Re: THE Note

[Guest guest]

>Then he said he's afraid people will try to interfere. I

> told him homeschooling is legal in all 50 states. then he

said " that

> doesn't mean it will stop them " and on and on it went.

Cinnamon, I don't mean to upset you, but your dh may be right. I had

a friend try to take her son out of school to homeschool him, and the

school fought her every step of the way. They even called social

services and tried to have him taken away from her for " medical

neglect " . They wouldn't let it go until she took it to court and

proved to the judge that not only had she NOT been neglectful, but

that the school and teacher had been (Teddy couldn't go to recess

with the rest of the class, due to medical conditions, so instead of

having someone watch him, the teacher locked him in the classroom by

himself for 30 minutes.) He is now being homeschooled, however since

the school is a public one, they got nothing more than a slap on the

hand.

Most of the time, though, I don't think there are major problems over

removing a child from a classroom that is detrimental to them. For

all I know, this may have been one of those rare cases that is held

up as an example.

Good Luck

B

[Guest guest]

So sorry about all of this. Husbands sometimes have a hard time

supporting things when they are afraid of what might happen. It is

true that you could have some troubles but you may not. The teacher

sounds inept to say the least. I think homeschooling will be much

better and maybe later a better placement can be found if that is

what you want for her. Good luck!

Jacquie H

Why couldnt that stupid teacher call you the day it happened or told

you in her first note? Stupid lady!

>

>

> Sorry I didn't get back to you all sooner. Both kids wanted

their

> computer time and dh and I went out to dinner. The school

situation

> came up in conversation and let's just say it's a good thing we

were

> in public :| But first " the note " :

>

> Basically here's the gist of it. Cassie was on the computer at

> school. She entered a program " she knew she wasn't supposed to

> enter " and the teacher took her off the computer and she was sent

> to " books " . She apparently made a fuss about it so then the teacher

> gave her work. Well when that happened Cassie " hit at " and " kicked

> at " her and (I guess this is the real *kicker*) said " I hate you,

you

> stupid bitch " . So this is why she needed to send a note to let me

> she was sending a note. Amazing. I've taken Cassie off the

computer

> many times and have NEVER had this reaction from her. Not once has

> she called me that. I still say it's odd that she is the only

person

> to experience these problems with Cass. And she wanted to make it

> clear that " the assistant principal witnessed the " incident " " I

> don't mean to make light of it but YABBADABBADOO. This woman

clearly

> has no idea how to handle kids in (apparently) any situation.

>

> DH and I were discussing............well actually *I* was

> discussing the ineptitude of that woman and how pulling Cassie out

> before the end of the school year was the best thing. He just sat

> there. When I asked if a little encouragement or support was

> possible, here are his comforting words: " I'm not going to try to

> stop you. " ????????????????????? Uhhhhhhhhhhh that's not what I

had

> in mind. Then he said he's afraid people will try to interfere. I

> told him homeschooling is legal in all 50 states. then he

said " that

> doesn't mean it will stop them " and on and on it went. We wound

up

> not getting to Mailboxes,Etc because of all this whining. So now

it

> will be the first of the week---and BJ you're right about Monday.

> Now I really want to rip his head off. AAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGHH!!!!!!!!

> Today " D " does not stand for dear OR darling.

>

> Thanks for all of your support. Without you guys, I'd have none

at

> all.

>

> Cinnamon

[Guest guest]

I think she's trying to leave a papertrail of all her correspondence with

Cinnamon, to be able to " show " how she was soooooooooooooo communicative

with the parents, and how SHE was doing HER job well, while Cinnamon was

obviously failing as a parent by not being able to control her daughter from

hating a BITCH of a teacher. <Well, Cassie was right about ONE thing...

LOL)

Excuse my language.

Grace

Re: THE Note

> So sorry about all of this. Husbands sometimes have a hard time

> supporting things when they are afraid of what might happen. It is

> true that you could have some troubles but you may not. The teacher

> sounds inept to say the least. I think homeschooling will be much

> better and maybe later a better placement can be found if that is

> what you want for her. Good luck!

> Jacquie H

> Why couldnt that stupid teacher call you the day it happened or told

> you in her first note? Stupid lady!

>

>

>

>

> >

> >

> > Sorry I didn't get back to you all sooner. Both kids wanted

> their

> > computer time and dh and I went out to dinner. The school

> situation

> > came up in conversation and let's just say it's a good thing we

> were

> > in public :| But first " the note " :

> >

> > Basically here's the gist of it. Cassie was on the computer at

> > school. She entered a program " she knew she wasn't supposed to

> > enter " and the teacher took her off the computer and she was sent

> > to " books " . She apparently made a fuss about it so then the teacher

> > gave her work. Well when that happened Cassie " hit at " and " kicked

> > at " her and (I guess this is the real *kicker*) said " I hate you,

> you

> > stupid bitch " . So this is why she needed to send a note to let me

> > she was sending a note. Amazing. I've taken Cassie off the

> computer

> > many times and have NEVER had this reaction from her. Not once has

> > she called me that. I still say it's odd that she is the only

> person

> > to experience these problems with Cass. And she wanted to make it

> > clear that " the assistant principal witnessed the " incident " " I

> > don't mean to make light of it but YABBADABBADOO. This woman

> clearly

> > has no idea how to handle kids in (apparently) any situation.

> >

> > DH and I were discussing............well actually *I* was

> > discussing the ineptitude of that woman and how pulling Cassie out

> > before the end of the school year was the best thing. He just sat

> > there. When I asked if a little encouragement or support was

> > possible, here are his comforting words: " I'm not going to try to

> > stop you. " ????????????????????? Uhhhhhhhhhhh that's not what I

> had

> > in mind. Then he said he's afraid people will try to interfere. I

> > told him homeschooling is legal in all 50 states. then he

> said " that

> > doesn't mean it will stop them " and on and on it went. We wound

> up

> > not getting to Mailboxes,Etc because of all this whining. So now

> it

> > will be the first of the week---and BJ you're right about Monday.

> > Now I really want to rip his head off. AAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGHH!!!!!!!!

> > Today " D " does not stand for dear OR darling.

> >

> > Thanks for all of your support. Without you guys, I'd have none

> at

> > all.

> >

> > Cinnamon

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hey there Cinnamon

(and everyone else!! :-) )

I've been lurking alot lately just because my time is very limited

around here these days. I've been keeping up with your situation

there though and though now would be THE time to add my 5 cents..lol

Be positive. That the best advice I can give you. I have soooooooo

been in your situation.. as a matter of fact, I am just getting OUT

of your situation. Tommy was placed in the TOTALLY WRONG school in

september. He was suspended 3 times for behaviors pertaining to his

disability (autism). Not to mention, they switched classrooms for

him 3 times without ever revising his IEP. To add to the situation,

they had him seperated from the classroom... his desk was in the back

corner of the classroom seperated by room dividers.. while the other

10 children were permitted to sit up with eachother around the

teachers desk. Im not even breaking the surface here.. just trying

to make a long story short. After a month and a half of fighting

with the school about what was going on there (mind you, almost

everyday he came home with bruises.. to the point where we were

taking photos of them for legal purposes) I decided enough is

enough. I ( emphasis on I.. because my husband was in Oklahoma City

attending school.. while I was left here in NY to deal with it all)

decided to tell the school that I want a new placement for him, and

UNTIL they can find adaquate placement for him, that they are going

to be responsible for providing the appropriate indivudials to run a

program at home. IT WAS HELL!!...lol Having people come in and out

of your home.. all day long (that is, when they showed up for the

scheduled classes) runs a toll on you.. trust me. (you're stuck in

the house for an hour at a time.. ) THings didnt improve.. so we had

to retain a lawyer on my sons behalf ($5 grand!) and we are now in a

legal fight against the school district here. Last week was my sons

FIRST week of his APPROPRIATE school. He loves it.. though, its 26

miles away! In addition, we are STILL recieving home services..

there were 45 hours of MISSED aba from November to this month.. that

the school has to make up for. Needless to say.. its a crazy mess.

My whole point in telling you all of this.. is because, sometimes you

need to hear someone elses story which is WORSE to take the load off

of you.. to make you feel like " whew!! it could be worse! " . Well..

this is MY story!..lol :-) Last month, my hub FINALLY returned from

OK.. and is actually HELPING out some.. but I still get the grunt of

the work. Just remind yourself.. everything happens for a reason..

and your situation could always be worse. Just take one thing at a

time.. and dont overload yourself.

Sincerely

Rhonda

" true beliver that EVERY parent of an autistic child, needs a

lifetime supply of zoloft! " :-)

>

>

> Sorry I didn't get back to you all sooner. Both kids wanted

their

> computer time and dh and I went out to dinner. The school

situation

> came up in conversation and let's just say it's a good thing we

were

> in public :| But first " the note " :

>

> Basically here's the gist of it. Cassie was on the computer at

> school. She entered a program " she knew she wasn't supposed to

> enter " and the teacher took her off the computer and she was sent

> to " books " . She apparently made a fuss about it so then the teacher

> gave her work. Well when that happened Cassie " hit at " and " kicked

> at " her and (I guess this is the real *kicker*) said " I hate you,

you

> stupid bitch " . So this is why she needed to send a note to let me

> she was sending a note. Amazing. I've taken Cassie off the

computer

> many times and have NEVER had this reaction from her. Not once has

> she called me that. I still say it's odd that she is the only

person

> to experience these problems with Cass. And she wanted to make it

> clear that " the assistant principal witnessed the " incident " " I

> don't mean to make light of it but YABBADABBADOO. This woman

clearly

> has no idea how to handle kids in (apparently) any situation.

>

> DH and I were discussing............well actually *I* was

> discussing the ineptitude of that woman and how pulling Cassie out

> before the end of the school year was the best thing. He just sat

> there. When I asked if a little encouragement or support was

> possible, here are his comforting words: " I'm not going to try to

> stop you. " ????????????????????? Uhhhhhhhhhhh that's not what I

had

> in mind. Then he said he's afraid people will try to interfere. I

> told him homeschooling is legal in all 50 states. then he

said " that

> doesn't mean it will stop them " and on and on it went. We wound

up

> not getting to Mailboxes,Etc because of all this whining. So now

it

> will be the first of the week---and BJ you're right about Monday.

> Now I really want to rip his head off. AAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGHH!!!!!!!!

> Today " D " does not stand for dear OR darling.

>

> Thanks for all of your support. Without you guys, I'd have none

at

> all.

>

> Cinnamon

[Guest guest]

Hi . From what I've been able to find out the only thing

that may be an *issue* if I take her out THIS year is that dang EOG

test that is in May--right before the end of the school year. State

law does not exempt special needs kids from this test. She has to

take it. And it has to be administered a certain *way*. If I start

in the fall, I have 12 months before I have to give her the

standardized test. I came across information that it is *suggested*

that you not take them out after mid-year which would have been right

before Thanksgiving. So now I'm going hmmmmmmmmm not sure what to

think or do---about THIS year. The decision to homeschool is final

for next year--they have no say in it as long as I comply with state

law. The governor of this state and the US Supreme Court say so. And

I will gladly lock horns with the system if they are so inclined. I

am planning to join up with HSLDA. The PS system does not have the

power they think they do. And I'd be willing to take that all the

way. Medical neglect my *##.

Thanks for bringing it up. Looking into it further enabled me to

find this testing and mid-year information. And sealed my decision

about HSLDA. Thanks for the help.

Cinnamon

[Guest guest]

That woman IS inept. Jacquie I can't tell you how many times I've

taken

her off the computer for one reason or another and she has NEVER

reacted like that. That woman clearly cannot handle the situation.

And she's supposed to be the *expert*. I truly believe that

homeschooling is what is best for Cassie. They are not teaching her

the things she needs. They are just going through the motions moving

her through the system and collecting the cash. Well I'm going to do

what's right for her and save the taxpayers a little money at the

same time

Cinnamon

[Guest guest]

You know Grace, I wanted to say that very thing a while back but I

thought everyone would think I was being paranoid. So when I return

the notes--along with my sig I add the fact that she is not behaving

this way at home or anywhere else but at school. Every time.

Cinnamon

[Guest guest]

I appreciate that. Wow Rhonda I relate. Cassie is partitioned like

that for part of the day too. They claim it is so she can *focus*.

I don't like it. For a long time I thought there was nothing I could

do. Now I know there's a LOT I can do. How awful for Tommy. If

Cassie was coming home with bruises the school would have a

skylight.

Is it legal for them to suspend a child for behavior associated

with his/her disability?

Cinnamon

[Guest guest]

<<Is it legal for them to suspend a child for behavior associated

with his/her disability?>>

Yes, Cinnamon, it is . . . this is one of the topics that was covered in our

parent advocate training class recently.

Actually, a lot of parents have been able to use IDEA regulations to get

placement changes for their kids due to frequent suspensions that are

behavior-related.

School personnel may remove a child with a disability for not more than ten

consecutive school days. Services do not have to be provided under IDEA to a

child with a disability during the first ten school days.

After a child has been removed from his or her current placement for more

than ten school days, during any subsequent days of removal the public agency

*must* provide services to the extent required under 300.121(d) (FAPE for

children suspended and expelled.)

In other words, they are required to send someone to your home for child's

1:1 instruction, I think here in land it is a minimum of 6 hours per week

(but you can fight for more, apparently 6 hours of 1:1 time is better for

some of our kids than 40 hours of regular school time according to some of my

classmates).

So if you are called mid-day and asked to remove your child from the

building, demand that this partial day count as *day one* of a " suspension. "

(advice from parent trainer here). Let those days add up each time and you're

more likely to get home-based services quicker. Parent trainer also

recommended that you not pick your child up at all *unless* school agrees to

designate this as a suspension. You will have to use your own judgment on

this, however, as some school systems will call the police if you refuse to

pick your child up.

Immediately request in writing for an IEP team meeting to review any existing

functional behavioral plan and its implementation, and modify the plan as

necessary, to address the behavior. Or, request an functional behavioral

assessment if this has not been done in the past. This functional behavior

assessment/plan can become an integral piece of getting the child a different

placement.

-BJ in polis, MD

[Guest guest]

Poor Cassie..what is wrong with this woman..sounds

like she just has it in for Cassie..for goodness sake,

she's just a little kid...she sounds like she doesn't

know how to deal with her. The woman shouldn't be

teaching.

Hugs,

Mimi

--- cinnamonspice58 wrote:

>

>

> Sorry I didn't get back to you all sooner. Both

> kids wanted their

> computer time and dh and I went out to dinner. The

> school situation

> came up in conversation and let's just say it's a

> good thing we were

> in public :| But first " the note " :

>

> Basically here's the gist of it. Cassie was on

> the computer at

> school. She entered a program " she knew she wasn't

> supposed to

> enter " and the teacher took her off the computer and

> she was sent

> to " books " . She apparently made a fuss about it so

> then the teacher

> gave her work. Well when that happened Cassie " hit

> at " and " kicked

> at " her and (I guess this is the real *kicker*) said

> " I hate you, you

> stupid bitch " . So this is why she needed to send a

> note to let me

> she was sending a note. Amazing. I've taken Cassie

> off the computer

> many times and have NEVER had this reaction from

> her. Not once has

> she called me that. I still say it's odd that she

> is the only person

> to experience these problems with Cass. And she

> wanted to make it

> clear that " the assistant principal witnessed the

> " incident " " I

> don't mean to make light of it but YABBADABBADOO.

> This woman clearly

> has no idea how to handle kids in (apparently) any

> situation.

>

> DH and I were discussing............well actually

> *I* was

> discussing the ineptitude of that woman and how

> pulling Cassie out

> before the end of the school year was the best

> thing. He just sat

> there. When I asked if a little encouragement or

> support was

> possible, here are his comforting words: " I'm not

> going to try to

> stop you. " ????????????????????? Uhhhhhhhhhhh

> that's not what I had

> in mind. Then he said he's afraid people will try

> to interfere. I

> told him homeschooling is legal in all 50 states.

> then he said " that

> doesn't mean it will stop them " and on and on it

> went. We wound up

> not getting to Mailboxes,Etc because of all this

> whining. So now it

> will be the first of the week---and BJ you're right

> about Monday.

> Now I really want to rip his head off.

> AAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGHH!!!!!!!!

> Today " D " does not stand for dear OR darling.

>

> Thanks for all of your support. Without you guys,

> I'd have none at

> all.

>

> Cinnamon

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Really..and to say that the assistant principal

witnessed it..the ass't principal should be telling

the teacher she doesn't know how to handle her

students! They sound like kids ganging up on another

kid.

Mimi

--- Grace Keh wrote:

> I think she's trying to leave a papertrail of all

> her correspondence with

> Cinnamon, to be able to " show " how she was

> soooooooooooooo communicative

> with the parents, and how SHE was doing HER job

> well, while Cinnamon was

> obviously failing as a parent by not being able to

> control her daughter from

> hating a BITCH of a teacher. <Well, Cassie was

> right about ONE thing...

> LOL)

> Excuse my language.

>

> Grace

> Re: THE Note

>

>

> > So sorry about all of this. Husbands sometimes

> have a hard time

> > supporting things when they are afraid of what

> might happen. It is

> > true that you could have some troubles but you may

> not. The teacher

> > sounds inept to say the least. I think

> homeschooling will be much

> > better and maybe later a better placement can be

> found if that is

> > what you want for her. Good luck!

> > Jacquie H

> > Why couldnt that stupid teacher call you the day

> it happened or told

> > you in her first note? Stupid lady!

> >

> >

> >

> >

> > >

> > >

> > > Sorry I didn't get back to you all sooner.

> Both kids wanted

> > their

> > > computer time and dh and I went out to dinner.

> The school

> > situation

> > > came up in conversation and let's just say it's

> a good thing we

> > were

> > > in public :| But first " the note " :

> > >

> > > Basically here's the gist of it. Cassie was

> on the computer at

> > > school. She entered a program " she knew she

> wasn't supposed to

> > > enter " and the teacher took her off the computer

> and she was sent

> > > to " books " . She apparently made a fuss about it

> so then the teacher

> > > gave her work. Well when that happened Cassie

> " hit at " and " kicked

> > > at " her and (I guess this is the real *kicker*)

> said " I hate you,

> > you

> > > stupid bitch " . So this is why she needed to

> send a note to let me

> > > she was sending a note. Amazing. I've taken

> Cassie off the

> > computer

> > > many times and have NEVER had this reaction from

> her. Not once has

> > > she called me that. I still say it's odd that

> she is the only

> > person

> > > to experience these problems with Cass. And she

> wanted to make it

> > > clear that " the assistant principal witnessed

> the " incident " " I

> > > don't mean to make light of it but

> YABBADABBADOO. This woman

> > clearly

> > > has no idea how to handle kids in (apparently)

> any situation.

> > >

> > > DH and I were discussing............well

> actually *I* was

> > > discussing the ineptitude of that woman and how

> pulling Cassie out

> > > before the end of the school year was the best

> thing. He just sat

> > > there. When I asked if a little encouragement

> or support was

> > > possible, here are his comforting words: " I'm

> not going to try to

> > > stop you. " ????????????????????? Uhhhhhhhhhhh

> that's not what I

> > had

> > > in mind. Then he said he's afraid people will

> try to interfere. I

> > > told him homeschooling is legal in all 50

> states. then he

> > said " that

> > > doesn't mean it will stop them " and on and on

> it went. We wound

> > up

> > > not getting to Mailboxes,Etc because of all this

> whining. So now

> > it

> > > will be the first of the week---and BJ you're

> right about Monday.

> > > Now I really want to rip his head off.

> AAAAAAAAAARRRRRGGGGHH!!!!!!!!

> > > Today " D " does not stand for dear OR darling.

> > >

> > > Thanks for all of your support. Without you

> guys, I'd have none

> > at

> > > all.

> > >

> > > Cinnamon

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

WHAT??? That is total CRAP!!!!

....and by the way...the computer thing? I can tell you exactly why Cassie

acted that way. Because she was being treated unfairly and she knew it.

This person is a sorry excuse for a teacher....

Penny

->>>>> Cassie is partitioned like

that for part of the day too.<<<<<<

[Guest guest]

>>>>Poor Cassie..what is wrong with this woman...

sounds like she just has it in for Cassie..for

goodness sake, she's just a little kid...she sounds

like she doesn't know how to deal with her. The woman

shouldn't be teaching.

Hugs,

Mimi<<<<

It's a control issue. When my hubby was taking his

education degree, they gave the 1st-yr students a

questionaire on why they wanted to teach. There was a

long list of choices; you checked off all of the one's

that applied to you. One of the choices was " because

I want to be in charge " . As many a %50 of any given

class will check off that box. A bad reason to teach.

Cassie teacher seems like she wants to be in charge,

and she sees Cassie's actions as a threat to her

authority. You're right, she shouldn't be teaching.

Hang in there, Cinnamon

Tuna

=====

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and relying solely on courage— there is hope.

Crowe

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[Guest guest]

Well, that's just wrong!

>>>>>> One of the choices was " because

I want to be in charge " . As many a %50 of any given

class will check off that box.<<<<<<<

grrrrrrr...

Penny

[Guest guest]

Cinnamon,

It sounds like Cassie has a very accurate description of the teacher!!

Sorry your hubby doesn't quiet get it....btdt, too. It really sucks.

Sue

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[Guest guest]

Cinnamon,

I am so sorry that your dh is not being more supportive of your decision.

It is hard enough to do these things without your spouse second-guessing

you. I really think that you are making the right choice, as hard as it is.

It does not sound like that teacher is in anyway a good fit for Cassie.

Let us know what happens.

Amy

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[Guest guest]

I would be totally lost without you all. I'm a member of several

lists and PA is the best. This is the first place I run to when

things are good OR bad. I'm never afraid of being smashed and bashed

here. You always understand.

Cinnamon

In parenting_autism@y..., " smgaska " <smgaska@n...> wrote:

> I'm beginning to feel myself breaking away from that. The

> > right thing isn't always the easy thing.

> >

> > Cinnamon

>

> Cinnamon,

> Boy have you got that right!

> I think a lot of us deal with husbands like yours who really need

to be more

> educated or understanding of what we and our kids go through daily!

> At least you have us!

> Sue

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[Guest guest]

I'm beginning to feel myself breaking away from that. The

> right thing isn't always the easy thing.

>

> Cinnamon

Cinnamon,

Boy have you got that right!

I think a lot of us deal with husbands like yours who really need to be more

educated or understanding of what we and our kids go through daily!

At least you have us!

Sue

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[Guest guest]

> I'm beginning to feel myself breaking away from that. The

> > right thing isn't always the easy thing.

> >

> > Cinnamon

You GO, Girlfriend! ;o)

Grace

[Guest guest]

>

>

> I would be totally lost without you all. I'm a member of several

> lists and PA is the best. This is the first place I run to when

> things are good OR bad. I'm never afraid of being smashed and

bashed

> here. You always understand.

>

> Cinnamon

>

>

>

YOU HAVE OTHER LISTS!!!

Just kiddin'! I ended up dropping my other autie lists, just cause

they weren't what I needed.

I like coming here because I KNOW the people here, and I KNOW where

they've been and trust their advice to be in MY best interest and not

an agenda or something.

Kerri

[Guest guest]

Cinnamon, I know it's frustrating, but it's great that you only have

to figure out what to do about the test. Not having t many issues to

deal with for homeschooling has got to be helpful. You might try

asking the school if she can be brought in just on the day of the

test so that they can administer it their way. I know some

standardized tests can be done that way.

In terms of your husband's lack of support, I can relate right now.

With Nick he still hasn't decided how he feels. One day I

hear, " We'll do everything he needs; money is no option. I'll come

up with the money from family or friends or working overtime. " The

next day it's " He not really autistic, so he doesn't need this

anyway, and we can't afford it. " The day after that it has changed

again to, " you obsess over this too much. Just leave it up to the

professionals; they know what they are doing. Who are you to second

guess them? " I never know which way he's going to feel, so I am

always at a loss for what to say. I figure if I just keep plugging

away, regardless of his opinion at the moment, Nicky will get what he

needs...eventually. When it comes to A.G. -- Don't even get me

started. We have more fights over how to handle that child...

I'm sure that once your husband has had some time to think and

understand what is going on, he'll be more supportive.

B

>

>

> Hi . From what I've been able to find out the only thing

> that may be an *issue* if I take her out THIS year is that dang EOG

> test that is in May--right before the end of the school year. State

> law does not exempt special needs kids from this test. She has to

> take it. And it has to be administered a certain *way*. If I start

> in the fall, I have 12 months before I have to give her the

> standardized test. I came across information that it is

*suggested*

> that you not take them out after mid-year which would have been

right

> before Thanksgiving. So now I'm going hmmmmmmmmm not sure what to

> think or do---about THIS year. The decision to homeschool is final

> for next year--they have no say in it as long as I comply with

state

> law. The governor of this state and the US Supreme Court say so.

And

> I will gladly lock horns with the system if they are so inclined.

I

> am planning to join up with HSLDA. The PS system does not have the

> power they think they do. And I'd be willing to take that all the

> way. Medical neglect my *##.

>

> Thanks for bringing it up. Looking into it further enabled me

to

> find this testing and mid-year information. And sealed my decision

> about HSLDA. Thanks for the help.

>

> Cinnamon

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I think you're right, Tuna. This sounds exactly like

a control issue!

Mimi

--- Moretuna wrote:

> >>>>Poor Cassie..what is wrong with this woman...

> sounds like she just has it in for Cassie..for

> goodness sake, she's just a little kid...she sounds

> like she doesn't know how to deal with her. The

> woman

> shouldn't be teaching.

> Hugs,

> Mimi<<<<

>

> It's a control issue. When my hubby was taking his

> education degree, they gave the 1st-yr students a

> questionaire on why they wanted to teach. There was

> a

> long list of choices; you checked off all of the

> one's

> that applied to you. One of the choices was

> " because

> I want to be in charge " . As many a %50 of any given

> class will check off that box. A bad reason to

> teach.

> Cassie teacher seems like she wants to be in

> charge,

> and she sees Cassie's actions as a threat to her

> authority. You're right, she shouldn't be teaching.

>

> Hang in there, Cinnamon

> Tuna

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>

> Thanks Amy. I appreciate the support. What he doesn't realize is

>that his lack of support does nothing for my own confidence.

Have you told him that? Cam would do the same thing, thinking he was being

helpful (devil's advocate?) and had no idea that he was hurting me.

It would just be

>nice to think that someone you've been with for almost 19 years has a

>drop or two of faith in you. And some actual encouragement would be

>a good thing too. He's the type of person that is petrified by

>change. I'm beginning to feel myself breaking away from that. The

>right thing isn't always the easy thing.

>

Now the change thing, I completely understand that! I hate change as well,

but there comes a time in your life when you just have to learn to deal with

it. Good for you for realizing that right doesn't equal easy! That's a

tough one to swallow. I really hope for your sake that your dh will come

around and support you on this. It really is so hard when you don't have

that support at home.

Amy H--in Michigan

Kepler 4 1/2 ASD and Bethany 6 NT

" Harmony breeds ignorance. It is the dissonant chords of life that lead us

to wisdom. " ~me

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>>>>I ended up dropping my other autie lists, just

cause they weren't what I needed. <<<

Me too, Kerri. Other lists always seem to have an

agenda. I need a place (like here) where I can just

voice the trials and tribulations of being 's

mom.

Thanks everyone

Tuna

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Funny you mention that. I did tell him and he said " I AM being

supportive. " Yikes.

Cinnamon

In parenting_autism@y..., " Amy Helmuth " <ajhelmuth@h...> wrote:

> >From: " cinnamonspice58 " <cinnamonspice58@y...>

> > Thanks Amy. I appreciate the support. What he doesn't realize

is

> >that his lack of support does nothing for my own confidence.

>

> Have you told him that? Cam would do the same thing, thinking he

was being

> helpful (devil's advocate?) and had no idea that he was hurting me.