Re: Brain Abnormalities Underlying Key Element of Borderline Personality Disorder

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Thanks so much! I'm goin to check this out today.

Tell me, knowing this information and applying your point of view

that BP is a mental disorder of which they have little or no control

over, what's your relationship like with your BP parent? What's the

communication like (how often/quality, etc)? How do you handle the

bad episodes, abuse and painful words and actions? What keeps you

grounded, positive and connected with your BP parent towards

building a more " normal " relationship?

This is were I'm trying to get to, and would love your insight. Like

you, I don't want to lose hope.

Kannielu

>

> Please read the following article:

>

> http://www.nyp.org/news/hospital/abnormalities-personality-

> disorder.html

>

> I have found it to be really helpful in understanding my mother's

> behavior. I know forgiveness has been a main thread recently.

> Hopefully this article can help those of you who are struggling

with

> it

> right now to understand this disorder better and perhaps come to

> terms

> with the effects of it.

>

> I know it's hard to rise above the pain that is caused by the

BDP's

> in

> our lives, because we take it so personally when they attack us,

but

> if

> we can remember that this is a disorder, one which is caused by

> abnormal brain function, perhaps we'll begin to feel less

victimized

> and more able to take control of our situation and how we react to

> it.

> Perhaps feeling sorry for the person who is doing the attacking

will

> give us more control also. Just think how sad it is for a parent

not

> to be able to control their abusive behavior towards their own

> children.

>

> This is not to say that this article absolves the BP's in our

lives

> of

> their responsibility. Quite the opposite. It gives us

information

> we

> can use to encourage them to get into therapy. If they refuse,

then

> yes, ultimately it is their responsibility, for which they should

be

> held accountable. Hopefully though, information like this will

give

> the BP's hope to see that there is a reason they can't control

their

> behavior, their lives do not need to continue like this, and there

is

> help for them.

>

> I guess I can't help that I'm a hopeless optimist. Sometimes it

works

> against me, but for the most part I think it helps.

>

> Regards all.

>