thanks

[Guest guest]

Hi fellow chiarians

I would like to thank all of you out there who have written to me

concerning ACM1. A special thank you to Kathleen and Hillbilly

for all help and encouragement. I hope that everyone finds the help

they need. Best of luck to all of you, But remember there are two sides

to every story and that everybody's case is different. What works for

one may not work for another. Take the time to try and find the

clinical evidence before jumping into anything to hastily. This will be

my last post here. I am 20 years plus ACM1 symptomatic and have decided

to continue with what I have been doing.

Ed the redneck chiarian

P.S. You just might be a redneck if you see a chiropractor when you

have ACM1. Guess what folks I'm REDNECK and proud of it. 20 years and

still going.

[Guest guest]

Ali: Your parents are the ones who are losing out by

not interacting and loving your son. I personally

think that loving a special needs child is much easier

than an nt child. They deserve so much more in their

lives and they go through so much that you just want

to hug them and keep them safe forever. Your parents

are denying themselves that unconditional love that

you can give a special needs child because of the

absence of " expectations " that you have with nt

children. Andy will never dissappoint you. Any

accomplishments he makes will be special and

celebrated. I hope what I'm saying makes sense. It

does to me at least. LOL

Anyway, sorry you have to deal with that too.

Tamara

--- alibalw wrote:

> Thanks everyone for all your support.You have no

> idea how it much it

> means to me!! :-)))

> I phoned my mom to tell her (I hadn't told her I was

> seeing the

> doc),and she said ,* oh right, why do you need that

> ,can you not

> cope??* Now I know my mom has a hard time accepting

> everything but I

> sometimes feel like that she deliberately will not

> discuss

> it ,therefore she feels it's not happening.My dad ,I

> thought was a

> bit better.Seems I am wrong on that one too!! The

> other day he was

> talking to a customer in the shop.this lady was an

> old friend that he

> and my mom haven't seen for years.he brought out the

> photos of

> Lyndsey,(he carries them in his wallet,but has NONE

> of Andy).The lady

> oohed and aahhed over my gorgeous(ok I'm

> biased)daughter.He

> introduced me to her and continued bragging about

> Lyndsey for a good

> 10 mins.The lady turns and says that I must be so

> proud to have had

> such a bright daughter and did dh and I plan on

> having anymore? I

> said that I also had a son.the woman looked

> surprised as my dad

> hadn't mentioned Andy.So my dad says * Andy has some

> little

> problems ,but it's nothing much to worry about*. I

> told the woman

> that actually Andy was autistic and had a mental age

> of 2 and that dh

> and I were worried about him. When I got home later

> I discussed what

> had happened with dh.He pointed out that when ever

> my parents are

> over or we are at their house(or anywhere with them

> to be

> honest),they only interact with Andy for about 5% of

> the time.The

> rest of their time is given to Lyndsey.*Andy seems

> to prefer his own

> company* is their standard reply.Well this is

> true,but he is their

> grandson .Surely to goodness they could TRY!!!!!

> AND SHE WONDERS WHY I'M NOW ON PROZAC!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> Thanks for the rant! :-))

> Ali

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Surely to goodness they could TRY!!!!!

> AND SHE WONDERS WHY I'M NOW ON PROZAC!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> Thanks for the rant! :-))

Ali:

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR! This makes me so mad! I would be furious if anyone tried

to leave Putter out (although Putter would be delighted). Kids with autism

need MORE interaction, not less.

And Andy may be extremely intelligent. Autism says nothing about that. He

may have a lot in him for them to be proud of.

Salli

[Guest guest]

Ali,

Others on this list have that type of parents too. They are in denial. I'm

amazed that he doesn't even show a picture of him though! It's not like he

would have had to give her Andy's history, but he could have at least

acknowledged he had a grandson!

Hugs to you!

Sue

thanks

> Thanks everyone for all your support.You have no idea how it much it

> means to me!! :-)))

> I phoned my mom to tell her (I hadn't told her I was seeing the

> doc),and she said ,* oh right, why do you need that ,can you not

> cope??* Now I know my mom has a hard time accepting everything but I

> sometimes feel like that she deliberately will not discuss

> it ,therefore she feels it's not happening.My dad ,I thought was a

> bit better.Seems I am wrong on that one too!! The other day he was

> talking to a customer in the shop.this lady was an old friend that he

> and my mom haven't seen for years.he brought out the photos of

> Lyndsey,(he carries them in his wallet,but has NONE of Andy).The lady

> oohed and aahhed over my gorgeous(ok I'm biased)daughter.He

> introduced me to her and continued bragging about Lyndsey for a good

> 10 mins.The lady turns and says that I must be so proud to have had

> such a bright daughter and did dh and I plan on having anymore? I

> said that I also had a son.the woman looked surprised as my dad

> hadn't mentioned Andy.So my dad says * Andy has some little

> problems ,but it's nothing much to worry about*. I told the woman

> that actually Andy was autistic and had a mental age of 2 and that dh

> and I were worried about him. When I got home later I discussed what

> had happened with dh.He pointed out that when ever my parents are

> over or we are at their house(or anywhere with them to be

> honest),they only interact with Andy for about 5% of the time.The

> rest of their time is given to Lyndsey.*Andy seems to prefer his own

> company* is their standard reply.Well this is true,but he is their

> grandson .Surely to goodness they could TRY!!!!!

> AND SHE WONDERS WHY I'M NOW ON PROZAC!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> Thanks for the rant! :-))

> Ali

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

that's just horrifying.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 2/25/2002 4:02:55 PM Eastern Standard Time,

alibalw@... writes:

> My dad ,I thought was a

> bit better.Seems I am wrong on that one too!! The other day he was

> talking to a customer in the shop.this lady was an old friend that he

> and my mom haven't seen for years.he brought out the photos of

> Lyndsey,(he carries them in his wallet,but has NONE of Andy).

I would get a picture of Andy - if you don't have one " professionally " done

you can take a snapshot to target and get wallets made there from your own

picture. Then give one to your dad and say... I hadn't realized that you

didn't have any pictures of Andy... I was really hurt that you didn't mention

him since I am very proud that he's my son also.

I'm sure they don't know how to talk about this they love you and probably

don't realize they are even doing this. for the longest time my mom would

come visit and then buy us stuff but never " play " with . She kept

saying " she's ignoring me " and I would say that's why she's autistic!!!!!!!

She still doesn't believe me - we just cannot talk about it without fighting.

So she comes up and buys us stuff and I am slowly showing her what things

is interested in. Now that she plays with toys (MR potato head,

puzzles, blocks) mom is having an easier time of it. But that took 6 months

before she wouldn't play with anything - just threw stuff on the floor to

watch it bounce (or listen to it bounce we still aren't sure). Best of luck

to you and Andy.

Hugs!!!!! G

[Guest guest]

I just don't get it....Why is it so hard for Grandparents??? This is

very,very sad...I hope they come around for you soon, Ali....

:-(

Penny

>>>they only interact with Andy for about 5% of the time.The

rest of their time is given to Lyndsey.*Andy seems to prefer his own

company* is their standard reply.Well this is true,but he is their

grandson .Surely to goodness they could TRY!!!!!

AND SHE WONDERS WHY I'M NOW ON PROZAC!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for the rant! :-))

Ali

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[Guest guest]

hi evevryone. I just don't have the energy to tell my story or even

to whine about how rotten I feel mentally and physically, but

reading your posts already has shown me I am not alone. I KNEW life

couldn't be this hard on normal folks...there wouldn't be anybody

left! Anyway...I am feeling really depressed, lost, overwhelmed and

lonely, but talking about it willmake me cry and that will make my

headache worse...so...wah.

The rest of the world thinks I am such a bright, sunshiney positive

unsinkable person...so don't tell 'em, lol.

[Guest guest]

{{{{{}}}}} - You just talk about it if / when you need to. We'll be here...

I often feel overwhelmed, lonely, frustrated, stuck and tired of things. That doesn't include feeling like run over dog poop, and no one around me really to give support or who understands. I too am seen as sunny lol! [sometime's]. ;-) Or withdrawn, when I feel really bad physically :-P They just don't understand.

xo li

----- Original Message -----

hi evevryone. I just don't have the energy to tell my story or even to whine about how rotten I feel mentally and physically, but reading your posts already has shown me I am not alone. I KNEW life couldn't be this hard on normal folks...there wouldn't be anybody left! Anyway...I am feeling really depressed, lost, overwhelmed and lonely, but talking about it willmake me cry and that will make my headache worse...so...wah. The rest of the world thinks I am such a bright, sunshiney positive unsinkable person...so don't tell 'em, lol.

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