Re: Sexual Content/bad night too

[Guest guest]

You know, this may or may not apply to anyone here, but when I was

with my x, I didn't have any desire for love making either... But

then after being divorced... wow. I realized it was not *only* being

sick that got in the way....but I just wasn't feeling turned on by

my x. Not that I am so perfect but... I guess my emotional needs

weren't being met for one thing, and that just... well it does

something to my drive, big time.

My sex drive [not considering if my body can or not] is such a

mental thing...

Now I just think about it and... sure wish I could be with my

sweetie, lol! All relationships have that " honeymoon " phase anyway,

and then it kind of fizzles some. I guess it takes a lot of work to

keep it going. I don't know. I obviously just didn't feel what I

should have, for my x. :-( The love was there but... well he

would " whine " about not getting any, rather than try to be

understanding at all, of what I was going through... that hurt,

rather than helped. He didn't want to get counseling either so...

oh well - just my 2-cents.

I am wiped out - think I am going to try to go back to bed for a

little while - didn't sleep too well last night, as I was watching

the cops for hours, shining their lights in the park just right

across the street from my house all night... Needless to say, I was

feeling a little paranoid about whoever they were looking for!

Plus I was hurting so bad. But finally fell asleep at 2:30 am but

woke at 8:30... just not enough sleep for me.

xo li

[Guest guest]

li: boy can I relate.. As some of you know jake and I are divorced..and have been now for 2 years.(yes we are back to gether living together) But I just do not get turned on by him..Bad huh..guess I need to work on that. You know, this may or may not apply to anyone here, but when I was with my x, I didn't have any desire for love making either... But then after being divorced... wow. I realized it was not *only* being sick that got in the way....but I just wasn't feeling turned on by my x. Not that I am so perfect but... I guess my emotional needs Gentle Caring Hug's Marie Marie A. Roomsburg P.O. Box 346 Ava, IL. 62907 E-mail marieava@... or marieava62907@... Messanger. aol. marieava. yahoo. marieava62907

[Guest guest]

Well.... but so does he! Ya want it? ya gotta work for it buster!

lolol! I am in a rowdy mood. hehehe :-)

My x was just so... well he moped all the time when things didn't go

his way. I *hated* that. Oh there's just too much to tell, sigh. You

know some of the other things. But when we would do things together

like work in the yard together, then I would be able to get turned

on... All it takes is simple " togetherness " - be best friends,

talk...cuddle with no expectations - things like that. Why is that

so hard for men to do??

xo li

> li:

> But I just do not get turned on by him..Bad huh..guess I need to

work on

> that.

[Guest guest]

li: All it takes is simple "togetherness" - be best friends, talk...cuddle with no expectations - things like that. Why is that so hard for men to do?? Hon When you find the answer to this let me know..LOL Gentle Caring Hug's Marie Marie A. Roomsburg P.O. Box 346 Ava, IL. 62907 E-mail marieava@... or marieava62907@... Messanger. aol. marieava. yahoo. marieava62907

[Guest guest]

> li:

>

> All it takes is simple " togetherness " - be best friends,

>

> talk...cuddle with no expectations - things like that. Why is that

>

> so hard for men to do??

>

> Hon When you find the answer to this let me know..LOL

>

Yeah, I'd like to know that too! Reminds me of my ex, being

so " concerned " and wanting to give me a gentle massage to ease my

pain, which, of course, only aroused him and then I'd give in and be

in more pain than before ... SELFISH ... did I say SELFISH? Give me

a break!

(Oh, yeah, that's right, he's my EX! ... who still keeps " coming

around " for more, hahahaha) Now I'M the one who's SELFISH when I say

yes (but only after much begging and bribing)!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bad, oh,

I'm so bad .... LMAO

XOXO