Guest guest Posted February 4, 2008 Report Share Posted February 4, 2008 > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > 1. female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > 4. she's 86 > 5. Yes, unfortunately > 6. learned about it last week! > > Ilene > 1 - Male, > 2 - 25 > 3 - Mother, undiagnosed > 4 - 56 > 5 - Still alive, getting worse > 6 - I learned about it today in a counseling session with my dad's family therapist. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 1. Female 2. 24 3. BPD mom 4. 49 5. Still alive 6. First heard about it from a therapist in high school, started reading and joined this group a little over a year ago. Jae Re: intro to this list > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > 1. female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > 4. she's 86 > 5. Yes, unfortunately > 6. learned about it last week! > > Ilene > 1 - Male, > 2 - 25 > 3 - Mother, undiagnosed > 4 - 56 > 5 - Still alive, getting worse > 6 - I learned about it today in a counseling session with my dad's family therapist. > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 1 - Female 2 - 61 3 - Mother 4 - 90 5 - Yes, unfortunately 6 - knew there was something really wrong all my adult life, did not know about BPD until about 2 years ago. > > > > > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > > 1 - Your sex, > > 2 - Your age, > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > > > > 1. female > > 2. 42 > > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > > 4. she's 86 > > 5. Yes, unfortunately > > 6. learned about it last week! > > > > Ilene > > > 1 - Male, > > 2 - 25 > > 3 - Mother, undiagnosed > > 4 - 56 > > 5 - Still alive, getting worse > > 6 - I learned about it today in a counseling session with my dad's > family therapist. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 1- Female 2- 27 3- BPD mom 4- 54 5- Alive 6- Four years ago (after finding a copy of SWOE in our own house!!) phine rddodd2005 wrote: > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > 1. female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > 4. she's 86 > 5. Yes, unfortunately > 6. learned about it last week! > > Ilene > 1 - Male, > 2 - 25 > 3 - Mother, undiagnosed > 4 - 56 > 5 - Still alive, getting worse > 6 - I learned about it today in a counseling session with my dad's family therapist. > --------------------------------- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 1. Female, 2. 45, 3. BPD mom, 4. 65, 5. Alive, 6. First did an internet search after reading " Emotional Blackmail " by Forward which led to learning about BPD and this group -- about 18 months ago. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 > > 1. female > 2. 47 > 3. mom > 4. 73 > 5. Yes > 6. This last summer. Made all the pieces fall into place, unfortunately. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 Hi 1.Female 2. 23 3. Mother 4. 45 5. Alive 6. Over a year ago her counselor discussed this with her as the root of her problems but she has not dealt with it in any way. She actually refuses to even discuss it. In the last few months things have gotten progressively worse (AGAIN) and I have really researched BPD and am trying to use that to help me cope. > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > 1. female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > 4. she's 86 > 5. Yes, unfortunately > 6. learned about it last week! > > Ilene > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 It looks like we have similar situation. I am 23 and have a BPD mom who is alive and 45. How are coping? Do you still have a relationship? > > > > > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > > 1 - Your sex, > > 2 - Your age, > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > > > > 1. female > > 2. 42 > > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > > 4. she's 86 > > 5. Yes, unfortunately > > 6. learned about it last week! > > > > Ilene > > > 1 - Male, > > 2 - 25 > > 3 - Mother, undiagnosed > > 4 - 56 > > 5 - Still alive, getting worse > > 6 - I learned about it today in a counseling session with my dad's > family therapist. > > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ ______________ > Be a better friend, newshound, and > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 Hi Ilene! Here's my stats : > 1 - female > 2 - 42 > 3 - BPD mother, undiagnosed > 4 - The age of BPD parent, 69 > 5 - she's still alive > 6 - About 4 years ago. Stop Walking on Eggshells and I Hate You, Don't Leave Me were my intro. Reading these books and Understanding the Borderline Mother, I felt someone had peeked into my past and provided an explanation. Everything else I read about (bipolar, manic, hystrionic, schizophrenic) didn't quite fit. Nada also has definite narcissistic tendencies but when it comes to what's closest, she's a Borderline Queen/Witch. Thanks for asking. Kindest regards, Mercy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > 1. Female 2. 42 3. BPD mother 4. NADA 65 Dad 68 5. yes still living 6. Put the pieces together this Christmas break after reading SWOE and UBM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 1. Female 2. 62 3. fada 4. 87 5. Alive 6. about 4 months ago from a therapist, when I was describing behavior. Re: intro to this list > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Never miss a thing. Make Yahoo your home page. http://www.yahoo.com/r/hs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 > > > > > > 1.female 2.24 years old 3.I have a mother who i think is BPD. she hasn't been diagnosed with my knowledge. 4.45 years old 5. yes still alive 6. I learned about BPD after seeking therapy. I thought something was wrong with me since I was upsetting my mother all the time, so i went to therapy. she mentioned that mom had BPD traits. I read SWOE and it's all been downhill from there. > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > > 1 - Your sex, > > 2 - Your age, > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > > 1. Female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mother > 4. NADA 65 Dad 68 > 5. yes still living > 6. Put the pieces together this Christmas break after reading SWOE and > UBM > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 1 - Female 2- almost 43 3 - BPD mother 4- 71 5 - still very much alive 6 - back in 1996 when my nada attended one of my therapy sessions. The session went on for over an hour and a half. When my parents finaly left the office my therapist said " you did not tell me that your mother was this disturbed, without a doubt your mother suffers from BPD " . I didn't start reading about BPD (SWOE and Understanding Borderline Mother)until recently. > > > > > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > > 1 - Your sex, > > 2 - Your age, > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > > > > 1. female > > 2. 42 > > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > > 4. she's 86 > > 5. Yes, unfortunately > > 6. learned about it last week! > > > > Ilene > > > 1 - Male, > > 2 - 25 > > 3 - Mother, undiagnosed > > 4 - 56 > > 5 - Still alive, getting worse > > 6 - I learned about it today in a counseling session with my dad's > family therapist. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 1. My sex: Female 2. My age: 40 3. BP mother 4. Her age: 59 5. Alive and unwell (not to mention snarling & whining) 6. Heard about BPD a verrrry long time ago, in my teens, looking thru a DSM-III Casebook. The stories in the Casebook didn't seem to describe mom. (I think they were LF.) (Learned a lot reading the Casebook, it's a good read, if you're into that) Didn't apply BPD to mom til approximately 6-7 years ago, during a therapy session where I was expressing extreme frustration about my crazy mom for the umpteenth time. Therapist suggested mom could have BPD. Couldn't say for sure, mom wasn't her patient, but that's what it sounded like. So this time I looked up BPD in the actual DSM (IV) and the light bulb started to glow faintly. Did more research online, found Randi Kreger's book, " Stop Walking on Eggshells " , read it, and it all clicked into place. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 Hi everyone 1. Female 2. 24 3. BPD mother 4. 54 5. Both my parents are alive and still together. 6. I was a child, late 80s maybe. My Nada knew she was mentally ill my whole life, (I think it might have been misdiagnosed before), and I don't remember when I started learning the specifics. > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > 1. female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > 4. she's 86 > 5. Yes, unfortunately > 6. learned about it last week! > > Ilene > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 5, 2008 Report Share Posted February 5, 2008 > Nada is alive, father is deceased (going on 12 years ago). My husband > thinks that despite her poor health (diabetes, obesity, lack of > exercise, foot pain), she'll live a long time because she's an > emotional vampire. > > LOL! Isn't it the truth though? One of my greatest fears is that mom will outlive me. She probably will, to spite me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 Man can I relate! me- 60 felame, nada going on 84, been living on a banana peel for 22 years with heart and leukemia etc, and I am soon to turn the age she was when she had her massive coronary that she never should have survived. I m wondering if she ll out live me after all! > LOL! Isn't it the truth though? One of my greatest fears is that mom will outlive me. She probably will, to spite me. --------------------------------- Instant message from any web browser! Try the new Yahoo! Canada Messenger for the Web BETA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 Thanks for asking us to give our vital stats. It's interesting to read! Female 33 BPD mother 68 Still alive I first heard the word Borderline many years ago in connection with someone else, but I first read the description at my husband's suggestion 19 months ago, shortly after she disowned me and this NC was initiated April > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > 1. female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > 4. she's 86 > 5. Yes, unfortunately > 6. learned about it last week! > > Ilene > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 Hi Ilene 1. female 2. 52 3. mother 4. 80 5. very much so 6. 5 months ago Tina > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > 1. female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > 4. she's 86 > 5. Yes, unfortunately > 6. learned about it last week! > > Ilene > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 > > 1 - Female > > 2 - 27 > > 3 - BPD mother > > 4 - 59 > > 5 - yes > > 6 - I first learned about BPD on a South Beach diet message board posting in which people were discussing their difficult mothers. SWOE was mentioned. I kept it in the back of my mind for about a year until a a really bad experience made me never want to see nada again. I read SWOE and my brother talked to nada's doctor about her behavior w/o mentioning BPD. There was no need -- the doctor suspected she had BPD. She has not sought treatment, unfortunately. > > > > > > > > > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to > know > > > 1 - Your sex, > > > 2 - Your age, > > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > > > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > > > > > > > 1. female > > > 2. 42 > > > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > > > 4. she's 86 > > > 5. Yes, unfortunately > > > 6. learned about it last week! > > > > > > Ilene > > > > > 1 - Male, > > > 2 - 25 > > > 3 - Mother, undiagnosed > > > 4 - 56 > > > 5 - Still alive, getting worse > > > 6 - I learned about it today in a counseling session with my > dad's > > family therapist. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > ______________________________________________________________________ > ______________ > > Be a better friend, newshound, and > > know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. > http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 Hi Ilene, > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. Ok here goes... 1 - I am female last I looked 2 - Just turned the big 4-0. (but doing that in Hawaii takes the edge off. hehe) 3 - Mom is my problem child 4 - She is sixty-one and recently widowed. 5 - Alive annoying and oh yeah now living with FIFTEEN dogs. (okay the one female just had a litter of six so they are the size of hamsters, but still) 6 - I first heard of BPD from an old Army buddy that has become a therapist/advocate back in summer of 2006. But my mother has had mental illness issues pretty much her entire adult life. Forty plus years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 1-female 2-37 3-mom 4-67 5-alive and kicking; her mom died at 100 so I'm not anticipating any imminent respite 6-years ago; only in the past year applied it to mom > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > 1. female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > 4. she's 86 > 5. Yes, unfortunately > 6. learned about it last week! > > Ilene > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 > > Hi Ilene, > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > > 1 - Your sex, > > 2 - Your age, > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > Ok here goes... > > 1 - I am female last I looked > > 2 - Just turned the big 4-0. (but doing that in Hawaii takes the edge off. hehe) > > 3 - Mom is my problem child > > 4 - She is sixty-one and recently widowed. > > 5 - Alive annoying and oh yeah now living with FIFTEEN dogs. (okay the one female just > had a litter of six so they are the size of hamsters, but still) > > 6 - I first heard of BPD from an old Army buddy that has become a therapist/advocate > back in summer of 2006. But my mother has had mental illness issues pretty much > her entire adult life. Forty plus years. >1.I am a Female 2. I am 38 years old 3. I have a BPD mother (still married) 4. She is 58 years old 5. She is alive 6. I learned about BPD from my wonderful therapist one year ago. My mother has also had mental issues her whole life. I am still working on repairing me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 Hello, 1. I am female 2. I am 33 yrs old 3. My mom has BPD 4. She is 53 5. still alive , had been living with me for the past 6 yrs, just had her move out in the beginning of January 6. Just found out about BPD two weeks ago, stopped talking to my mom completely about 1 wk ago, seeing a therapist for myself for the first time next week, still trying to figure out how to handle her and the rest of my family Re: intro to this list > > Hi Ilene, > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > > 1 - Your sex, > > 2 - Your age, > > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > Ok here goes... > > 1 - I am female last I looked > > 2 - Just turned the big 4-0. (but doing that in Hawaii takes the edge off. hehe) > > 3 - Mom is my problem child > > 4 - She is sixty-one and recently widowed. > > 5 - Alive annoying and oh yeah now living with FIFTEEN dogs. (okay the one female just > had a litter of six so they are the size of hamsters, but still) > > 6 - I first heard of BPD from an old Army buddy that has become a therapist/advocate > back in summer of 2006. But my mother has had mental illness issues pretty much > her entire adult life. Forty plus years. >1.I am a Female 2. I am 38 years old 3. I have a BPD mother (still married) 4. She is 58 years old 5. She is alive 6. I learned about BPD from my wonderful therapist one year ago. My mother has also had mental issues her whole life. I am still working on repairing me. ________________________________________________________________________________\ ____ Be a better friend, newshound, and know-it-all with Yahoo! Mobile. Try it now. http://mobile.yahoo.com/;_ylt=Ahu06i62sR8HDtDypao8Wcj9tAcJ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 6, 2008 Report Share Posted February 6, 2008 1. female 2. 45 3. I see BPD traits in my mother in law, though she's undiagnosed. 4. She's 72. 5. She's alive. 6. I first learned about BPD about a month or so ago when a friend recommended SWOE to help me with my mil situation. > > > > I'd like to hear a " Hi " from everyone on this list, I'd like to know > 1 - Your sex, > 2 - Your age, > 3 - If you had a BPD father and/or a BPD mother, > 4 - The age of your BPD parent(s), > 5 - Whether that parent is still alive, and > 6 - How long ago did you first learn about BPD. > > > 1. female > 2. 42 > 3. BPD mom ( actually my aunt, saw dad very seldom) > 4. she's 86 > 5. Yes, unfortunately > 6. learned about it last week! > > Ilene > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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