Re: THE Note

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From what I can tell, once you remove them you're pretty much on

your own. Which is fine with me. I know there will be no regrets

walking away from that school. (aside from wishing it could have

been done sooner)

Wow. I understand that hot/cold multiple personality situation.

One day he's all for it. Go go go. The next it's " Well I've been

thinking.... "

I hope you're right.

Cinnamon

In parenting_autism@y..., " silvershadowleaf " <bedells@i...> wrote:

> Cinnamon, I know it's frustrating, but it's great that you only

have

> to figure out what to do about the test. Not having t many issues

to

> deal with for homeschooling has got to be helpful. You might try

> asking the school if she can be brought in just on the day of the

> test so that they can administer it their way. I know some

> standardized tests can be done that way.

>

> In terms of your husband's lack of support, I can relate right

now.

> With Nick he still hasn't decided how he feels. One day I

> hear, " We'll do everything he needs; money is no option. I'll

come

> up with the money from family or friends or working overtime. " The

> next day it's " He not really autistic, so he doesn't need this

> anyway, and we can't afford it. " The day after that it has changed

> again to, " you obsess over this too much. Just leave it up to the

> professionals; they know what they are doing. Who are you to

second

> guess them? " I never know which way he's going to feel, so I am

> always at a loss for what to say. I figure if I just keep plugging

> away, regardless of his opinion at the moment, Nicky will get what

he

> needs...eventually. When it comes to A.G. -- Don't even get me

> started. We have more fights over how to handle that child...

>

> I'm sure that once your husband has had some time to think and

> understand what is going on, he'll be more supportive.

>

> B

[Guest guest]

Cinnamon, if your dh is anything like mine, who is quite typical in my

opinion, he's more concerned about how this will affect you, thereby

affecting the family unit.

Homeschooling is not easy, and you know that. That said - - if you are

tired, if you are feeling overwhelmed, etc - then I'm sure he's wondering

how life at home will be.

I would think that is his underlying concern, no matter HOW he words it?

Well, that would be why Shaun would give me such crap anyhow LOL. Just as

his aura as a father makes or breaks a household, my being in a funk or

mood, or worse, utterly exhausted, wreaks HAVOC on our family as a unit.

You might not be like me in that sense, but if I ever said I was going to

homeschool, I can think of 8 people who would slap me one upside the head

because they would think I'm flushing my future down the drain. <As in....

I would ruin ALL of our lives LOL!!> And. knowing me and my personality,

they are quite right. I would be no good at that, and particularly not with

my own kids!

FWIW, I think you know what you are doing, and you're going in the right

direction, AND obviously Cassie is not in an appropriate setting. Perhaps

your husband should have more faith in you? I think you're doing GREAT.

Grace

Re: THE Note

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> Funny you mention that. I did tell him and he said " I AM being

> supportive. " Yikes.

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> Cinnamon

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> In parenting_autism@y..., " Amy Helmuth " <ajhelmuth@h...> wrote:

> > >From: " cinnamonspice58 " <cinnamonspice58@y...>

> > > Thanks Amy. I appreciate the support. What he doesn't realize

> is

> > >that his lack of support does nothing for my own confidence.

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> > Have you told him that? Cam would do the same thing, thinking he

> was being

> > helpful (devil's advocate?) and had no idea that he was hurting me.

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[Guest guest]

I know that you are doing the right thing for her. I can tell just by

the way you talk about homeschooling her. This will be what is best

for everyone. In fact even the teacher will appreciate it. I mean she

never wanted to really work anyway.

Jacquie H

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> That woman IS inept. Jacquie I can't tell you how many times

I've

> taken

> her off the computer for one reason or another and she has NEVER

> reacted like that. That woman clearly cannot handle the

situation.

> And she's supposed to be the *expert*. I truly believe that

> homeschooling is what is best for Cassie. They are not teaching

her

> the things she needs. They are just going through the motions

moving

> her through the system and collecting the cash. Well I'm going to

do

> what's right for her and save the taxpayers a little money at the

> same time

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> Cinnamon