My Father In Law.....

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My Father In Law is about to be placed into a memory care unit for

Alzheimer. I feel so badly for both my MIL and my FIL. But it has gotten to the

point where my MIL simply can no longer take care of him by herself.

Mainly because he keeps running off! The first three times it was in his

pick up truck and he would disappear over night!!!! The last of those 3 times

he ended up being dropped off at the Oklahoma City county jail and didn't

have a CLUE where his pick up was. By the Grace of God it was found that

same evening on the side of the highway in a neighboring town. He should have

never been driving in the first place but he would sneak out in the middle

of the night and always manage to find the keys!!! Well, this time we all

told him that he had lost his truck. Period, end of story. Or so we

thought.

Then he began venturing out on foot!! Argh!! The final straw was night

before last, when he disappeared late in the evening, in the middle of a

thunderstorm. We were all out driving around drenched like wet rats looking for

him when 2 hours later we received a call from my MIL stating that she went

back by the house just to see if he had come back home and WHALLLAAAH!

there the little rascal was!

So, anywho, she has made arrangements today for a room. Tomorrow she will

be taking my FIL to lunch while some of the workers from the memory care

unit will go to their home to pick up some furniture to be placed into his

new room. My hubby is going to leave work early to go with his mother to take

his dad to his new residence but he is really dreading it....sigh......I am

unclear as to what the plan is. I mean, do they just show up at this place

and walk him in and then the staff pounces on him with syringes of knock

out med's??? Because I assure you that he will not be there willingly once

he figures out what is going on. Poor man....

I do have a question for the group. Do the bad med's that are not good for

LBD patients apply to Alzheimer patients? What should I have my MIL

request for him to keep him calm yet not keep him a stupor 24/7. My FIL is

physically very healthy, that is, so far.

Hugs, Pammie, proud daughter of the " Little Queen " , 78 years old,

Diagnosed with LBD in the fall of 2007, currently taking Exelon Patch,

Namenda,Avapro,Verapamil ER, Nexium, Tarazadone and Boneva.