Guest guest Posted February 9, 2002 Report Share Posted February 9, 2002 In a message dated 2/9/2002 11:35:52 PM Eastern Standard Time, vhunnius@... writes: > Sometimes, even knowing what her life has been like and that she's had her > share of really bad things happen to her, it is really hard to be her > friend. You are very lucky to have a friend. When you're sad can you call her? When you have a cool tv show on can you gossip? When you're sad can you call her and invite her over for tea and cookies? G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2002 Report Share Posted February 9, 2002 Jacquie - I understand you 100%. I have felt that way, and I will continue to feel that way towards certain people or certain situations, etc. I don't think it reflects on the love you have for your best friend. But you're human... and while she may have gone through her own hardships, you are going through them NOW, and well - - that just ain't so fair. I believe that in the end, life IS fair. I don't know how life will make this up to all of us LOL, but I do believe things happen for a reason. All your points are valid, absolutely valid. But this is not the end of the road. And she can't POSSIBLY be as intelligent as you! <or can she?... in which case, please subscribe to ihatemybestfriend > Grace > > You all know my best friend is pregnant and already has one NT three-year-old, right? Well, she and her dh just booked a holiday for the three of them, leaving Tuesday -- for CANCUN. Last year they took the kid, on a whim, to Cuba. They can DO that. They have the money for it and the KID for it. > > If we didn't have a shared history, if I didn't know all she's been through in her life and that this was not all just handed to her, if I didn't know that she doesn't ALWAYS take her life for granted...I'd totally hate her. > > She has an NT kid. I don't. > She's going to have another. I'm not. > Her husband makes 6 figures. Mine doesn't. > They have a huge house. I don't. > They have a new Explorer. ha! > They both have family in town. We don't. > The have family to babysit; she takes night classes all the time. We don't. > They can take their kid on vacation. We can't take ours to a stupid restaurant. > > Sometimes, even knowing what her life has been like and that she's had her share of really bad things happen to her, it is really hard to be her friend. > > <sigh> > > Jacquie > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2002 Report Share Posted February 9, 2002 > You are very lucky to have a friend. > When you're sad can you call her? > When you have a cool tv show on can you gossip? > When you're sad can you call her and invite her over for tea and cookies? From my own perspective, that is the problem. If I feel this way about my best friend, then I CANNOT call her when I'm sad because so much of my sadness comes from my comparing my life to hers, and I cannot gossip with her if I feel this way because it's so difficult to look at her straight, and I don't WANT her over for tea and cookies <?> when I'm this angry because although she doesn't deserve it, it's HER I'm angry at! Somedays, friends are just overrated. Like... I have a friend of mine in TX. Twin girls, 2 months older than mine. Absolutely charming, funny girls - the size of 9 year old children. Anyhow - - long story short, she sent their pictures into an agency and they just got hired to do a commercial. I am so happy for the twins <and my friend> because this is something good, but at the same time - - if I get one more e-mail about it, one more shot of their portfolio pictures - I think I might just scream loud enough to shatter my monitor. And it's the opposite problem. Her house is not nicer, her dh doesn't make more money, and etc etc - - but she has four TERRIFIC NT children. She smokes in front of her children, she yells like you would not believe, she goes off on the neighbors..... but she does have a heart of gold. Anyhow - - - what it comes down to is: she has four NT children, I have none. :o/ And I don't have anything to share in this friendship with her because I don't have anything comparable to " my kids are now models! " aside from maybe, " My kids can do 10 pc puzzles now!? " Grace Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2002 Report Share Posted February 10, 2002 I hear ya, Jacquie! But.....she doesn't get to go to PA to meet us! That is waaaayyyy better than Cancun! Tamara --- The Hunny Family wrote: > > You all know my best friend is pregnant and already > has one NT three-year-old, right? Well, she and her > dh just booked a holiday for the three of them, > leaving Tuesday -- for CANCUN. Last year they took > the kid, on a whim, to Cuba. They can DO that. > They have the money for it and the KID for it. > > If we didn't have a shared history, if I didn't know > all she's been through in her life and that this was > not all just handed to her, if I didn't know that > she doesn't ALWAYS take her life for granted...I'd > totally hate her. > > She has an NT kid. I don't. > She's going to have another. I'm not. > Her husband makes 6 figures. Mine doesn't. > They have a huge house. I don't. > They have a new Explorer. ha! > They both have family in town. We don't. > The have family to babysit; she takes night classes > all the time. We don't. > They can take their kid on vacation. We can't take > ours to a stupid restaurant. > > Sometimes, even knowing what her life has been like > and that she's had her share of really bad things > happen to her, it is really hard to be her friend. > > <sigh> > > Jacquie > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2002 Report Share Posted February 10, 2002 > When you're sad can you call her? Yes, but often she's out DOING things! > When you have a cool tv show on can you gossip? Nope. She doesn't like to be called at night. But we CAN talk books during the day for hours. > When you're sad can you call her and invite her over for tea and cookies? Nope. She lives 4 hours away in the city I used to live in. :-( My other best friend, also with an NT kid and pregnant, is equally busy and lives 2 hours away. :-( I don't have any friends here. Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2002 Report Share Posted February 10, 2002 > And she can't POSSIBLY be as intelligent as you! > <or can she?... in which case, please subscribe to > ihatemybestfriend > She IS!!!! AGGH! Jacquie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2002 Report Share Posted February 10, 2002 Absolutely!!!!! Tamara --- Penny wrote: > Well Jacquie, if this comes out sounding REALLY > crappy, it's not meant to, > LOL --- > > You must be an extraordinarilly wonderful friend and > person for someone who > has such a lovely life to continue to remain friends > with you. (see, sounds > insulting, is NOT meant to be...I think you know > what I mean....) > > Yes, everything she has is enviable, but guess > what...it could all be gone > in a second. Would you still be there for her then? > Yep...you would. > You'd probably be the first to offer consoling and > friendship.... > > Envy will destroy your soul, Jacquie....(and before > you tell me to get off > my high-horse, remember, I've BTDT.....) > > Oh, and BTW -YOU are LOVED AND ADMIRED by 202 > STRANGERS!!!! Is she? > > Penny :-) > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2002 Report Share Posted February 10, 2002 Oh, Jacquie..I know how you feel. has many classmates all with siblings the same age as ..2 years younger..every one of those kids are NT, every one of those kids are in the school district kindergarten..except ..it's not that I wish their kids were PDD/autistic or anything like that..but it's hard to take..I couldn't say this anyplace but here! Hugs, Mimi --- The Hunny Family wrote: > > You all know my best friend is pregnant and already > has one NT three-year-old, right? Well, she and her > dh just booked a holiday for the three of them, > leaving Tuesday -- for CANCUN. Last year they took > the kid, on a whim, to Cuba. They can DO that. > They have the money for it and the KID for it. > > If we didn't have a shared history, if I didn't know > all she's been through in her life and that this was > not all just handed to her, if I didn't know that > she doesn't ALWAYS take her life for granted...I'd > totally hate her. > > She has an NT kid. I don't. > She's going to have another. I'm not. > Her husband makes 6 figures. Mine doesn't. > They have a huge house. I don't. > They have a new Explorer. ha! > They both have family in town. We don't. > The have family to babysit; she takes night classes > all the time. We don't. > They can take their kid on vacation. We can't take > ours to a stupid restaurant. > > Sometimes, even knowing what her life has been like > and that she's had her share of really bad things > happen to her, it is really hard to be her friend. > > <sigh> > > Jacquie > > __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2002 Report Share Posted February 12, 2002 In a message dated 2/10/2002 11:20:18 AM Eastern Standard Time, vhunnius@... writes: > I don't have any friends here. > > Jacquie I don't have any friends here either. My husband use to be my best friend - I never would have guessed that things could change so rapidly. It's a good thing we have friends here G Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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