Bro Update

[Guest guest]

I finally took the big step and had Medical POA activated today for my brother.

His periods of healthy behavior are becoming less and less. Like most of us

primary care givers, I am the person he targets and I understand that. But he

is added swearing, name calling and threatening to physically harm me now. He

unplugged

and tossed out his expensive locked, timed and alarmed medication dispenser and

the digital day, date, year, time, clock. Luckily my husband was able to go

over and retrive it. He is totally off his Aricept now and refuses any

medication. I both hate yet look forward to him going into Assisted Living for

his safety and improved quality of life, with us still being advocates for him.

However if he chooses not to make the move I will have to go to court for

guardianship to basically protect him from himself.

His Xwife, of which he has no memory of the abusive person she was through out

their marriage, has re-entered the picture. She calls him and makes random

visits. It has been five years since their divorce and never once prior to his

dementia has he ever mentioned moving back to her house and renting a room. All

of a sudden after contact from her and her 30 year old son he is talking about

moving back to the house and renting a room from her. She is driven by

greed and I truly believes has a cash register where ones heart should be. Our

family feared for his safety while he was married and in his current state as a

venerable senior he is a walking victim for someone like her.

We have a meeting with an Elder Law attorney and hope to get some answers about

giving him the least restrictive options to live but making sure he is safe and

healthy as possible. I don't want to take away his freedom, I just want him to

have the quality of life that

he has always deserved and he doesn't have that living independently.

Thank you for listening.

Marilyn from Wisconsin