I am back..................

[Guest guest]

My endo works with the Joslin Center here in Seattle, and I bet your kids

wouldn't believe her either... I don't understand people like that. If you

had cancer, would they deny that too?!!?!

RE: Re: I am back..................

your lucky. my adult children think the type 1 is all

in my head and refuse to believe my drs that im sick.

not even when the top endrocronologist at the

university of washington told my son

--- Elting wrote:

>

> Too bad you can't just pack up and move over here.

> I've never had a problem

> with anyone. So either I'm very lucky or I just have

> great friends! Many of

> them came to visit me when I was in the hospital on

> diagnosis...

>

> Diagnosed March 1998, born June 1947.

> Type 2, diet, exercise, glucophage (2000mg/day)

> Initial Blood Glucose - 670

>

[Guest guest]

WHat part of the country???

--- gail owens wrote:

> i love reading the notices from you all. just signed

> up on the 11th. in my part of the country diabetics

> are looked upon as being freaks. the specialist here

> could not even diagnose me as type1. was on

> glucophage

> for 2 years when i should have been on insulin.

> --- ottercritter@... wrote:

> > Dear Sheila,

> >

> > I join the rest of the gang in welcoming you back

> to

> > the fold! We all

> > fall off the wagon at times, for various reasons.

> > You sound strong

> > and upbeat in your note. I have faith that this

> will

> > be the beginning

> > of a very good time in your life, with improved

> > control over the

> > Gorilla as well as a new sense of control

> regarding

> > your family

> > relationships.

> >

> > Susie

> >

> >

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

central washington state

--- Lily Beekman wrote:

> WHat part of the country???

>

> --- gail owens wrote:

> > i love reading the notices from you all. just

> signed

> > up on the 11th. in my part of the country

> diabetics

> > are looked upon as being freaks. the specialist

> here

> > could not even diagnose me as type1. was on

> > glucophage

> > for 2 years when i should have been on insulin.

> > --- ottercritter@... wrote:

> > > Dear Sheila,

> > >

> > > I join the rest of the gang in welcoming you

> back

> > to

> > > the fold! We all

> > > fall off the wagon at times, for various

> reasons.

> > > You sound strong

> > > and upbeat in your note. I have faith that this

> > will

> > > be the beginning

> > > of a very good time in your life, with improved

> > > control over the

> > > Gorilla as well as a new sense of control

> > regarding

> > > your family

> > > relationships.

> > >

> > > Susie

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

i raised my kids while being a single mom. kids father

beat me and the kids the entire length of the 15 yr

marriage. my kids are grown and feel my total net

worth on the face of the earth is my ability to hold

down a job. since i havent worked since dec 98 but

instead i am in college. kids have nothing to do with

me. and if i was diagnosed with cancer my kids would

be happy to be rid of me.

--- Elting wrote:

>

> My endo works with the Joslin Center here in

> Seattle, and I bet your kids

> wouldn't believe her either... I don't understand

> people like that. If you

> had cancer, would they deny that too?!!?!

>

> RE: Re: I am

> back..................

>

> your lucky. my adult children think the type 1 is

> all

> in my head and refuse to believe my drs that im

> sick.

> not even when the top endrocronologist at the

> university of washington told my son

> --- Elting wrote:

> >

> > Too bad you can't just pack up and move over

> here.

> > I've never had a problem

> > with anyone. So either I'm very lucky or I just

> have

> > great friends! Many of

> > them came to visit me when I was in the hospital

> on

> > diagnosis...

> >

> > Diagnosed March 1998, born June 1947.

> > Type 2, diet, exercise, glucophage (2000mg/day)

> > Initial Blood Glucose - 670

> >

>

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Gail Owens wrote:

<< i raised my kids while being a single mom. kids father beat me and the

kids the entire length of the 15 yr marriage. my kids are grown and feel my

total net worth on the face of the earth is my ability to hold down a job.

since i havent worked since dec 98 but instead i am in college. kids have

nothing to do with me. and if i was diagnosed with cancer my kids would be

happy to be rid of me. >>

Dear Gail, my abuse was in childhood, and I sympathize with your feelings.

Later in life, I didn't know where my boundaries were. Sometimes I would let

people walk all over me; other times I would " hair up " (as we say in

Southern Appalachia) at the slightest provocation. You are in the process of

finally breaking free and making a life for yourself. You were essentially

living as a hostage during those awful 15 years. But so were your children.

They went through hell too - and they probably blame you for picking an

unsuitable father. There may be a spiritual afterlife, but as far as I can

tell, we have just this one life, and there's no sense wasting beating

ourselves up over past mistakes. I'll guess that you had some childhood

experiences that set you up to be attracted to an abuser, and to feel

powerless to leave him.

If you stay strong and make peace with yourself, I'm hopeful that some day

soon your kids will come to understand and respect you, and open up about

their own painful experiences. When there is family abuse, everyone feels

isolated. They are all in pain, and nobody talks about it. Children, being

naturally self-centered, want to be the family heroes and save everybody.

But they can't. And so they feel responsible for it all, and they act out in

various ways. I feel lots of pain in your posts. Emotional pain is as

debilitating as physical pain. I hope you can forgive yourself and forgive

the people who set you up to feel as you do today. Then the healing can

begin. Somehow we must break the cycle of abuse that passes from generation

to generation. You are not a " bad person " - I'm sure you realize that. I

think talking to your children about your common experiences could be very

healing for all of you.

Susie