits right now and figure when he's happier, he might get more interested in humans. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 18, 2007 Report Share Posted October 18, 2007 , <I teach college, and wish I had you in class. I have had AS students before, and have not fad one fail yet- they are the hardest workers. My greatest difficulty with students on the Spectrum? I want to reach out my hand and say, " Me, too! " , but have not had the nerve yet.> I'm so glad you teach college. I have AS and college was the first place I felt happy and challenged. Looking back, I found a small group of AS students and teachers to be friends with-- the first time I ever found so many people like myself. I think that college often attracts people on the spectrum because many people on the spectrum love academic pursuits. I am having my second child right now and am homebound; but I can't wait to go back to college for my PhD, where I have a good chance of finding some local spectrumites to hang with:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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