Re: Re:Sense of self- a possession not a person.

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awww, I bet you love them very much

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> Used to have a black lab dog. Now have mixed yellow lab.

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> To: WTOAdultChildren1@...: girlscout.cowboy@...:

> Tue, 29 Apr 2008 12:26:52 -0600Subject: Re: Re:Sense of

> self- a possession not a person.

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> I see your e-mail is Lab lover - do you have pets? my online name is my

> dogsnames - girlscout and cowboy.On 4/29/08, S <

> lablovers28@...> wrote:>>> My Nada is so totally crazy. Her

> actions almost ruined my life (a very> long story). The good thing is when I

> was 22 I married my now husband> (married in 1985, soon for 23 years). Once

> I moved out from Nada's house, I> began to see just how sick she is and I

> finally started to live a normal> life. You know, when you live under the

> same roof with someone with BPD> you're enmeshed, you're part of their

> " little world of craziness. " >>> To:

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> girlscout.cowboy@... <girlscout.cowboy%40gmail.comDate>: Tue,

> 29> Apr 2008 12:13:10 -0600Subject: Re: Re:Sense of

> self- a> possession not a person.>>>>> Holy! That is terrible. I'm glad that

> you shared and I hope it helps to> getit off your chest. that is horrible. I

> would have called the cops for> you,I'm sorry no one did.gsOn 4/29/08,

> S <lablovers28@...<lablovers28%40hotmail.com>>> wrote:>>> Here is

> the most terrible thing that ever happened to me in my> life. Nada> was so

> obsessed about sex being " dirty, " those who did it were> " whores and>

> sluts, " etc. etc. Anyway, in the spring of my senior year in> high school

> our> German Club was going on a trip to an amusement park and we> were all

> riding> in vans the school rented. My teacher ended up calling Nada> up and

> asking> her and Fada to chaperone this trip as they needed another>

> driver/chaperone> and they accepted. Well, on a Friday after school we left>

> and drove out of> state to this amusement park and stayed at a motel>

> overnight, we were going> to the park the next day. I got assigned to stay>

> in the room right next door> to Nada & Fada, in a room with 3 other girls.>

> Anyway, kids being kids in a> motel, we were all having fun, of course. 2

> of> the girls went to bed early> on and were asleep. A 3rd girl and I stayed

> up> late talking. This girl had a> medication she had to take but needed>

> something to drink to take the med, so> the 2 of us went outside our motel>

> room to look for a soda machine - we had> on our night gowns at the time.

> It> was late on a Friday night, school kids> at a motel, we just went down

> the> hall to look for a soda machine,> completely innocent. When she and I

> got> back to our motel room (remember> nada & fada were right next door),

> Nada> heard us at the door trying to open> our lock with the room key, she

> opened> up her door and saw me and this other> girl in our nightgowns,

> GRABBED ME BY> THE ARM, pulled me into her room, and> she and Fada started

> beating me up!!!> First she was smacking me in the face,> pulling my hair,

> beating me all over> my body, calling me a whore, a slut, a> bitch, " you

> little whore, " - all> because of being outside at night in a> nightgown (my

> boyfriend was also on> this school trip and staying in another> room, guess

> she thought I was with> him or something). Never gave me a chance> to

> explain, was beating me,> loudly, then threw me across the room and I>

> landed on an end table and> broke a lamp. Then fada also grabbed me and>

> started beating me around the> room (he is so enmeshed with nada it's not>

> even funny, he believes all her> hysteria, craziness, is really taken in by>

> it. He is so worn down after> being married to her for so long). When they>

> finally stopped beating me> they allowed me to go back to my own motel

> room.> My friend who went to soda> machine with me, she actually HEARD them

> beating> me - said it was loud, you> could hear it thru the walls. Imagine

> how I felt,> a senior in high school> ready to graduate, 17, being beaten

> like that on a> school trip and all the> other kids probably heard the

> beating and knew what> was going on???? I have> not been able to talk about

> this thing until> recently when I told my> husband & kids, they couldn't

> believe it. Someone> could have called the> police on nada & fada and they

> could have been charged> with assault!!> (although this was back in 1981,

> things were different then,> police> probably wouldn't have believed me but

> might have sided with nada).>>>>

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