Re: Re: Entanglement To Suffering

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If I could reach the stars, I'd pull one down for you, Lou.

Thanks for sharing!Helena

P.S. The first comments posted under the video are so poignant and remind me how lucky I am to have discovered ACT: I would give anything to be able to change the world. Anything to be able to call her mine. Anything to be happy. Anything to be whole. Anything for love.

To: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Sunday, October 23, 2011 6:26:19 AMSubject: Re: Entanglement To Suffering

This is the song I use that takes me into self-compassion. I discovered it because I began to sing it to my younger self and to my surprise she started to sing it back at me... Clapton - If I Could Change the World...http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Atlz3qj0K68Lou--- In ACT_for_the_Public , "Kaivey" wrote:>> Yes, it does get the spirits up, and it is a great drive there too.> > Thanks, Detlef,> > Kv> > > > >> > >> > > I felt overwhewlmed by recent experiences and saw that I had an> > enormous> > > battle ahead. But I was ready for it and I put out a very powerful> > post> > > yesterday saying that the only way out is through (well at least for> > > me). The post dissapeared somewhere, fortunately.> > >> > > Today, though, I wasn't so overwhelmed with anger at my fate and I> > > realised that this week I had become too entangled with my suffering.> > It> > > is easy to sit here and think this is such a momentious task and but> > I'm> > > ready for the fight (which I am). Then I look at my past and wonder> > how> > > did all this happen when other people find life so much easier. The> > pain> > > then builds up and up as my fearful determination increases.> > >> > > But just don't dwell on it seems to be the best advice for me right> > now.> > >> > > Today I am allowing the pain to be but getting on with things like> > > playing my guitar and keyboards. But then I feel how can I try again> > > only to fail and suffer as usual. Then I realise this is attachment> > > also. So. back to my musical instruments, and tonight, down the pub> > with> > > my lovely girlfriend for 3 pints of Huntman's Royal Oak. (my night off> > > from some of the pain for a bit)> > >> > > (Oh! and I will be playing the F*ck Buttons in the car loud on the way> > > over to her and it's amazing. And I love driving too). So, some good> > > things to look forward to.> > >> > > All the best.> > >> > > Kv> > >> >>

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I would give anything to be able to change the world. Anything to be able to call her mine. Anything to be happy. Anything to be whole. Anything for love.

All weekend, I couldn't stop thinking about those words from a anonymous poster on the video Lou shared with us earlier. They have been haunting me.

Does that not express the longing that each one of us knows deep down? Do we not want to change things, change out world, make it better, make it happier, or at least make it more tolerable? Do we not, each of us, want to call something mine? A friend of mine once said to me, "I wish I were the most important person in the world to just one person."

Anything to be whole. Anything for love.

Ahhhhhhh, the pain of longing ... yearning ... wanting ... needing. It is universal. It is human.

What I am beginning to learn, in some tiny way, is that I am the most important person in the world to just one person: Me. I used to think that was selfish. It is not. It is the only healthy way to be. It's like the instructions they give to parents on a plane or ship: If you are in danger on this journey, put the oxygen mask on yourself first, then put it on your child.

Namaste