Re: The Reality Slap: How to Find Fulfilment When Life Hurts

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Russ,

Are you sure that we can't read your new book using iBooks?

The app handles ePub files with ease, as well as PDFs. I've written and

converted a couple stories using Scrivener and transferred them to iBooks via

iTunes.

Cheers,

Stan

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Hi Everyone,

>

> (My sincere apologies if you're in any way offended at this blatant

> advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it helpful rather

> than a nuisance.)

>

> I'm pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap - which is by

> far the best thing I've ever written - is now available through my website,

> and will be out in Australian bookstores from October 1st (price: $29.95).

> (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA bookstores - but the ebook is available

> now: see below).

>

> To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the introduction

> and first two chapters from here:

>

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Intro

> duction_ & _Chapters_1_and_2.pdf>

> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Ch

> apters_1_and_2.pdf

>

> I've also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called 'Exercises and Meditations from

> The Reality Slap', also now available from my website. There are eight

> tracks, mostly with themes around compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness,

> and loving-kindness.

>

> To launch the book and CD, we're doing a special promotion for this week

> only

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/specials> :

>

> We'll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just $33.95

> To purchase, click here:

> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_s

> pecial_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_

> book_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)>

>

> Or we'll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP $24.95),

> including all postage and packing, for only $49.95

> To purchase, click here:

> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_

> book_ & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)>

> & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

>

> Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them instantly, for

> only $24.95

> To purchase, click here:

> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_

> e-book_ & _mp3s_instant_download> & _mp3s_instant_download

>

> What's 'The Reality Slap' About?

> The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent

> it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major

> injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a

> job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or disaster. Sometimes it's

> a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or

> rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts! And

> most of us don't deal with the pain very well.

> Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts:

> not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of

> ACT, you'll discover how to:

>

> * find peace in the midst of your pain

> * find calm in the midst of your chaos

> * anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms

> * increase your sense of connection with yourself and others

> * use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion

> * find fulfilment even when you can't get what you want

> * heal your wounds, and come through stronger than before

>

> How Is This Book Different To My Others?

>

> Not only is this the best thing I've ever written, it's also, by far the

> most personal, including my own story about dealing with my son's diagnosis

> of autism. And while I've touched on self-compassion in my other books, in

> this book, self-compassion is the foundation on which everything else rests.

> Also, rather than following the traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I

> have based this book on the 'three Ps' of mindful living: Presence, Purpose

> and Privilege. This is the book I would recommend over and above all my

> others to anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption,

> crisis, or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or

> illness, and so on.

>

> I hope you find the book useful,

> All the best, Russ

>

>

>

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> .com.au & url=http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/> Visit our Website

>

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Russ,

Are you sure that we can't read your new book using iBooks?

The app handles ePub files with ease, as well as PDFs. I've written and

converted a couple stories using Scrivener and transferred them to iBooks via

iTunes.

Cheers,

Stan

>

>

>

>

>

>

> Hi Everyone,

>

> (My sincere apologies if you're in any way offended at this blatant

> advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it helpful rather

> than a nuisance.)

>

> I'm pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap - which is by

> far the best thing I've ever written - is now available through my website,

> and will be out in Australian bookstores from October 1st (price: $29.95).

> (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA bookstores - but the ebook is available

> now: see below).

>

> To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the introduction

> and first two chapters from here:

>

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Intro

> duction_ & _Chapters_1_and_2.pdf>

> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Ch

> apters_1_and_2.pdf

>

> I've also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called 'Exercises and Meditations from

> The Reality Slap', also now available from my website. There are eight

> tracks, mostly with themes around compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness,

> and loving-kindness.

>

> To launch the book and CD, we're doing a special promotion for this week

> only

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/specials> :

>

> We'll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just $33.95

> To purchase, click here:

> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_s

> pecial_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_

> book_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)>

>

> Or we'll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP $24.95),

> including all postage and packing, for only $49.95

> To purchase, click here:

> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_

> book_ & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)>

> & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

>

> Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them instantly, for

> only $24.95

> To purchase, click here:

> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_

> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet

> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_

> e-book_ & _mp3s_instant_download> & _mp3s_instant_download

>

> What's 'The Reality Slap' About?

> The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent

> it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major

> injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a

> job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or disaster. Sometimes it's

> a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or

> rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts! And

> most of us don't deal with the pain very well.

> Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts:

> not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of

> ACT, you'll discover how to:

>

> * find peace in the midst of your pain

> * find calm in the midst of your chaos

> * anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms

> * increase your sense of connection with yourself and others

> * use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion

> * find fulfilment even when you can't get what you want

> * heal your wounds, and come through stronger than before

>

> How Is This Book Different To My Others?

>

> Not only is this the best thing I've ever written, it's also, by far the

> most personal, including my own story about dealing with my son's diagnosis

> of autism. And while I've touched on self-compassion in my other books, in

> this book, self-compassion is the foundation on which everything else rests.

> Also, rather than following the traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I

> have based this book on the 'three Ps' of mindful living: Presence, Purpose

> and Privilege. This is the book I would recommend over and above all my

> others to anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption,

> crisis, or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or

> illness, and so on.

>

> I hope you find the book useful,

> All the best, Russ

>

>

>

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> .com.au & url=http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/> Visit our Website

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Hi Russ & friendsVery well done on getting a new book out - a great achievement. I'll look forward to it when out in UK, but in the meantime the opening chapters you posted resonate powerfully with me as a father. I'm glad you raised the stages of grief in the book, ending with acceptance, but I have two questions.1) Your son's diagnosis of autism was just the beginning. Autism has an incredibly wide spectrum, and so all you found out on that day was that he is on that spectrum somewhere. If your experience was anything like mine (my son isn't autistic but has other global learning difficulties) then every day brings new information and learning about your son's condition. I have

experienced death and grief, and I accepted with time quite easily, because what was there to struggle with? It's the end, it's fixed.So, my question, how do you accept something (eg your son's autism) that means something different everyday? A daily reality slap. (And a daily slap starts to feel a little like a beating). Doesn't every day feel like you are starting again, accepting something new?2) You saw lots of doctors who initially said that boys develop later and he'll be fine. Shit, do I know that one. I've been physically escorted out of one NHS building because they just would not listen. But that has had a long profound negative effect on me. I now presume things are worse than they are. My wife will say "he's not so severely impaired as you are making out,

listen to the experts telling us that". I say: "isn't that what why said at the beginning". My second question: how did you break free of those chains, or do you still presume that medical advice is always more optimistic than realistic?I guess these are big questions, so I should wait for the book.... Best wishes, xTo: ACT_for_the_Public ; 'acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy'

<acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy >; acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy_ANZO Sent: Tuesday, 20 September 2011, 12:57Subject: The Reality Slap: How to Find Fulfilment When Life Hurts

Hi Everyone,(My sincere apologies if you’re in any way offended at this blatant advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it helpful rather than a nuisance.) I’m pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap – which is by far the best thing I’ve ever written – is now available through my website, and will be out in Australian bookstores from October 1st (price: $29.95). (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA bookstores – but the ebook is available now: see below).To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the introduction and first two chapters from here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Chapters_1_and_2.pdfI’ve also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called ‘Exercises and Meditations from The Reality Slap’, also now available from my website. There are eight tracks, mostly with themes around compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness, and loving-kindness.To launch the book and CD, we’re doing a special promotion for this week only:We’ll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just $33.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)Or we’ll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP $24.95), including all postage and packing, for only $49.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_ & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them instantly, for only $24.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_ & _mp3s_instant_downloadWhat’s ‘The Reality Slap’ About? The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or

disaster. Sometimes it's a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts! And most of us don't deal with the pain very well. Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts: not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of ACT, you'll discover how to:find peace in the midst of your pain find calm in the midst of your chaos anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms increase your sense of connection with yourself and others use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion find fulfilment even when you can't get what you want heal your wounds, and come through

stronger than before How Is This Book Different To My Others?Not only is this the best thing I’ve ever written, it’s also, by far the most personal, including my own story about dealing with my son’s diagnosis of autism. And while I’ve touched on self-compassion in my other books, in this book, self-compassion is the foundation on which everything else rests. Also, rather than following the traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I have based this book on the ‘three Ps’ of mindful living: Presence, Purpose and Privilege. This is the book I would recommend over and above all my others to anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption, crisis, or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or illness, and so on.I hope you find the book useful, All the best, Russ

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Hi Russ & friendsVery well done on getting a new book out - a great achievement. I'll look forward to it when out in UK, but in the meantime the opening chapters you posted resonate powerfully with me as a father. I'm glad you raised the stages of grief in the book, ending with acceptance, but I have two questions.1) Your son's diagnosis of autism was just the beginning. Autism has an incredibly wide spectrum, and so all you found out on that day was that he is on that spectrum somewhere. If your experience was anything like mine (my son isn't autistic but has other global learning difficulties) then every day brings new information and learning about your son's condition. I have

experienced death and grief, and I accepted with time quite easily, because what was there to struggle with? It's the end, it's fixed.So, my question, how do you accept something (eg your son's autism) that means something different everyday? A daily reality slap. (And a daily slap starts to feel a little like a beating). Doesn't every day feel like you are starting again, accepting something new?2) You saw lots of doctors who initially said that boys develop later and he'll be fine. Shit, do I know that one. I've been physically escorted out of one NHS building because they just would not listen. But that has had a long profound negative effect on me. I now presume things are worse than they are. My wife will say "he's not so severely impaired as you are making out,

listen to the experts telling us that". I say: "isn't that what why said at the beginning". My second question: how did you break free of those chains, or do you still presume that medical advice is always more optimistic than realistic?I guess these are big questions, so I should wait for the book.... Best wishes, xTo: ACT_for_the_Public ; 'acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy'

<acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy >; acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy_ANZO Sent: Tuesday, 20 September 2011, 12:57Subject: The Reality Slap: How to Find Fulfilment When Life Hurts

Hi Everyone,(My sincere apologies if you’re in any way offended at this blatant advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it helpful rather than a nuisance.) I’m pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap – which is by far the best thing I’ve ever written – is now available through my website, and will be out in Australian bookstores from October 1st (price: $29.95). (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA bookstores – but the ebook is available now: see below).To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the introduction and first two chapters from here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Chapters_1_and_2.pdfI’ve also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called ‘Exercises and Meditations from The Reality Slap’, also now available from my website. There are eight tracks, mostly with themes around compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness, and loving-kindness.To launch the book and CD, we’re doing a special promotion for this week only:We’ll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just $33.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)Or we’ll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP $24.95), including all postage and packing, for only $49.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_ & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them instantly, for only $24.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_ & _mp3s_instant_downloadWhat’s ‘The Reality Slap’ About? The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or

disaster. Sometimes it's a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts! And most of us don't deal with the pain very well. Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts: not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of ACT, you'll discover how to:find peace in the midst of your pain find calm in the midst of your chaos anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms increase your sense of connection with yourself and others use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion find fulfilment even when you can't get what you want heal your wounds, and come through

stronger than before How Is This Book Different To My Others?Not only is this the best thing I’ve ever written, it’s also, by far the most personal, including my own story about dealing with my son’s diagnosis of autism. And while I’ve touched on self-compassion in my other books, in this book, self-compassion is the foundation on which everything else rests. Also, rather than following the traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I have based this book on the ‘three Ps’ of mindful living: Presence, Purpose and Privilege. This is the book I would recommend over and above all my others to anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption, crisis, or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or illness, and so on.I hope you find the book useful, All the best, Russ

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To: "ACT for the Public" <ACT_for_the_Public >Sent: Tuesday, September 20, 2011 6:45:24 PMSubject: Re: The Reality Slap: How to Find Fulfilment When Life Hurts

The word "slap" feels a bit crude and over the top, but maybe good for sales.Good luck with your new book.>> > > > > > Hi Everyone,> > (My sincere apologies if you're in any way offended at this blatant> advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it helpful rather> than a nuisance.) > > I'm pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap - which is by> far the best thing I've ever written - is now available through my website,> and will be out in Australian bookstores from October 1st (price: $29.95).> (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA bookstores - but the ebook is available> now: see below).> > To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the introduction> and first two chapters from here: > > <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Intro> duction_ & _Chapters_1_and_2.pdf>> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Ch> apters_1_and_2.pdf> > I've also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called 'Exercises and Meditations from> The Reality Slap', also now available from my website. There are eight> tracks, mostly with themes around compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness,> and loving-kindness.> > To launch the book and CD, we're doing a special promotion for this week> only> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/specials> :> > We'll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just $33.95 > To purchase, click here:> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_s> pecial_price_includes_postage_and_packing)> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_> book_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)> > > Or we'll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP $24.95),> including all postage and packing, for only $49.95 > To purchase, click here:> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_> book_ & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)>> & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)> > Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them instantly, for> only $24.95 > To purchase, click here:> http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_> <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet> .com.au & url=http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_> e-book_ & _mp3s_instant_download> & _mp3s_instant_download> > What's 'The Reality Slap' About? > The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent> it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major> injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a> job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or disaster. Sometimes it's> a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or> rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts! And> most of us don't deal with the pain very well. > Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts:> not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of> ACT, you'll discover how to:> > * find peace in the midst of your pain > * find calm in the midst of your chaos > * anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms > * increase your sense of connection with yourself and others > * use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion > * find fulfilment even when you can't get what you want > * heal your wounds, and come through stronger than before > > How Is This Book Different To My Others?> > Not only is this the best thing I've ever written, it's also, by far the> most personal, including my own story about dealing with my son's diagnosis> of autism. And while I've touched on self-compassion in my other books, in> this book, self-compassion is the foundation on which everything else rests.> Also, rather than following the traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I> have based this book on the 'three Ps' of mindful living: Presence, Purpose> and Privilege. This is the book I would recommend over and above all my> others to anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption,> crisis, or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or> illness, and so on.> > I hope you find the book useful, > All the best, Russ > > > > <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet> .com.au & url=http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/> Visit our Website> > > <http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/redir.asp?mlID=379 & user=russharris@optusnet> .com.au & url=http://www.thehappinesstrap.com/unssub.asp?auth=4584 & email=russh> arris%40optusnet%2Ecom%2Eau> Unsubscribe>

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" Doesn't every day feel like you are starting again, accepting something new? " Isn't that inevitable?D

 

Hi Russ & friendsVery well done on getting a new book out - a great achievement.  I'll look forward to it when out in UK, but in the meantime the opening chapters you posted resonate powerfully with me as a father.  I'm glad you raised the stages of grief in the book, ending with acceptance, but I have two questions.

1)  Your son's diagnosis of autism was just the beginning.  Autism has an incredibly wide spectrum, and so all you found out on that day was that he is on that spectrum somewhere.  If your experience was anything like mine (my son isn't autistic but has other global learning difficulties) then every day brings new information and learning about your son's condition.  I have

experienced death and grief, and I accepted with time quite easily, because what was there to struggle with?  It's the end, it's fixed.So, my question, how do you accept something (eg your son's autism) that means something different everyday? A daily reality slap.  (And a daily slap starts to feel a little like a beating). 

Doesn't every day feel like you are starting again, accepting something new?2)  You saw lots of doctors who initially said that boys develop later and he'll be fine.  Shit, do I know that one.  I've been physically escorted out of one NHS building because they just would not listen.  But that has had a long profound negative effect on me.  I now presume things are worse than they are.  My wife will say " he's not so severely impaired as you are making out,

listen to the experts telling us that " .  I say: " isn't that what why said at the beginning " .  My second question: how did you break free of those chains, or do you still presume that medical advice is always more optimistic than realistic?

I guess these are big questions, so I should wait for the book.... Best wishes, x

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Hi Everyone,(My sincere apologies if you’re in any way offended at this blatant advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it helpful rather than a nuisance.)

I’m pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap – which is by far the best thing I’ve ever written – is now available through my website, and will be out in Australian bookstores from October 1st (price: $29.95). (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA bookstores – but the ebook is available now: see below).

To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the introduction and first two chapters from here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Chapters_1_and_2.pdf

I’ve also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called ‘Exercises and Meditations from The Reality Slap’, also now available from my website. There are eight tracks, mostly with themes around compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness, and loving-kindness.

To launch the book and CD, we’re doing a special promotion for this week only:

We’ll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just $33.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

Or we’ll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP $24.95), including all postage and packing, for only $49.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_ & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them instantly, for only $24.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_ & _mp3s_instant_download

What’s ‘The Reality Slap’ About? The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or

disaster. Sometimes it's a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts!  And most of us don't deal with the pain very well.

Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts: not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of ACT, you'll discover how to:

find peace in the midst of your pain find calm in the midst of your chaos

anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms increase your sense of connection with yourself and others

use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion find fulfilment even when you can't get what you want

heal your wounds, and come through

stronger than before How Is This Book Different To My Others?Not only is this the best thing I’ve ever written, it’s also, by far the most personal, including my own story about dealing with my son’s diagnosis of autism. And while I’ve touched on self-compassion in my other books, in this book, self-compassion is the foundation on which everything else rests. Also, rather than following the traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I have based this book on the ‘three Ps’ of mindful living: Presence, Purpose and Privilege. This is the book I would recommend over and above all my others to anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption, crisis, or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or illness, and so on.

I hope you find the book useful, All the best, Russ

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"Doesn't every day feel like you are starting again, accepting something new?"Isn't that inevitable?D

Hi Russ & friendsVery well done on getting a new book out - a great achievement. I'll look forward to it when out in UK, but in the meantime the opening chapters you posted resonate powerfully with me as a father. I'm glad you raised the stages of grief in the book, ending with acceptance, but I have two questions.

1) Your son's diagnosis of autism was just the beginning. Autism has an incredibly wide spectrum, and so all you found out on that day was that he is on that spectrum somewhere. If your experience was anything like mine (my son isn't autistic but has other global learning difficulties) then every day brings new information and learning about your son's condition. I have

experienced death and grief, and I accepted with time quite easily, because what was there to struggle with? It's the end, it's fixed.So, my question, how do you accept something (eg your son's autism) that means something different everyday? A daily reality slap. (And a daily slap starts to feel a little like a beating).

Doesn't every day feel like you are starting again, accepting something new?2) You saw lots of doctors who initially said that boys develop later and he'll be fine. Shit, do I know that one. I've been physically escorted out of one NHS building because they just would not listen. But that has had a long profound negative effect on me. I now presume things are worse than they are. My wife will say "he's not so severely impaired as you are making out,

listen to the experts telling us that". I say: "isn't that what why said at the beginning". My second question: how did you break free of those chains, or do you still presume that medical advice is always more optimistic than realistic?

I guess these are big questions, so I should wait for the book.... Best wishes, x

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<acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy >; acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy_ANZO

Sent: Tuesday, 20 September 2011, 12:57Subject: The Reality Slap: How to Find Fulfilment When Life Hurts

Hi Everyone,(My sincere apologies if you’re in any way offended at this blatant advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it helpful rather than a nuisance.)

I’m pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap – which is by far the best thing I’ve ever written – is now available through my website, and will be out in Australian bookstores from October 1st (price: $29.95). (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA bookstores – but the ebook is available now: see below).

To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the introduction and first two chapters from here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Chapters_1_and_2.pdf

I’ve also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called ‘Exercises and Meditations from The Reality Slap’, also now available from my website. There are eight tracks, mostly with themes around compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness, and loving-kindness.

To launch the book and CD, we’re doing a special promotion for this week only:

We’ll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just $33.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

Or we’ll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP $24.95), including all postage and packing, for only $49.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_ & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them instantly, for only $24.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_ & _mp3s_instant_download

What’s ‘The Reality Slap’ About? The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or

disaster. Sometimes it's a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts! And most of us don't deal with the pain very well.

Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts: not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of ACT, you'll discover how to:

find peace in the midst of your pain find calm in the midst of your chaos

anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms increase your sense of connection with yourself and others

use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion find fulfilment even when you can't get what you want

heal your wounds, and come through

stronger than before How Is This Book Different To My Others?Not only is this the best thing I’ve ever written, it’s also, by far the most personal, including my own story about dealing with my son’s diagnosis of autism. And while I’ve touched on self-compassion in my other books, in this book, self-compassion is the foundation on which everything else rests. Also, rather than following the traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I have based this book on the ‘three Ps’ of mindful living: Presence, Purpose and Privilege. This is the book I would recommend over and above all my others to anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption, crisis, or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or illness, and so on.

I hope you find the book useful, All the best, Russ

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Hi ,Yes, these are big questions, hopefully answered in the book. As for medical advice, it’s always worth getting a second opinion (or third) for anything really serious; no doctor or psychologist knows everything. Some are overly pessimistic, some are overly optimistic, and some are just quite ignorant in the specific area you are most interested in. All the best,Cheers, Russ www.actmindfully.com.auwww.thehappinesstrap.com From: ACT_for_the_Public [mailto:ACT_for_the_Public ] On Behalf Of RobsonSent: Wednesday, 21 September 2011 6:50 PMTo: ACT_for_the_Public Subject: Re: The Reality Slap: How to Find Fulfilment When Life Hurts Hi Russ & friends Very well done on getting a new book out - a great achievement. I'll look forward to it when out in UK, but in the meantime the opening chapters you posted resonate powerfully with me as a father. I'm glad you raised the stages of grief in the book, ending with acceptance, but I have two questions. 1) Your son's diagnosis of autism was just the beginning. Autism has an incredibly wide spectrum, and so all you found out on that day was that he is on that spectrum somewhere. If your experience was anything like mine (my son isn't autistic but has other global learning difficulties) then every day brings new information and learning about your son's condition. I have experienced death and grief, and I accepted with time quite easily, because what was there to struggle with? It's the end, it's fixed. So, my question, how do you accept something (eg your son's autism) that means something different everyday? A daily reality slap. (And a daily slap starts to feel a little like a beating). Doesn't every day feel like you are starting again, accepting something new? 2) You saw lots of doctors who initially said that boys develop later and he'll be fine. Shit, do I know that one. I've been physically escorted out of one NHS building because they just would not listen. But that has had a long profound negative effect on me. I now presume things are worse than they are. My wife will say " he's not so severely impaired as you are making out, listen to the experts telling us that " . I say: " isn't that what why said at the beginning " . My second question: how did you break free of those chains, or do you still presume that medical advice is always more optimistic than realistic? I guess these are big questions, so I should wait for the book.... Best wishes, x To: ACT_for_the_Public ; 'acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy' <acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy >; acceptanceandcommitmenttherapy_ANZO Sent: Tuesday, 20 September 2011, 12:57Subject: The Reality Slap: How to Find Fulfilment When Life Hurts Hi Everyone,(My sincere apologies if you’re in any way offended at this blatant advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it helpful rather than a nuisance.) I’m pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap – which is by far the best thing I’ve ever written – is now available through my website, and will be out in Australian bookstores from October 1st (price: $29.95). (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA bookstores – but the ebook is available now: see below).To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the introduction and first two chapters from here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Chapters_1_and_2.pdfI’ve also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called ‘Exercises and Meditations from The Reality Slap’, also now available from my website. There are eight tracks, mostly with themes around compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness, and loving-kindness.To launch the book and CD, we’re doing a special promotion for this week only:We’ll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just $33.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)Or we’ll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP $24.95), including all postage and packing, for only $49.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_ & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them instantly, for only $24.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_ & _mp3s_instant_downloadWhat’s ‘The Reality Slap’ About? The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or disaster. Sometimes it's a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts! And most of us don't deal with the pain very well. Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts: not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of ACT, you'll discover how to:find peace in the midst of your pain find calm in the midst of your chaos anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms increase your sense of connection with yourself and others use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion find fulfilment even when you can't get what you want heal your wounds, and come through stronger than before How Is This Book Different To My Others?Not only is this the best thing I’ve ever written, it’s also, by far the most personal, including my own story about dealing with my son’s diagnosis of autism. And while I’ve touched on self-compassion in my other books, in this book, self-compassion is the foundation on which everything else rests. Also, rather than following the traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I have based this book on the ‘three Ps’ of mindful living: Presence, Purpose and Privilege. This is the book I would recommend over and above all my others to anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption, crisis, or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or illness, and so on.I hope you find the book useful, All the best, Russ Visit our WebsiteUnsubscribe

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I'd like to buy the e-book of the Reality Slap but when I check out, the form implies I'm buying a workshop attendance and looks really oriented towards Australia. Is this really the correct form to download the book?Thanks,Bruce Hi Everyone,(My sincere apologies if you’re in any way offended at this blatant advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it helpful rather than a nuisance.)I’m pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap – which is by far the best thing I’ve ever written – is now available through my website, and will be out in Australian bookstores from October 1st (price: $29.95). (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA bookstores – but the ebook is available now: see below).To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the introduction and first two chapters from here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Chapters_1_and_2.pdfI’ve also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called ‘Exercises and Meditations from The Reality Slap’, also now available from my website. There are eight tracks, mostly with themes around compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness, and loving-kindness.To launch the book and CD, we’re doing a special promotion for this week only:We’ll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just $33.95 To purchase, click here:http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)Or we’ll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP $24.95), including all postage and packing, for only $49.95 To purchase, click here:http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_ & _cd_(this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them instantly, for only $24.95 To purchase, click here: http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_ & _mp3s_instant_downloadWhat’s ‘The Reality Slap’ About? The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so violent it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious illness, a major injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a disabled child, the loss of a job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire, flood, divorce or disaster. Sometimes it's a little gentler: envy, loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or rejection. But whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts! And most of us don't deal with the pain very well. Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life hurts: not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven principles of ACT, you'll discover how to:find peace in the midst of your painfind calm in the midst of your chaosanchor yourself in the midst of emotional stormsincrease your sense of connection with yourself and othersuse your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassionfind fulfilment even when you can't get what you wantheal your wounds, and come through stronger than beforeHow Is This Book Different To My Others?Not only is this the best thing I’ve ever written, it’s also, by far the most personal, including my own story about dealing with my son’s diagnosis of autism. And while I’ve touched on self-compassion in my other books, in this book, self-compassion is the foundation on which everything else rests. Also, rather than following the traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I have based this book on the ‘three Ps’ of mindful living: Presence, Purpose and Privilege. This is the book I would recommend over and above all my others to anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption, crisis, or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or illness, and so on.I hope you find the book useful, All the best, Russ Visit our WebsiteUnsubscribe

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I don't know about the Australian issue (as I am in Australia anyway) but when I

went through the checkout it did refer to workshop attendance stuff, so that is

ok.

Kate

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> >

> >

> >

> > Hi Everyone,

> >

> > (My sincere apologies if you're in any way offended at this blatant

> > advertisement; I hope, however, that most of you will find it

> > helpful rather than a nuisance.)

> >

> > I'm pleased to announce that my latest book, The Reality Slap –

> > which is by far the best thing I've ever written – is now available

> > through my website, and will be out in Australian bookstores from

> > October 1st (price: $29.95). (Not until March 2012 in UK and USA

> > bookstores – but the ebook is available now: see below).

> >

> > To get a sense of what this book is about, you can download the

> > introduction and first two chapters from here:

> >

http://www.actmindfully.com.au/upimages/The_Reality_Slap_-_Introduction_ & _Chapte\

rs_1_and_2.pdf

> >

> > I've also recorded a new CD (and MP3) called `Exercises and

> > Meditations from The Reality Slap', also now available from my

> > website. There are eight tracks, mostly with themes around

> > compassion, self-compassion, forgiveness, and loving-kindness.

> >

> > To launch the book and CD, we're doing a special promotion for this

> > week only:

> >

> > We'll send you the book, including all postage and packing, for just

> > $33.95

> > To purchase, click

here:http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_(this_\

special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

> >

> > Or we'll send you both the book (RRP $29.95) and the CD (RRP

> > $24.95), including all postage and packing, for only $49.95

> > To purchase, click

here:http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_book_ & _cd_(\

this_special_price_includes_postage_and_packing)

> >

> > Or you can purchase the e-book and the MP3, and download them

> > instantly, for only $24.95

> > To purchase, click here:

http://www.actmindfully.com.au/launch_special:_the_reality_slap_e-book_ & _mp3s_in\

stant_download

> >

> > What's `The Reality Slap' About?

> > The 'reality slap' takes many different forms. Sometimes it is so

> > violent it's more like a punch: the death of a loved one, a serious

> > illness, a major injury, a freak accident, a shocking crime, a

> > disabled child, the loss of a job; bankruptcy, betrayal, fire,

> > flood, divorce or disaster. Sometimes it's a little gentler: envy,

> > loneliness, resentment, failure, disappointment or rejection. But

> > whatever form it takes, one thing's for sure: it hurts! And most of

> > us don't deal with the pain very well.

> > Within these pages, you will learn how to cope effectively when life

> > hurts: not just how to survive, but how to thrive. Using the proven

> > principles of ACT, you'll discover how to:

> >

> > find peace in the midst of your pain

> > find calm in the midst of your chaos

> > anchor yourself in the midst of emotional storms

> > increase your sense of connection with yourself and others

> > use your painful emotions to cultivate wisdom and compassion

> > find fulfilment even when you can't get what you want

> > heal your wounds, and come through stronger than before

> > How Is This Book Different To My Others?

> >

> > Not only is this the best thing I've ever written, it's also, by far

> > the most personal, including my own story about dealing with my

> > son's diagnosis of autism. And while I've touched on self-compassion

> > in my other books, in this book, self-compassion is the foundation

> > on which everything else rests. Also, rather than following the

> > traditional ACT framework of the hexaflex, I have based this book on

> > the `three Ps' of mindful living: Presence, Purpose and Privilege.

> > This is the book I would recommend over and above all my others to

> > anyone who is coming to terms with a major life disruption, crisis,

> > or trauma: death, divorce, bankruptcy, job loss, serious injury or

> > illness, and so on.

> >

> > I hope you find the book useful,

> > All the best, Russ

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